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How to Choose the Best Condom for You

Contrary to popular belief, safe sex does not equal lame sex. In fact, having good sexual health habits keeps sex fun. No one wants to deal with the discomfort that accompanies certain STDs - burning urination is definitely not fun, and we all know about the consequences of some of the more serious STDs.

To lessen your chance of catching a nasty STD, it is essential to pick condoms that are effective and even add an element of fun to your sex life, in case you need yet one more reason to cover up. After all, who doesn't want to get the most bang for their buck?

Selecting Your Condom

When it comes to condoms, size definitely matters. Ignore that macho voice in your head that says bigger is better. If you get a condom that is too large, it will leave too much space at the tip or the base to fit properly. Not only will this leave your condom vulnerable to slippage, but it will also make you look smaller relative to the size of your condom.

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However, if your condom is too small, it may break during sex. Finding the right fit is an important part of the selection process. If you are not sure about the proper size, read the packaging to find out what works for your package. There are often charts or guides on the back of a condom box that will help you find the perfect fit.


There is a vast selection of textures, including ribbed, extra thin, and condoms with exotic patterns. These are marketed as pleasure enhancers, but in practice, it all comes down to preference: some men like the added sensation, while others find it distracting. The same goes for women. Before you undress, address this issue so you avoid any distraction during the main attraction.

Pre-lubricated condoms also figure into the mix. These condoms cost more than your standard protection, but they may add a new layer of excitement to your sex life. Pre-lubricated condoms can also be big timesavers in the bedroom. Between getting the condom on and lubing up, you can waste precious time. With pre-lubricated condoms you elimiate one step and get down to getting down faster.

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Flavored condoms are popular for oral play. It is vital to realize that no matter what flavor, material or brand you use, your partner is still taking a trip down to your nether regions, and that means you still need to wash up; flavor should be an enhancement, not a cover-up for your funky junk.

Spermicidal condoms are great for people who want an added layer of protection to ensure that they don't make any babies. Because spermicidal condoms taste bad, make sure that you keep a few flavored condoms on hand. Use the flavored condoms to start, then switch to a spermicidal condom when things start to heat up.


Condom Material Matters

Another condom selection issue is the material. This means that you need to know in advance about any allergies. Some women and men have allergic reactions to latex or rubber. If you notice inflammation issues during sex with a certain material, avoid that material when you shop for condoms in the future.

When it comes to feeling the most sensation during sex while still playing it safe, microsheer is the ideal material. It is thinner than other materials, yet more resistant to tearing than anything else currently on the market. It also transmits body heat from you to your partner, so you might even forget it is on. Microsheer costs more than latex or rubber, but think of it as an investment; the cost of a doctor visit or emergency contraceptives is higher than the cost of condoms, after all.

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Why Condom Use Is Important

Unwanted pregnancies are tough. So are sexually transmitted infections. When you hear friends complain about how condoms ruin the experience, bear in mind that some extra padding between you and your partner feels better than the panic of having an unwanted pregnancy or disease on your hands.

Aside from the pain and irritation high-risk sex can lead to, there is also the limitation on your pool of potential partners. Medical experts are required to respect your privacy, but any time you infect a partner, word gets around.

When this happens, the idea that condoms make sex less enjoyable becomes moot. You cannot have worse sex if you are having no sex at all. The sheer range of condom selection and the fact that you can pick condoms that will actually enhance your sex life should help you to get over this mental hump so that you can hump safely.


Condoms are Important for Men and Women

Condom selection is a specific aspect of sexual health that every sexually active person must consider. For women who do not want children, birth control is a key component of their health care, and one that is addressed during gynecologist visits. However, birth control and the prevention of sexually transmitted infections are two entirely separate things. This means women on birth control should always carry condoms, just to be safe.

For men, condom selection plays a bigger role in their sexual health because there are fewer prescriptions and surgical options. Vasectomies are costly, fairly permanent and can be risky for young men, plus they do not address the risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection.

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Condoms will address both issues, and they will be more affordable and practical while you are still playing the field, or even when you settle down but are still not ready for children just yet.

Overall, the facts above mean that no matter your gender, what type of sex you plan on having, or how often you plan to have sex, it is essential to your sexual health that your condom selection is smart and that you practice safe sex with every partner. If you have specific questions about condom selection, practicing safe sex or other sexual health issues, contact a gynecologist or urologist.


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5 Best Places to Have Intercourse

Let's face it: having sex under the sheets, with the lights turned off, in your bedroom every night is totally boring. You've done it a million times. (Well maybe not a million exactly...) Sure some of those times were pretty amazing, but it's really just not an exciting environment anymore.{relatedarticles}

If your bedroom romps are getting you down, it's time to expand your repertoire and take those moves elsewhere. The world is full of sexy and exhilarating places to get it on, so turn up the heat and try doing it at one of the six best places to have sex. It's important to keep in mind that while diversifying your portfolio of places to have sex can be fun, it's also risky business. Keep in mind that doing the nasty in public is a crime. If this is an avenue you can to puruse, proceed with the utmost caution.

On the beach

What's sexier than the beach? The cool breeze, the sound of the ocean, the crash of the waves; not to mention you're both in your skivvies - and it's publicly acceptable! It's all a major turn-on.


So take advantage of this sexy environment! Find a VERY secluded spot and make the moves on your man. Roll around in the sand and get dirty with him. Sunbathe topless. If someone catches you in the act, just pretend you thought you were at a "nude beach." It was an innocent mistake, right?

Bonus: you can fall asleep under the sun in each other's arms once you're done! Hello, sun kissed tan. Word to the wise -- avoid people at all costs unless you want to end up sitting in the slammer for indecent exposure.{relatedarticles}

In the great outdoors

Take a break from the bedroom, and move your playtime outside. Do it under the sun on a blanket in a deserted park or get cozy on a chair by the pool. Jump your man while lying under the stars by the campfire, or roll on top of him while cuddled up in your tent.

Whether you're camping, having a picnic at the park or just soaking up the sun in your backyard, the opportunities for an outdoor romp are endless. With the ground underneath and nature all around, you'll find sex outside is a whole new, exciting experience. We won't be surprised if you want to go for a second round!

At the office

Sex at the workplace is totally forbidden, and your guy could get in BIG trouble for it. Naturally, that's why office sex is every guy's dream. It's SO off limits. You can role play naughty secretary and powerful boss.


Here's what you do: show up at his work and tell his secretary you're there to "bring him lunch." Wear your sexiest "office" clothing - a tight knee skirt, a low-cut blouse, thigh-high stockings and killer pumps. When you get to his office, greet him with a big smile and lock the door behind you.{relatedarticles}

Waste no time! Drop your decoy lunch and wrap your arms around him. While kissing him, push him into the office closet and shut yourselves in. This spontaneous love attack will get him so hot and bothered he won't know what hit him, and you'll love the adrenaline of doing it in an off-limits place. Anyone could walk in at any moment! You're so naughty!{relatedarticles}

In a (nice) public bathroom

Doing it in public is always hot. Knowing other people might hear or see you doing your naughty deeds is exhilarating, exciting and a huge turn-on. So take it one step further; do it in a public bathroom at a crowded place. (Make sure it's a nice, clean one, of course.)

Try the bathroom in a nice hotel lobby while you're waiting to check in, or pull your man into the restaurant men's room after Sunday brunch. Do it on the sink counter in front of the mirror and watch yourselves get down with your bad selves. Dance up on him at the club, and then take him to a stall and finish the job. Whatever you do, just make sure you lock the stall door.


On top of the dryer

It's double the pleasure, double the fun when you take your romp to the laundry room. Not only is it cozy and warm in there, it smells so fresh and clean!

Turn the dryer on a low tumble dry cycle and hop on top. Pull your man close.{relatedarticles}

The vibrating rumble of the dryer will only heighten your pleasure as you get it on with your guy; it's like a 2 for 1 deal!

You'll be so turned on, you might just have to try it on the washer once you're done!

So if you're tired of the same old, same old, in the bedroom, try taking your man to one of these six sexy places. Whether you choose the beach, the movies, the laundry room, the bathroom or the elevator, you'll both get turned on by the excitement of doing it in a new place, and you might even discover a newfound lust for each other. Give it a shot! But remember to exercise the utmost discretion. The last thing you want is to get caught in the act.


