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The Kissing Game: 7 Techniques to Drive Him Wild

Seven seems to be a prominent number. There are the 7 days of the week, the 7 wonders of the world and of course the 7 deadly sins. However, did you know that there are also the 7 sinful kissing techniques based upon the 7 deadly sins? In ancient times, a sin was considered a serious moral offense and the seven deadly sins were seen as the gravest ones.

First enumerated by Pope Gregory (the Great) and elaborated in the 13th century by Thomas Aquinas, the 7 deadly sins were identified as (1) vainglory, or pride, (2) lust, or inordinate or illicit sexual desire, (3) greed, or covetousness, (4) envy, (5) gluttony, which is usually understood to include drunkenness, (6) wrath, or anger, and (7) sloth.


Today, the word sinful has taken on a less sinister meaning and is more often associated with a giving in to a secret pleasure. For example, we refer to chocolate as sinful decadence and we call a good back massage a sinful indulgence.

Likewise, these 7 sinful kissing techniques are meant to playfully appeal to his most basic desires and drive him back into the wild. So if you want a little adventure, pump up your pucker and share these enticing kisses with your special someone.

1. The Prideful Kiss

Pride is a feeling of pleasure from one's own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is associated, or from qualities or possession. It was frowned upon because it was taking away credit away from a higher being- the true source for one's good fortune. Today we try to promote self-esteem because it builds confidence.

When your sweetheart is full of pride, his self-confidence will grow, and his chin will jut out. To give your man a boost of self-confidence and pride, start by firmly kissing the bottom of his jaw line right where his face meets his neck. When he raises his chin, make a path of jawline kisses up to his ear and then give his earlobe a big wet kiss. You will both be feeling prideful at that moment.


2. The Lustful Kiss

This one is probably self-explanatory. But for sake of consistency, here is a brief explanation of why lust was considered a deadly sin by the ancients. Lust was viewed as impure love that was not sustainable. But who says that you can't lust after the one you love.

Of course, you can and it all begins with a kiss. The best lustful kiss is still the good old French kiss- an open mouth kiss where your tongues do most of the lusting.

3. The Greedy Kiss

Greed is defined as excessively desirous of acquiring or possessing, especially wishing to possess more than what one needs or deserves. Greed is bad because you are hoarding something that someone needs to survive. But in today's world, there is nothing wrong with wanting your fellow to be excessively desirous of you and wanting you all to himself.

For the greedy kiss, you are going to give him a kiss that will keep him coming back for more. The greedy kiss is the French kiss with something extra. While you are French kissing, try to spell out the word "More" on his tongue to convey your own greedy desire for him.

4. The Envious Kiss

Envy was seen as sinful because it meant you didn't appreciate what you had and you might do something illegal to obtain it. Today, the sin of envy has been replaced by ambition, which is motivated by wanting a better life for you and your family. There is nothing wrong with ambition if you are honest and work hard to achieve what you desire.


Contrary to what you might think, the envious kiss is not to make your guy envious seeing you kiss someone else. That would be truly sinful. The envious kiss is to make other men envious of your love and wishing they were getting that kind of attention from their wives or girlfriends.

For the envious kiss, pick a public place and grab him passionately, throwing your body fully into his. Pretend that you have not seen your honey for ages and plant a passionate kiss that will leave him and everyone breathless watching.

5. The Gluttonous Kiss

Gluttony is the excessive gorging of food and drink. Gluttony was seen as a sin and a weakness because if you become intoxicated you are much more likely to give in to other sins, such as lust, envy and anger. In our water-down version of gluttony, the intent is to make your lover hungry for you by giving him something to wet his appetite.

Start by selecting a favorite food or beverage to place in your mouth for this appetizing kiss. Ironically, a Hershey's kiss works well in executing this sinful kissing technique. Let the morsel of the chocolate melt in your mouth and then kiss your sweetheart for a doubly rich surprise.


6. The Angry Kiss

Anger is the antithesis to love and was seen as a deadly sin because it could literally lead to deadly consequences. For our modified angry kiss, we are not suggesting anything so sinister or painful. Instead, the angry kiss is more akin to an aggressive-styled kiss to release pent up feelings similar to the way that anger is the release of pent up frustration.

For the angry kiss, sneak up on your partner like a wild animal, let out a few playful growls, and then attack him with a rapid round of fiery kisses.

7. The Lazy Kiss

Sloth is the sin of laziness or the reluctance to do work. It was considered a sin because lazy people who sit around all day simply couldn't be up to any good. In the modern world, everyone needs a least one lazy day to recuperate from their hectic lives.

For the lazy kiss, pick a Sunday or Saturday or whatever day the both of you are off. After a leisurely breakfast in bed, give him a kiss that lasts at least 5 minutes longer than normal. In other words, the trick is to make him feel that you have all the time in the world just for him.


