Thursday, May 23, 2013
When In-Laws Have Input on Your Kids
It's important to realize that whatever your in-laws do that drive you crazy is done out of love for your child, and telling your mother-in-law or whomever it is to stop the behavior is akin to telling her not to love your child, which can be hurtful. Explaining gently why what she's doing doesn't work for your family is the first step. The discussion may begin something like this: "I know you love Johnny very much, but he's not used to having so many sweets. Would you mind serving him healthier snacks when he visits?" Again, being sure that you and your partner are on the same page is crucial to reinforcing the message. In fact, many parents agree to handle their respective parents when conflicts arise. When the message comes from the relative's own blood relative, then it may be better received and taken to heart. Try to understand your in-laws' motivation for doing what they're doing before going on the offensive. The idea is to keep them in your child's life, no matter how you personally feel about them.