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New Friends vs. Old Friends

Almost nothing feels better than making a really strong connection with someone you don't know. This sort of "friendship chemistry" happens when you and a person hit it off platonically, and you end up making a new friend. It's sometimes like starting a new romantic relationship in that you want to spend much of your free time with this new person in your life. But what about those friends who've been there for you the whole time? We're talking about the oldies but goodies who have seen you through the best and worst times. While a new friend offers a fresh perspective with a different background and life experiences, your old friends have a much more in-depth frame of reference on what makes you...you. They laugh at jokes only the two of you get, know your likes and dislikes, and may even finish your sentences.


But the downside of those old friends is they have a tendency to get inside your head and dredge up all the old baggage that you may not want to face. If you need some advice, it can be a drag to have all the similar scenarios to your current situation brought up and rehashed. A new friend can focus on you in the moment, not in the context of your past, which can be helpful. A new friends brings new energy and new experiences to a relationship, introducing you to people you may not ordinarily hang out with, bringing you places you wouldn't ordinarily go and just generally expanding your horizons. But that's not to say you don't need those old friends. They're the ones who don't bat an eyelash when you need to cry it out or get really angry. As the old song goes, "Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold."