Confidence or Arrogance: What Kind of Child Are You Raising?
By Anne Leedom
Confident kids say, "I am proud of what I accomplished" whereas an arrogant child says, "everyone is impressed with what I accomplished."
Confident children say, "I learn from failure." Arrogant children hide from failure and feel personal shame rather than potential opportunity for growth as a result of mistakes.
Confident kids review and assess their own behavior. Arrogant kids perceive others as competition and judge everyone they meet with a judgmental eye.
Confident kids are ruled by compassion, viewing everyone with a sense of fair play. Arrogant children are driven by competition with others and a sense of ""its either me or you." They view everyone as a threat on some level.
Confident children are team players and aren't concerned with who gets the glory for success. Arrogant kids focus on being known for their contribution and want to stand out.
Confident children value the opinions of others and actively invite other's perspectives. Arrogant children are dismissive and unconcerned about other's ideas and input.
Confident children decide for themselves if they have met their goal. Arrogant children wait for outside approval before deciding if their actions were acceptable.