After a week of experiencing these sinfully sweet and sizzling kisses, your sweetheart may be begin calling you the 8th Wonder of the World.

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Beware of the Sext

Thinking about sending a naughty picture to your honey's phone, just to have a little fun, maybe to get psyched for a special evening the two of you have planned? Before you hit send, you may want to think twice.

These days, it seems there is new technology out nearly every week. It literally changes the way we live.

Think back to a decade or two ago. Maybe at the time, you were a college student, had just gotten married or were getting your start at a new job. Back then, texting was just barely on the horizon. Now it seems we can't live without it. As we've gotten more used to texting, some of its dangers have surfaced, especially in the last couple of years.


While sexting may seem innocent enough at the time -- maybe you're using it to flirt, prove your commitment to someone or just have fun -- what about those who use sexts to hurt, harass or humiliate? When sext messages get into the wrong hands, the results can be disastrous. Here's a closer look.

What it Is: More than Just a Clever Play on Words

The term "sexting" is a clever play on the words "sex" and "text messaging." It's basically when someone sends a provocative photo, which may include complete or partial nudity. The most popular way to send sexts are via text message, but messages also may be emailed and eventually saved on computers.

What may start out as a personal sext to one individual can eventually end up on other people's phones, emails and worse yet - Web sites. Unfortunately, once an image appears on a Web site, it's not necessarily easy or even possible to get it off.

The worst part is, once you've sent a text message with a sexually explicit photo, you have no control over it, but the recipient does. It's not like a sext comes with a confidentiality agreement.

So who are the groups most likely to engage in sexting? Teenagers and young people ranging from age 13 to 26.


Professional Dangers of Sexting

Because the majority of "sexters" are young people, they have perhaps the longest amount of time for those images to haunt them. Sexting increases your visibility in the virtual world, and because it is so easy to access information on the Internet, there's a good chance a lapse in judgment could become a longtime or permanent obstacle.

Whether you're a young professional going out for that new job or have kids who want to get into their dream college or make the cut for that exclusive athletic organization, nothing can call his or her character into question like sexting. Because your photo can pop up anywhere, anytime, when you least expect it, there is a chance future and current employers can view it.

Perhaps no one understands that better than U.S. Rep. Anthony Weiner, who, after being caught for sending lewd photographs of himself to women online resigned in June 2011 amid a torrent of media coverage.


Emotional Dangers of Sexting

Say you send a sexy message (accompanied by a photo, of course) to someone you've been in a committed relationship with, thinking it will never get out. He may not intend to send it to anyone, but what if his phone is lost or stolen?

Maybe he has a not-so-reputable old friend from high school who happens upon it while your man is in another room. What if you have a bitter breakup?

Photos you thought no one else would see could end up on other peoples' phones and potentially racy Web sites. It's embarrassing and humiliating, for one. A momentary lapse in judgment can taint years of a reputation you've worked to build.

The emotional dangers of sexting are even more pronounced with teens, who may have fragile self-esteem to begin with and may contemplate suicide. Unfortunately, teen girls have killed themselves in the wake of texting scandals on more than one occasion.

Legal Dangers of Sexting

Sexting also can have legal ramifications for adults and teens alike. In the case of infidelity, it can break up a marriage and, in especially contentious divorces, phone records dating as far back as a month can be pulled up, even when text messages have been deleted.


For moms out there, the biggest legal issues right now involve adults soliciting and sexting teens, which in many cases, is considered criminal behavior.

Legislation has cropped up in more than 20 states that can actually result in child pornography charges for teens who send text messages, and sometimes, their recipients. That's because any nude or semi-nude photos of minors under the age of 18 constitute child pornography. It's a serious punishment for 13-and14-year olds that engage in sexting. Just how do parents protect their kids from this behavior and its consequences?

Legal ramifications of sexting are changing all the time and are murky, to say the least, when the age group meant to be protected by the laws is being punished by them, as well.

Think Before You Sext

In the best of cases, a sext is kept within the confines of a committed relationship. While the rationale behind sexting may be innocent enough, say if you both want to have a little fun and spice things up a bit, the consequences can often do more harm than good.


After all, if your phone or your honey's got into the wrong hands, you have to ask yourself: Would you want this photo to end up on the Internet where your boss, parents, cousins and siblings could see?

Maybe you've already snapped the shot and are about to hit that send key. Before you do, you may want to consider some alternatives to the ever-notorious sext. Could you leave a sexy note on the counter or the car for his eyes only?

Another option is purchasing a camera with a docking station. Even if it feels outdated in this digital age, connecting your camera directly with a printer allows a distinct advantage -- it isn't saved and it can't be traced. Plus, it can be kept within the privacy of your own home -- now there's an idea!

