4. Asking him how he feels -- especially asking him how he feels about you or the relationship. 

5. Inviting him to come and join you, or in any way acting like the social director of the relationship. 

At first glance, these actions might seem completely harmless. In fact, you may feel that he'll just see you as being friendly and want to get closer to you. But doing any of these things shifts you into masculine energy and makes you the pursuer in the relationship. When a man feels even a little bit pursued, he'll feel he doesn't have to work so hard to win you over and will immediately drop his efforts. 

It's important to understand that the urge to chase him in this manner comes from fear: feeling like we're going to lose him by not letting him know we're interested in him. But nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, whenever you initiate courtship you are sending the message that you might be insecure about losing him, and this will make you appear less attractive to him. He feels smothered and feels an aggressive vibe from you that does nothing to inspire him to want to get closer.