|How to Discipline When Kids Are Careless||| Print ||
|Written by Jean Tracy, MSS|
|Friday, 28 May 2010 12:33|
Child discipline and logical consequences demand you learn to think before you act. You take the time you need. You get your feelings under control. You come up with a simple plan. You execute that plan.
When kids are careless, rage can explode and it can feel great. Later shame sets in. Your kids yell back, make excuses, and sometimes blame you for their mistakes. This is not the family life you hoped for.
If These Were Your Children, How Would You Deliver Logical Consequences?
All winter you've squirreled away coins, dollars, and gift money to buy a bike for Amy. She squealed with joy as she first rode it through the neighborhood. You smiled and thought, "It's the perfect birthday.
1. One rainy morning two weeks later you look out the front room window. There it is, spattered with mud lying in the driveway. Your gut tightens. You march down the hallway to Amy's bedroom. Will you yank her out of bed? Or will you get yourself under control?
3. Jessica lost her lunch money again. She calls you from the principal's office, "Mom, I lost my lunch money. Buy me a hamburger and a shake."
A big part of parenting is teaching kids to be responsible. When kids treat gifts, homework, and money carelessly, some parents fume inside and feel like failures.
As a parent, you have discipline choices. Consider the logical consequences below:
1. When Amy leaves her bike out, don't talk, act. Wake her. Tell her to clean her bike and bring it inside. Don't react to her grumbles. Put a lock on her bike and decide how long to keep it locked. Tell Amy. Be firm.
If you stay in control and act logically, your kids will trust your words. They'll suffer the consequences of their actions. They'll grow into responsible adults. You'll feel proud of them and of your parenting too.
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|Last Updated on Monday, 30 August 2010 15:27|