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Serve Up Some Healthy Competition in Your Relationship

We've learned early on in life that it's better to win, and in order to win, we need to be competitive. Although this attitude works well in sports and games, it can rear its ugly head in a romantic relationship. Too much competition can cause both partners to constantly try to outdo each other, which can cause added stress, jealousy and conflict.

However, just the right amount of competition can add spark to an otherwise boring relationship. Plus, it can make both partners motivated to improve their job or household situations. Here are some tips to create healthy competition in your relationship.

Healthy competition can make boring household chores much more fun. For example, you can divvy up jobs between you and your partner and make a game out it. He does the laundry and you clean the kitchen, and see who finishes first. You can race to get your jobs done first, and have a cleaner house in the process.

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Healthy competition can also help your relationships in terms of finances. You can play a game to see who can save the most money in one week. If you're shopping for a new appliance, electronic device or even a new car, you can both compete to see who can find the cheapest price.

If you don't have any new purchases planned, you can use your competitive nature to raise money for someone or something else, such as a charity. Agree on a shared cause and see who can earn the most money. You'll feel good knowing that you used your competitive nature to do good for others.


If you have young children who always like to delay bedtime, you and your partner can take turns putting them to bed. Compete with each other to see who can get the kids to sleep quicker. Both of you will end up winning this one because the result will be more time to spend together.

Ready for some healthy competition? We're talking about working out. If you have a treadmill or elliptical at home, put your stamina to the test. If you prefer to do other types of exercise or don't have any gym equipment at your home, you can track how much time you both spend at the gym. Even if you don't win, your body will thank you for your increased effort.

If your guy enjoys playing video games, why not put your skills to the test? Study shows that 80% of women would play against their partner, with winning as the main goal, if given the chance. So join in and have him teach you the ropes.

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Sound boring? The Nintendo Wii and Xbox Kinect have many games that allow you to be part of the action, so you can jump, dance or pretend to fight, meaning you get to compete and sweat a little as well. Another advantage? Competing and playing games with your partner results in better sex because of increased adrenaline and heart rate. So get your game on tonight!

If playing video games or working out is more effort than you're prepared to extende, watch a sports game with your man and root for the rival team. Although it's passive because there's not much you can do to control the outcome, your man will no doubt appreciate the new-found interest you have in sports.


Another fun way to compete with each other is to turn on the TV and play along with your favorite game shows. If trivia is your thing, turn on Jeopardy! and keep score to see who can answer the most questions. If puzzles are more your cup of tea, turn on Wheel of Fortune and see who is quicker at solving the phrases. Who knows, you may be surprised at how much your partner knows, and for some, being smart is incredibly sexy.

Even just sitting on the couch and having a discussion about controversial subjects such as religion, politics, pop culture or other hot topics can help put a spark in your relationship. You don't need to focus on winning or being right, just have a passionate but friendly discussion about what your stance is on a certain subject.

Having a logical discussion requires critical thinking skills, so you can exercise you mind muscles. You'll get to hear some interesting points from your partner's perspective, and who knows, you might be able to get them to change their mind about a particular topic.

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Accomplishments of the other partner can bring out your own competitive spirit. So don't be surprised if your partner did something out of the ordinary (such as bungee jumping, skydiving and rock climbing) and you want to try it to.

Partners often fuel ambition and drive in each other. If your partner has been partaking in all the extreme stunts and accomplishments, stop standing by and join in on the fun. You may find a new hobby or interest.


 

What to Avoid

 

Avoid competing with each other in terms of careers. Although we all want to be the best we can be at our job, trying to outdo each other will only cause tension. Your partner may become resentful if you are always the one receiving promotions and bonuses while he is struggling at his job.

Plus, career competition will cause one of you to have to make sacrifices eventually, which can be deadly for a relationship.

You also want to avoid turning everything into a competition. You should be able to relax and just enjoy yourself without having to turn everything into a game. A little competition is healthy and even necessary, but it can ruin a relationship if it becomes the main focus.

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A successful relationship requires a healthy dose of competition in order to keep it from becoming stale and boring. The trick is to prevent competition from being a constant force in your relationship. It's important to be equals and to be able to make compromises and sacrifices for the benefit of the relationship.

Competition should be fun and without conflict. Try one of these tips for healthy competition and watch your relationship blossom.


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