Role playing can turn a drab, ordinary sex life into a passionate, exciting one in just one night. It's amazing what dressing up and acting like someone else can do to you -- mentally and sexually.
When you role play, you remove yourself from reality. You and your partner get to be other people. You put yourself in a world that you have never been in and may have only dreamt of.
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This escape from reality is what enables you to let go of your inhibitions enough to let loose and materialize your fantasies.
The better your costumes and storylines, the more exciting sex will be. Check out some of these best-dressed ideas for your next role-playing sex session.
The Prisoner and Prison Guard
A prisoner trapped in a cell for years with no sexual contact meets a sexy prison guard. The guard makes demands of the prisoner, such as a strip search, with some teasing and flirting, which sparks sexual tension.
Use an orange or classic black and white prisoner outfit for him and a tight, revealing cop costume for her. You can usually find these costumes during Halloween; however, if it's out of season, you can also find them in sex shops or online.
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Think accessories to enhance the experience, such as handcuffs and a baton. You can handcuff him to the "cell" to have your way with him.
Repairman and Client
A sexy repairman comes to the door with his flannel shirt half-undone, with his tool belt around his waist. The client has on a sexy mini-skirt with a low-cut shirt. As he works on your plumbing, bent over the pipes to show off his assets, the client bends over to hand him the tools he needs.
Seduction is what counts here. The more you bend over him and he shows himself off, the more steamy things will get for both of you.
You can do this role play with many different types of service people, such as a pizza delivery guy and lawn care boy. Just switch up the outfits accordingly.
Trucker and Waitress
A trucker can be on the road for months, which could mean he's sexually deprived. As a sexy waitress at an overnight diner, you can help him with his sexual frustrations.
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Don't think of the dirty trucker with this role play. Instead, he's the sexy trucker with his tight jeans, flannel shirt half-unbuttoned and a cute hat on his head.
Play the entire story out. He comes in, wanting coffee, pie and conversation. You, as the waitress, lean over the counter with your low-cut shirt showing off your chest as you listen intently and pat him for comfort on the arm. Pouring coffee consists of bending over him so he has nowhere to turn his head but towards your chest.
Cheerleader and Sports Player
Having a sexual experience with a bubbly, flexible cheerleader is on most men's fantasy list. Dig out your old cheerleading outfit or purchase one. Make sure it's tight and you do your hair up with tendrils coming down to make it look sexy. Act out being a cheerleader to show off how you can bend.
If you think sports players are sexy, think of one your man can dress up as so you can fulfill the whole cheerleader with sports player scenario.
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Belly Dancer/Exotic Dancer and Client
Find a belly-dancing outfit at a dance shop or sex shop. You can also find many accessories like sheer cloths, chiming bracelets, veils and music.
Have him sit down and just watch you as you shake your body around him, on him and over him. Pass the cloth over his face, wrap it around his neck to bring him closer to you, or make him follow you by grabbing onto the cloth as you lead him to the bed.
Photographer and Model
Have him dress up as a sexy photographer. For example, he could wear a white button-down shirt with a few buttons undone and some black slacks. Make sure he has a camera with him.
You can do one of two things with this role play. You can dress in a bikini and have him take pictures of you or you can be naked. It all depends on what scenario you want - swimsuit model or Playboy model.
As you strike a pose for the camera, flirt with him a bit to show off what you've got. He can really get into it by telling you to do different things he thinks will look good on camera.
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Sexy Teacher and Student
This is a common fantasy because nearly every male student has at one time had a crush on an attractive teacher. Put a sexy teacher outfit together by wearing a tight, short skirt and body-forming shirt. Pull your hair up in a bun and find some non-prescription glasses to wear.
If you want to be the sexy student, you can do something similar. Just find an outfit that shows the most skin and enhances your most flattering attributes. Put your hair up in pigtails and wear just a little makeup to keep the innocent look.
Once you're dressed, it's time to play the part. You may be a teacher scolding your bad, bad student, or you may be the innocent school girl who is in love with her teacher and wants to show off for him a bit.
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How to Make Role Playing Effective
Sexual role playing isn't just about dressing up. It's about getting into character. When you are playing the parts, you need to make it believable. That's what makes it so real and an escape from reality. If you still believe you are you, then you don't get the same excitement because your insecurities prevent you from really experiencing sexual satisfaction.
