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Them's Fighting Words: What Not to Say
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When it is time to confront him, there are a few things to avoid saying. On the top of that list is making accusatory statements. "You never..." "You're such a..." "How could you..." And using absolute terms, like "never" and "always" are always hot-button ways to start an epic fight. Focus on specific examples of behavior you dislike - no one does something "always" or "never." Begin with a positive statement, like, "I appreciate how you've been working so hard." Then launch into your problem: "But I'm concerned about you staying at the office so late." Remain calm, and don't be disagreeable just to cause conflict. If you can find a point that he makes that you agree with, say so.
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