So you've made the big decision to move in with your partner. Congrats! But before you start getting all cozy and intimate in your love den, it's a good idea to get all the business of living together out of the way first. Sure, it's not sexy to discuss your quirks, habits and preferences, but it's best to get all the dirty laundry aired out before things like, well, dirty laundry cause problems in your relationship. So make some ground rules before the last moving box is unloaded. Do you prefer the toilet seat be kept down? Dirty clothes to be put in certain places? Agree to it beforehand. Work together to establish the roles you'll each have at home. Get all your cleaning preferences aired before the bathroom starts getting scummy and dishes pile up in the kitchen sink – as you glare at each other angrily. Divide and conquer when it comes to daily and weekly tasks.
Once you have an understanding, then you can focus on the romantic part of your relationship. One of the most important things to discuss before you start shacking up is money. Financial issues can make or break a relationship, so again, get them out in the open. This includes any credit problems, debt or other hiccups. Will you share a bank account or maintain individual accounts? How will household expenses such as rent and utilities be paid? Different spending habits can breed resentment, so establish a budget and stick to it. It may help to create a shared goal, such as saving for a wedding or trip, in order to create a nest egg. Finally, remember to maintain an element of spontaneity in your relationship. Don't get too "settled" – surprise each other with treats and romantic evenings to keep the spark alive.