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How to Create a Romantic Valentine's Day Bedroom Using Your 5 Senses
If you are looking for a fun and exciting way to spice up your bedroom when the most romantic night of the year rolls around, why not start with your five senses? Creating a sensory, romantic ambiance with your five senses is sure to put an exclamation point at the end of your Valentine's Day.{relatedarticles}

Smell

Let's start with your sense of smell because this is usually the first thing we are aware of when we enter a room. It's really easy to create a romantic aroma in our bedroom because there is an endless array of aromatherapy candles and incense.

So pick your favorite scented candle(s) and light it up! We are, after all, still mammals, and our sense of smell triggers all sorts of chemical reactions in the brain that arouse our sensuality.


Sight
As we enjoy a romantic aroma in our bedroom, we (almost) simultaneously take in the sights of our surroundings. When you are creating a romantic setting, romantic lighting is an absolute must! My preference is to keep all electrical lights off and use only candles. But you might prefer the effervescent glow of a salt crystal lamp or the dimness of light provided by putting a pink shade or scarf over your lampshade. {relatedarticles}

Touch

Tactile stimulation, more commonly referred to as touch, is essential for putting us in a romantic mood. Therefore, I suggest cozy pillows, soft silky sheets, and maybe a fuzzy throw rug. But the crown in the jewel here is rose petals sprinkled on and around the bed!


Sound
Now who doesn't love a little music to create a romantic ambiance in your bedroom? It doesn't matter who your favorite recording artist is, have background music playing in your bedroom at a soft low volume. Remember, you don't want to have to yell over the music to have a conversation with your partner. If you are not a music lover, try having the sound of ocean waves breaking on the shore - or anything that relaxes you and gets you in the mood.{relatedarticles}

Taste

Have a bottle of wine and/or champagne chilling by the bedside along with some chocolates and/or chocolate covered strawberries - you get the idea. Chocolate is known to be an aphrodisiac so that is why I suggest it, but any type of your favorite food and/or drinks will do.

There are plenty more ways you can use your five senses to create a romantic bedroom ambiance. Whatever puts an exclamation point on the end of your Valentine's Day (night) is a go!

About The Author

During the past 25 years, renowned relationship expert Dr. Patty Ann Tublin has helped hundreds of people rekindle romance and reignite passion in their relationships. The solutions in her Relationship ToolboxTM help couples stop fighting, and re-build romance so intimacy inside and outside the bedroom can flourish. Through her successful 25-year marriage and her experience of raising 4 children, Dr. Patty Ann has earned an international reputation for saving relationships. To reignite your flames of passion, visit her site at www.drpattyann.com.

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Can Sensual Massage Break the Barrier of Silence Between Couples?

Can sensual massage break the barrier of silence between couples? Silence or lack of communication is attributed as one of the reasons for breaking up a marriage. The increasing cases of separation and divorce point to lack of bonding and communication between couple which earlier generations had. It wasn't a lack of time that previous generations had, but the will to explore the partners with massage techniques that kept the marriages alive. {relatedarticles}

While there are many types of massage with many therapeutic benefits the erotic or sensual massage is recommended for couples who are deprived of marital bliss.

What is a sensual massage?


It isn't just kneading muscles and pressing those joints, it's an art and science being practiced from times immemorial to forge closeness between partners. Of late it has evolved into more of an art embodying passion and lovemaking.{relatedarticles}

It is actually not just a massage but much more than that - and was practiced since long times by kings and the queens and even common people for many reasons. The art has been followed in many lands and followed by people of several cultures and races, from Africa, India and China to the Celts to the Greeks, for centuries.

While a general masseur gives a massage that can help release from bodily pains and aches, a sensual massage can be given by a loved one and can build stronger bonding between couple while it can also relieve stress.


Why was sensual massage popular with people of many cultures and races?

The massage offers innumerable benefits for those that give,  likewise that receive. The benefits immensely bolster the connection the partners share.{relatedarticles}

It should be remembered that the sensual massage doesn't merely involve kneading the muscles; it's an experience and involves perfect blend of several elements from preparation to the pressure points. Then coming to the massage part, which is about how to touch and where to touch -- it's more than just that physical touch.

It doesn't have to start with a preparation according to some; the massage can start incidentally as some pranks, jokes and play but  transition to serious sensual massage and then end in sex.

Benefits of this type of massage

Sensual massage can be erotic. It kind of evokes the sleeping senses. The massage can deliver message of promise from the giver that they are bound to them and it can help in shedding of inhibitions during the process of lovemaking.