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Friends With Benefits: Can It Work for You?

Friends? Lovers? Or somewhere in between?

At one time in our lives, most of us have contemplated entering into an infamous "friends with benefits" agreement. If you've seen recent rom-coms including Friends with Benefits or No Strings Attached, you know just the type of dynamic we're talking about. It's the old filler -- relying on a close friend for sexual stimulation until the right person comes along.

It sounds far too simple. And it can be -- for some people. Here are tried-and-true guidelines for keeping things clear cut between you and your new FWB (friend with benefits). Maybe you can have the best of both worlds. {relatedarticles}

Friends with Benefits: The Rules

People who have casual sex with a friend must follow certain rules to make the situation work well.

Rule #1: Set Clear Expectations

You must discuss what you expect out of the sex you have with your friend. That includes telling him that you do not want to be his girlfriend, and you do not want to feel obligated to do anything for him. The sex will only be about the sex, and not about the friendship or it turning into a relationship.

Rule #2: Pay Attention to Emotions

Many women can't help but attach themselves emotionally to their sex buddy. While this is perfectly normal, it's a disaster in the making for the situation. It's important to keep your emotions in check when you have a friend with benefits. As soon as you feel yourself growing fonder of him, it's time to re-evaluate your friendship status.

While it may not seem likely now, many people start as friends with benefits, and then embark on a full-blown, committed relationship. So don't completely discount it as a possibility.{relatedarticles}

Rule #3: Avoid Jealousy

Your friend with benefits can be interested in someone else. He can go on dates, and he can have sex with other people.

The meaning behind, "no strings attached" means you hold no right to him. He is not yours, and he doesn't have to do anything before considering what you might think or feel about it.

This is one of the reasons why many people don't make it far with this type of arrangement. They can't cope with the person they are sleeping with having sex with someone else or going out on dates with other people.

Rule #4: Breaking It Off When Someone Else Comes into Play

As soon as one of you finds someone else to be with in a committed relationship, the arrangement you and your friend have must cease. It's not fair to the new person you or your friend is dating, and it's considered cheating.

Some people have a difficult time stopping the arrangement when it becomes a habit and a normal part of the friendship. However, if you keep this rule in your mind the entire time, it should prepare you for letting go when the time comes.

Rule #5: It Needs to Feel Right

You may want to have sex with your friend, but if you feel guilty or uncomfortable about it all the time, it won't work. You need to feel like it's truly what you need in your life, and it's the best solution to your circumstance at this time.{relatedarticles}

Having a friend with benefits doesn't make you a slut, and it doesn't make you a bad person. You and your friend have come to an agreement about the type of sexual relationship you will have, and it's between the both of you. If you feel confident in the agreement, you won't feel as though you are doing something shameful.

Rule #6 Discuss How Much You Should Talk About It

Some friends won't tell a soul they are having sex with "no strings attached,'' while others tell everyone because they think it's the best thing they have ever had in their life.

Whether or not you tell anyone should be discussed with your sex buddy beforehand. He may want you to keep your relationship secret because it may ruin his reputation in finding someone to have a committed relationship with someday.

Rule #7: Have Protected Sex

Do not have unprotected sex with your sex buddy. You don't want to get pregnant with someone who is just a friend.{relatedarticles}

Pregnancy shouldn't be the only reason you use protection, though. You should also use protection to shield against sexually transmitted diseases. Just because he's your good friend who says he's told you everything doesn't mean he's told you he may have an STD. Also, if he's having sex with other people, you never know if he may have contracted something from one of those women. Protect yourself.

Rule #8: Don't Leave Belongings at His House

You are just a drive-by sexual encounter. You should never leave your personal belongings at his house because you cross into the girlfriend zone when you do that. Keep sex as the only reason why you are there, and do your grooming at home.

Rule #9: Set Times for Booty Calls

If you're open to a booty call anytime of the day or night, then you don't have to worry about this one. However, if you don't want to be bothered at 3 a.m., you need to tell him that.

Setting rules on when sex is appropriate and when it's not can stop the frustration of being rejected at certain times because it's inconvenient.{relatedarticles}

Rule #10: Keep It as a Benefit

Having a sex buddy should always be a benefit to you, not just to him. If you ever start to feel as though you need to have sex with him because this is the arrangement you made and you need to keep him happy, end it. You should never have to feel as though it's your responsibility to relieve his sexual tension. You both need to want to have sex to make this work out for both of you.

Will It Work for You?

Whether friends with benefits will work for you depends on if you are able to follow the rules. If you are unable to control the situation and your emotions, it's not something you want to get wrapped up in because it will only hurt you in the end.{relatedarticles}

The goal of this arrangement should be satisfying a temporary need until someone else comes along. As long as you see it this way from beginning to end, you should be able to make having a sex buddy work for you.

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