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Dirty Talk for Shy Women

Believe it or not, dirty talk isn't just reserved for phone sex operators and porn stars. Even the average Jane is capable of some serious trash talking if it means turning on her man. Many guys get a cheap thrill over having their girls talk sexy smack. If the notion of talking dirty intimidates you, keep an open mind before you vow to close your mouth.

Dirty talk is becoming more commonly accepted in modern relationships, and some men even request or accept it. Although the mere thought of talking dirty can be embarrassing, there are some ways you master the art of dirty talk and quickly become a pro.

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What does your man like?

When it comes to sex, you can't please your man if you don't know what he wants or how he likes it. The same holds true for dirty talk, so if you don't know, it never hurts to ask. You'll want to get to the bottom of what types of words or phrases turn him on.

Before you embark on this hot new journey, it's definitely a good idea to have a talk before some "talk." You want to get a good grasp on his likes and dislikes. Although you may feel stupid for asking, having a frank discussion with him helps you know your man better. It's no different than how you would address anything else that goes on behind closed doors. Plus, if he really loves you, he will be patient and helpful.


Learn from the Pros

Watch some porn for inspiration. Although many adult films are badly scripted, you may be able to take away some ideas from these flesh flicks. Read an erotic book for tips. A dirty magazine with photos and sexy stories can be helpful. Consider reading them aloud to your man for inspiration. If you have enough courage, call a phone sex operator and ask for advice.

Start Slow

You're not going to become an expert right away, so ease into the process. If talking dirty in person makes you cringe, start with email or text messaging. Emails and texts allow you to think before you send, so you have a little extra time to come up with something naughty. Plus, you don't see your partner's reaction, so it eases some of the pressure.

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Once you feel more comfortable, make the seamless transition to phone sex. You'll actually be talking dirty to your man, but not face-to-face. Of course, you won't see any of his reactions, which can make it a little easier. Once you have conquered this step, it's time to move on to the real deal.


Know Your Limits

You don't have to swear like a sailor to engage in dirty talk. If you don't feel comfortable using dirty words, then keep it clean -- as in profanity free. Your man should understand and want you to feel comfortable. Plus, dirty talk quickly loses its allure when it seems rigid or forced. .

Start with things you are comfortable with saying. For example, if you and your man have special names for your private areas, use them. Feel free to use metaphors for things you want to say, but would otherwise feel uncomfortable saying. For example, instead of using the F-word, you can use verbs like "do me" or "thrust me" without sounding like a hardcore porn star.

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You can also use examples of "soft" dirty talk to get you started and hopefully rev your man's motor. Some simple but effective phrases you can use include "You really turn me on when you do that," "Want to see what I really want?" or "Punish me, I've been naughty today." The trick is not simply to "copy" phrases that you've seen or heard, but to actually say what you want to do and or what you are thinking. In other words, put some feeling behind it.

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Once you feel comfortable with these types of phrases, you can move on to dirty talk that's a little more provocative. You can start by describing what you're going to do your man before you actually do it. This will get him excited in anticipation of what will happen next. You can says things like "I'm going to take control of you tonight," "I'm going to strip for you right now" or "I'm going to kiss you all over."


If you get comfortable with these phrases, you can move on to hardcore dirty talk - the crème de la crème. Without embarrassment, you tell your man how you really feel. Let loose and say whatever is on your mind sexually speaking. Use your imagination and let your inhibitions run wild. Your man will think he's with a hot porn star.

Relax

You're probably getting stressed out, thinking how you can muster up the courage and ability to talk like this to your man. But the main thing is to relax and just let things happen naturally. You know how when your man stresses out about sex, he doesn't perform as well? It's the same with dirty talk. If you stress too much, it sounds unnatural and forced, which is the opposite of what you're trying to accomplish.

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Granted, some people work well under pressure, but when you're still learning the ropes of successful dirty talk, relaxation is very important. Practice makes perfect. As long as you're trying your best to not let your shyness overcome you, then your man should be pleased with your progress.


Although talking dirty can make many shy women feel immoral or disgusting, learning the art of dirty talk can make actually bring you closer to your man. Once you get accustomed to the act, it can actually improve your sex life by turning on your significant other.