The first time you do this, you may feel awkward or ridiculous, but as you get into it, you'll start to feel how enticing it can be. You'll feel yourself let go and get into the role of being seduced or seducing your partner. Then the rest is just allowing yourself to relieve the sexual tension you both have developed from it, which is quite satisfying and fulfilling.
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Who says there's no such thing as bad sex?
While most men might argue that bad sex is better than no sex or that beggars can't be choosers, that's honestly far from the truth. Sometimes sex just isn't memorable. The good news is that if you've found someone you really love (or like), it's possible to improve bedroom behavior.
Women's Complex Bodies and Men's Anxiety
Women's bodies are all so different. One woman isn't aroused in nearly the same way as another woman. This can cause a guy to feel inadequate in a new relationship because he has no idea what to do to please you.
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It's highly likely that your guy is using techniques that he successfully tried on other women. The problem is that it doesn't work on you.
If you're unsure on how to move forward without leaving your relationship in the dust, start by communicating with him. You don't want to make him feel awful by saying something like, "I really don't like what you do down there." Instead, try something like, "I would love to show you what gets me going if you want to watch."
Your guy will not object to this if he really wants to please you. He may even be thankful that you're finally giving him a clue about what he needs to do.
If you don't feel comfortable masturbating in front of him, then simply tell him what to do. Having better communication during sex can improve your overall sex life.
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Here's an example:
You guys are getting hot and heavy with some kissing, and his hand starts to creep down to your crotch. You immediately think the worst, because you know it's not going to be a good time with his rough hands that seem to have no control.
Instead of dreading what he is about to do, lay your hand on his and move it the way you like it and want it. Let go at times to see if he gets the hint, if he doesn't, lay your hands on his again to show him what to do again. You can even whisper, "I like it like this...more like this."
When His Penis Is Too Small
Unfortunately, not all men are as well-endowed as you want them to be. For this reason, you need to adjust the sex according to his size.
The best way to accommodate a smaller penis is to lie on your back in missionary position and bring your legs up as close to you as possible. This will help him penetrate deeply, increasing your sensation.
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If you can't bring your legs close enough to you, try to lie on your back or stomach and keep your legs together. When he penetrates you that way, it causes you to be tighter so you'll feel more of him.
When His Penis Is Too Large
Bigger isn't always better. This is especially true when you have a large guy with a petite woman.
To accommodate his large size, make sure you are lubricated enough from foreplay before penetration. Stay on top during intercourse. That way, you can control how deep his penis penetrates.
If he insists on being on top, communicate how far he can go so he doesn't hurt you. You can make him feel a lot better about himself by acknowledging that it's because of him being so large.
Spice It Up to Make Bad Sex Better
People in long-term relationships often think they can't have wild sex. They think because they have been with the person for a while that it's not supposed to be exciting anymore.
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This is simply not true and the reason why so many long-term couples have issues in the bedroom. You can always have wild sex, as long as you make it that way.
Try to bring in different sex toys, so you both can have fun trying them out. It's a perfect way to find out what each of you likes and increase sexual communication.
If you see something on television or a movie you want to try out, watch it with your partner to show him what you would like to do with him. He'll get excited seeing someone else in the moment and then want replicate it with you.
Everyone has fantasies, but not too many people share them, especially with their sex partners. Sharing your fantasies with your partner is one way to make bad sex better.
Scared that he'll think you are too much of a freak? Start with a fantasy that isn't too shocking first to see how he handles it. If he isn't too surprised by it, share a little more as you gain confidence in his reactions. Soon, you'll likely be able to spill out all the parts of your fantasies with the objective of making them come true.
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When Bad Sex Is a Symptom
Many people focus too much on a symptom of a problem, such as bad sex, rather than trying to identify the cause. Many times, the real issue is the relationship and not the sex.
When people are upset, resentful or not emotionally connected to their partners, sex will suffer. They won't feel like doing anything to increase sexual pleasure because they aren't interested in receiving pleasure from it.
To make bad sex better when there are relationship problems, you need to attack the problems outside of the bedroom first. When you develop a stronger bond in your relationship, your sex life naturally will improve.
It Takes Two to Have Better Sex
Making bad sex better involves getting your partner involved. If he is not willing to change because he's not interested in pleasing you as much as you want to please him, you may want to think about your relationship with him.
