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The term "helicopter parent" was actually coined in the 1990 self-help guide Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility. It's frequently used to describe those parents who sweep in to rescue their children from the perils of higher education. For some, it's hard to believe that parents would actually appeal to a college professor on behalf of their young adult offspring, but it shouldn't come as much of a surprise.
This trend begins long before teens ever don their cap and gown and head off to college. It's a behavior that we as adults begin even in the earliest stages of parenting. However, helicopter parenting can have some serious implications on our children. While it might seem like we are doing our children a favor at the time, that couldn't be further from the truth. What we're essentially creating are children who are reliant on us for everything.
Parenting expert and educational psychologist Michele Borba addresses the trend of helicopter parenting on her personal Web site, www.micheleborba.com. On her blog, the author of No More Misbehavin' and Don't Give Me That Attitude points out that children will continue to sink if you don't teach them to swim. Dr. Borba writes, "Look down the road at the big picture. If you keep on with any hovering behavior now, how will your kids turn out later? Every once in a while, we need to fast forward your parenting and think ahead.

I completely understand what type of parent ends up calling a college complaining about a child's test scores or calling an adult child's employers because they didn't like their annual evaluation. Because this is what helicopter parenting leads to...........and the parent will still think they're doing what's right.......that they're being the best parent while everybody else are bad parents.
The helicopter mom I'm referring to in this post won't even let go of her daughter after she's dead. She wants her corpse to be turned into a diamond so the daughter can wear the rock around her neck for the rest of the daughter's life (how's that for ironic symbolism)........and no doubt the mother will then want to be buried with the daughter.
And you think anything as rational and reasonable as this article would make an impact on that kind of thinking!?
That's laughable.
their own, they stay at home and can't get a job because they're not independent enough. Kids want the big money NOW. It's beneath them to work at a fast food restaurant or some other entry level job. So they live at home and
use up their parents money. Give them a deadline to leave, hold yourself to it and then change the locks! I can't
even think how the next generation will end up. They have to have everything now their parents
worked 25 years to accumulate, the nice home, furniture, car, etc., etc.
So, overachiever on one hand and a constantly ill, learning challenged child on the other hand who is as smart as the older one. Raised them the same way at the start. Took Love & Logic when younger one seemed 'stubborn' to me. 18 years later, I can tell you it was nothing that Love & Logic could 'fix'. I'd love to see some articles about the challenges of drawing boundaries and still trying to raise eventually responsible adults with children who have hurdles to overcome that I only WISH Love & Logic was the answer to.
You should need a license to have kids. The fact some people are too stupid to figure this out amazes me.
PS: In my opinion, your "best", does NOT mean joining in with your children, especially when it comes to drugs or alcohol. That (I feel), gives a child the wrong impression that it's ok to do so, which could cause more harm that have to be.
After all most children mimic what they see their parents do and that, in the short/long term, can/is extremely hazardous to their life.
PPS: My suggestion is to train them up in the way they should go and when they grow, they won't depart, even with any bad experiences, they will always have that LIGHT BULB, to appear, that will HOPEFULLY, steer them BACK where they are safe and is better off at.
PPS: This one is coming STRAIGHT from the heart and I HOPE/PRAY that someone gains some POSITIVE from it, for I AM, a mother/grandmother/neighbor who genuinely care about our children and ALWAYS will, through it all.
God bless ALL!
Sincerely,
Mrs. ELois P. Clayton
unemployed CADC/Medical Coder & MT
Also, I'm glad to see so many excellent parents on this website. Where are the cruddy ones that we're trying to shame into giving up helicopter parenting? Seems like there's a lot of self-congraulatory onanism going on here.
You may be good at child raising but there is no substitute for having been there and done that for three children and some grandchildren.
Careful and perceptive parenting is a lost art in the US-dysfunctional families are the norm - who knows what is right and what is normal. Just look after you and yours the best you can.
Good short articles with quick points is what we need. We do not have the luxury of taking time to read each and every word. I did not find that with any article I reviewed at your website. TOO LONG.
amen. what a pain. there is an easier way, however - choose the "print" button - that will display a printable page with most of the article. Don't even need to actually print it out. Spoiler alert: the three things are Homework, Speaking For Them, and Choose Their Friends (none of which are a problem in our house).
On the other hand, this site doesn't require membership in a social network such as Facebook (yet) to post comments, so kudos to them for that, anyway.
pick out a certain bread by reading what it says and finally I let her cut out coupons before we went to the store...and if it was something we could use I gave her the value of the coupon when we got home. She learned about the value of money and sales on certain problems. It was a fun time and I never had a problem shopping with her!
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