The massage can release a person from joint aches and pains and releases the knotted nerves.

It gives the recipient a sense of emotional security that no other massage can give.{relatedarticles}

The massage acts as a precursor to romantic adventures for couples.

Sensual massage acts as another mode of communication without words but conveying the language of hearts.

There are many types of sensual massage such as lingam massage, tantra or the tantric massage, yoni massage, etc.

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Most massage parlors offer some form of the sensual massage, and the terminology used differs from parlor to parlor. Often times, the parlors may alternate the term with Lingam massage, or Yoni massage. To know more information on massage types feel free to visit the link: http://www.wikidult.com/RedPages/Massage.html

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After Infidelity: Make up or Break up

Relevance Info Services, an international publisher of quality information, approached me as an expert in relationship issues with the question if I could evaluate a number of websites that offer methods and tips for saving relationships and prevent a divorce. The fact is that, with respect for all the well meant kind of information, there are many offerings on the internet that are not based upon psychological principals. A lot of the presented materials cause more harm than any good. It is not composed by experts and that's certainly not what you want. If you are in serious trouble the situation demands a professional approach by people that are very experienced in solving relationship issues.{relatedarticles}

 

This article is about what to do after infidelity.

Iinfidelity is a betrayal, a loss of trust. It is lying or disloyalty to one's partner or lover. Infidelity may be sexual or emotional in nature and typically involves a third person. Infidelity does not necessarily involve physical separation, but can be characterized by emotional detachment as well. Emotional detachment can happen when you lose your partner's trust or if you lie to your partner or tell them half-truths. Betraying your partner may inflict a deep pain that is difficult to repair and sometimes causes irrevocable damage to the relationship that hastens its end. There are many things that can occur in the wake of infidelity. If you are married, infidelity could lead to divorce. If you are in a committed relationship, it could lead to a break up.


So what happens after infidelity occurs in your relationship?

There are distinct stages a relationship goes through in the wake of infidelity.

1. Roller Coaster Stage. This is the stage where strong emotions arise - emotions such as anger and self-blame followed by a period of introspection and appreciation of the relationship. Just like it says, your emotions go for a roller coaster ride, up and down, round and round and it's a bit hard to figure out exactly where you are.{relatedarticles}

2. Moratorium Stage. This stage is a less emotional stage, at least for the person who was cheated upon. In this stage, the person affected tries to make sense of the betrayal. They may ask for more detail about the affair or retreat into themselves or quietly seek help from others regarding the issue.

3. Trust Building Stage. This stage takes place when the couple has decided to stay together. During this stage, the couple really tries to make their marriage work. They decide that a continued commitment to their relationship is important and with time, eventually forgiveness and trust can be achieved.

After an infidelity occurs, you may still find yourself often doubting your partner. Don't lose heart, there is hope. Here are some signs that may indicate if a person is still worthy of your love.


- Expresses sincere remorse and regret for cheating on you

- Heartfelt apologies feel true when you hear them

- Accepts total blame for his or her betrayal

- Cuts off all contact with the third party

- Shows a renewed appreciation, admiration, respect and devotion to only you{relatedarticles}

- Displays a willingness and openness to talk about what happened

- Is willing and eager to go into marriage counseling with you

If both of you are willing to participate in a deep, open, and honest conversation regarding your relationship and how you would like it to progress, there is a good chance you will be able to work through your issues.

If, on the other hand, your partner is not open to discussing these things with you and not demonstrating any of the possible reconcilement signs listed above, it may be time to cut your losses and get out. Additional signs that it might be time to end the relationship are: your partner seems to be more agitated than usual and seems to emotionally and physically withdraw from you.


They may go out alone more often and may be making clandestine phone calls or working late hours. You might even receive anonymous phone calls at the house. If several of these things are occurring, then most probably your partner is cheating on you. If you can find concrete evidence of this infidelity, then it's probably a good idea to break up. A relationship that is based on lies, lacks trust and lack of commitment is doomed to fail.{relatedarticles}

After an infidelity occurs, be aware of any signs that may indicate your partner's willingness to stay and work it out or clear intention to follow along the path of continued betrayal. Just be careful and pay attention. Make the best decision for you.

About The Author

I would be pleased to guide you in the process after infidelity or go to http://stop-a-divorce-info.com.

This article was written by expert author Ruth Martin for Relevance Info Services

The author invites you to visit: http://stop-a-divorce-info.com
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