"Let's just be friends." It's the infamous phrase people use when trying to lessen the blow of a breakup. But it's rarely meant as a sincere sentiment. There are very few people who can recover from a breakup and emerge as friends - but it's not impossible. Here are a few reasons why you might be able to remain friends (or not) after being romantically involved. Consider the manner in which you broke up. Rarely are breakups mutual - someone did the dumping, and someone got his or her feelings hurt. Depending on which side of the breakup you are, seeing the person platonically might just be too hurtful. When romantic feelings and longing linger, then it's not the ideal setup to be friends. If you agree to be friends, think about how you'll feel if you see your ex dating other people. Can you handle it without feelings of jealousy, bitterness and sadness? If so, then you might be fine friends. The life cycle of your romantic relationship is worth consideration as well.
A relationship that was rocky, had multiple breakups or included abuse is not a good foundation for friendship. Even if things end well and amicably, there's those lingering feelings of chemistry to ponder. Is there a chance that you'll be out drinking with friends and hook up? That scenario may do more harm than good for your well-being. As long as there's no passion left between you, things are probably safe. There are instances in which it's beneficial and even advisable for you to remain friends - or at least civil -- after a breakup. A botched workplace romance can create serious tension at the office, which can be detrimental professionally. Obviously if you have children with your ex, you want things to remain civil among the two of you for the sake of the children, who've probably already seen their share of their parents fighting. If you're breaking up, really consider the meaning of those four words - and if being friendly will work for you.