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A little old fashioned dirty talk actually helps women let go of those inhibitions and experiment in the bedroom. If your man enjoys dirty talk, consider cutting loose and cultivating a mouth that's worthy of some soap.


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5 Best Places to Have Intercourse

Let's face it: having sex under the sheets, with the lights turned off, in your bedroom every night is totally boring. You've done it a million times. (Well maybe not a million exactly...) Sure some of those times were pretty amazing, but it's really just not an exciting environment anymore.{relatedarticles}

If your bedroom romps are getting you down, it's time to expand your repertoire and take those moves elsewhere. The world is full of sexy and exhilarating places to get it on, so turn up the heat and try doing it at one of the six best places to have sex. It's important to keep in mind that while diversifying your portfolio of places to have sex can be fun, it's also risky business. Keep in mind that doing the nasty in public is a crime. If this is an avenue you can to puruse, proceed with the utmost caution.

On the beach

What's sexier than the beach? The cool breeze, the sound of the ocean, the crash of the waves; not to mention you're both in your skivvies - and it's publicly acceptable! It's all a major turn-on.


So take advantage of this sexy environment! Find a VERY secluded spot and make the moves on your man. Roll around in the sand and get dirty with him. Sunbathe topless. If someone catches you in the act, just pretend you thought you were at a "nude beach." It was an innocent mistake, right?

Bonus: you can fall asleep under the sun in each other's arms once you're done! Hello, sun kissed tan. Word to the wise -- avoid people at all costs unless you want to end up sitting in the slammer for indecent exposure.{relatedarticles}

In the great outdoors

Take a break from the bedroom, and move your playtime outside. Do it under the sun on a blanket in a deserted park or get cozy on a chair by the pool. Jump your man while lying under the stars by the campfire, or roll on top of him while cuddled up in your tent.

Whether you're camping, having a picnic at the park or just soaking up the sun in your backyard, the opportunities for an outdoor romp are endless. With the ground underneath and nature all around, you'll find sex outside is a whole new, exciting experience. We won't be surprised if you want to go for a second round!

At the office

Sex at the workplace is totally forbidden, and your guy could get in BIG trouble for it. Naturally, that's why office sex is every guy's dream. It's SO off limits. You can role play naughty secretary and powerful boss.


Here's what you do: show up at his work and tell his secretary you're there to "bring him lunch." Wear your sexiest "office" clothing - a tight knee skirt, a low-cut blouse, thigh-high stockings and killer pumps. When you get to his office, greet him with a big smile and lock the door behind you.{relatedarticles}

Waste no time! Drop your decoy lunch and wrap your arms around him. While kissing him, push him into the office closet and shut yourselves in. This spontaneous love attack will get him so hot and bothered he won't know what hit him, and you'll love the adrenaline of doing it in an off-limits place. Anyone could walk in at any moment! You're so naughty!{relatedarticles}

In a (nice) public bathroom

Doing it in public is always hot. Knowing other people might hear or see you doing your naughty deeds is exhilarating, exciting and a huge turn-on. So take it one step further; do it in a public bathroom at a crowded place. (Make sure it's a nice, clean one, of course.)

Try the bathroom in a nice hotel lobby while you're waiting to check in, or pull your man into the restaurant men's room after Sunday brunch. Do it on the sink counter in front of the mirror and watch yourselves get down with your bad selves. Dance up on him at the club, and then take him to a stall and finish the job. Whatever you do, just make sure you lock the stall door.


On top of the dryer

It's double the pleasure, double the fun when you take your romp to the laundry room. Not only is it cozy and warm in there, it smells so fresh and clean!

Turn the dryer on a low tumble dry cycle and hop on top. Pull your man close.{relatedarticles}

The vibrating rumble of the dryer will only heighten your pleasure as you get it on with your guy; it's like a 2 for 1 deal!

You'll be so turned on, you might just have to try it on the washer once you're done!

So if you're tired of the same old, same old, in the bedroom, try taking your man to one of these six sexy places. Whether you choose the beach, the movies, the laundry room, the bathroom or the elevator, you'll both get turned on by the excitement of doing it in a new place, and you might even discover a newfound lust for each other. Give it a shot! But remember to exercise the utmost discretion. The last thing you want is to get caught in the act.