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Selfishness in the bedroom can sometimes overlap into the relationship, which can cause serious problems. Identifying the reasons why he doesn't want to please you will help you decide if you should move on to someone who is much more attentive to your needs and wants.
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Body language is usually the first thing someone notices about you - consciously or subconsciously. If you are looking to attract a man or set the right tone on a date, let your body do the talking. You may not think so, but you can use your body language to get what you want. Here's how.
Lean Back - Leaning forward while talking to a man may seem like it will make you look interested when actually it can come off as masculine and aggressive. He may also subconsciously feel as thought he is being chased or trapped. Instead of leaning forward during a conversation, tilt your body backwards. If you are standing, shift your weight subtly so that you appear to be leaning away from him just slightly. {relatedarticles}
Relax Your Hands - If you find that you're balling your fists or using your hands a lot when talking, try to remember to relax them. Tightened hands, arms and shoulders can make you seem tense or upset. Try to focus on having open palms and loose wrists. If you are holding a glass or fork loosen your grip. These small changes not only make you appear less anxious it can also give off an heir of femininity.
Eye contact - Eye contact is a fundamental part of attracting someone with body language but it must be done carefully. If you stare harshly or lock eyes with a man from across the room you may come off as hunter or too intense. Instead give a quick glance accompanied by a small smile, look away and then look again once more in the same way. This signals that you are interested but are leaving it up to him to initiate contact.
Mirror - One sign of compatibility is the unconscious act of mirroring someone's movements and mannerisms. Watch what your date or someone you are interested in is doing and follow suit. Smile when he smiles, laugh when he laughs etc. This can create a sense of similarity and closeness in a short period of time.
Slow everything down - Actions like walking too quickly or waving wildly from across the room can make you seem manic or stressed. Slow everything down to show that you are relaxed and confident. Don't snap your neck to look at someone when they address you, don't run across the room when you see someone you want to talk to etc.{relatedarticles}
Arms - You've probably heard this one before, but standing with your arms crossed sends a signal that you are being defensive or closed off. Standing with your arms straight stiff to the side also sends a bad message of anger or anxiety. Instead, stand with your arms relaxed at your sides, and if you are sitting, keep your arms folded casually in your lap to show that you are approachable and not hiding anything.
Legs - When standing, the position of the legs is a good indicator of your confidence and mood at the moment. Standing with your legs shoulder width apart demonstrates to those around you that you are relaxed. Taking an even wider stance shows control and that you are grounded. Sitting with your legs uncrossed, much like arms, shows that you are not in "protective mode" and are open to interaction.
Touching - If you have engaged in conversation with someone, you can take your body language to the next level by touching the other person. Lightly brushing his arm as you reach for your drink, patting him on the back when laughing at his joke or grazing knees under the table are all small gestures to show you are interested.
Preening - You may do this without realizing it but smoothing your hair, licking your lips, brushing your clothes off etc., is a sign to a man that you want to look good for them.{relatedarticles}
Your Face - Facial body language can perhaps send the strongest signals as our faces are usually the first thing a person notices. There are many parts of your face that communicate your mood to others. Typically to display interest or desire in another, your eyes will be widened, your eyebrows slightly raised, and your lips will be slightly puckered or parted.
Posture - An upright posture is sure sign of confidence. If you are a life-long sloucher this can be a tough habit to break, but by keeping your chin up, your back straight and shoulders back, you'll not only help your spine but you'll send out vibes that you are secure and open to communication.
Put Down Objects - Holding an object in front of you such as a purse can indicate shyness or that you are trying to hide something. Also, checking a phone constantly, picking the label of off your beer, or fiddling with your jewelry can signify that you are bored or anxious to get out of the situation or conversation.
Smile - Smiling might seem like a no-brainer but the way you smile can send out certain signals. A fake or forced smile tends to be too wide and show too much teeth. A genuine smile should involve the crinkling of the eyes and reveals little to no teeth. If you don't feel it, don't force it - it will only make you come off as fake or anxious.{relatedarticles}
It may not seem like a big deal but body language could possibly make or break your encounter with someone. The non-verbal cues we give off can be our strongest form of communication, even more so than talking. Studies show that words typically account for only 7% of our effective communication while body language can account for up to 55%. With a little effort and concentration you make a good first impression and hopefully a lasting connection.
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