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Serve Up Some Healthy Competition in Your Relationship

We've learned early on in life that it's better to win, and in order to win, we need to be competitive. Although this attitude works well in sports and games, it can rear its ugly head in a romantic relationship. Too much competition can cause both partners to constantly try to outdo each other, which can cause added stress, jealousy and conflict.

However, just the right amount of competition can add spark to an otherwise boring relationship. Plus, it can make both partners motivated to improve their job or household situations. Here are some tips to create healthy competition in your relationship.

Healthy competition can make boring household chores much more fun. For example, you can divvy up jobs between you and your partner and make a game out it. He does the laundry and you clean the kitchen, and see who finishes first. You can race to get your jobs done first, and have a cleaner house in the process.

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Healthy competition can also help your relationships in terms of finances. You can play a game to see who can save the most money in one week. If you're shopping for a new appliance, electronic device or even a new car, you can both compete to see who can find the cheapest price.

If you don't have any new purchases planned, you can use your competitive nature to raise money for someone or something else, such as a charity. Agree on a shared cause and see who can earn the most money. You'll feel good knowing that you used your competitive nature to do good for others.


If you have young children who always like to delay bedtime, you and your partner can take turns putting them to bed. Compete with each other to see who can get the kids to sleep quicker. Both of you will end up winning this one because the result will be more time to spend together.

Ready for some healthy competition? We're talking about working out. If you have a treadmill or elliptical at home, put your stamina to the test. If you prefer to do other types of exercise or don't have any gym equipment at your home, you can track how much time you both spend at the gym. Even if you don't win, your body will thank you for your increased effort.

If your guy enjoys playing video games, why not put your skills to the test? Study shows that 80% of women would play against their partner, with winning as the main goal, if given the chance. So join in and have him teach you the ropes.

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Sound boring? The Nintendo Wii and Xbox Kinect have many games that allow you to be part of the action, so you can jump, dance or pretend to fight, meaning you get to compete and sweat a little as well. Another advantage? Competing and playing games with your partner results in better sex because of increased adrenaline and heart rate. So get your game on tonight!

If playing video games or working out is more effort than you're prepared to extende, watch a sports game with your man and root for the rival team. Although it's passive because there's not much you can do to control the outcome, your man will no doubt appreciate the new-found interest you have in sports.


Another fun way to compete with each other is to turn on the TV and play along with your favorite game shows. If trivia is your thing, turn on Jeopardy! and keep score to see who can answer the most questions. If puzzles are more your cup of tea, turn on Wheel of Fortune and see who is quicker at solving the phrases. Who knows, you may be surprised at how much your partner knows, and for some, being smart is incredibly sexy.

Even just sitting on the couch and having a discussion about controversial subjects such as religion, politics, pop culture or other hot topics can help put a spark in your relationship. You don't need to focus on winning or being right, just have a passionate but friendly discussion about what your stance is on a certain subject.

Having a logical discussion requires critical thinking skills, so you can exercise you mind muscles. You'll get to hear some interesting points from your partner's perspective, and who knows, you might be able to get them to change their mind about a particular topic.

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Accomplishments of the other partner can bring out your own competitive spirit. So don't be surprised if your partner did something out of the ordinary (such as bungee jumping, skydiving and rock climbing) and you want to try it to.

Partners often fuel ambition and drive in each other. If your partner has been partaking in all the extreme stunts and accomplishments, stop standing by and join in on the fun. You may find a new hobby or interest.


 

What to Avoid

 

Avoid competing with each other in terms of careers. Although we all want to be the best we can be at our job, trying to outdo each other will only cause tension. Your partner may become resentful if you are always the one receiving promotions and bonuses while he is struggling at his job.

Plus, career competition will cause one of you to have to make sacrifices eventually, which can be deadly for a relationship.

You also want to avoid turning everything into a competition. You should be able to relax and just enjoy yourself without having to turn everything into a game. A little competition is healthy and even necessary, but it can ruin a relationship if it becomes the main focus.

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A successful relationship requires a healthy dose of competition in order to keep it from becoming stale and boring. The trick is to prevent competition from being a constant force in your relationship. It's important to be equals and to be able to make compromises and sacrifices for the benefit of the relationship.

Competition should be fun and without conflict. Try one of these tips for healthy competition and watch your relationship blossom.


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