Recovering from an Unexpected Breakup
Breaking up is hard to do, but it's even harder when you never even saw the split coming. Whether it's been a month, six months or years, getting dumped out of the blue is pretty jarring when you were under the impression that all was well. When the reasons a partner gives for breaking up with you don't make sense, they add insult to injury. You may find yourself obsessing over what you think you did wrong and what could be going through your ex's head. It's normal to struggle with coming to terms with events we don't understand, so allow yourself the process...to an extent. Give yourself limits and even lay out a schedule of when to grieve. You know for example that it is inappropriate to cry or even simply discuss the breakup in a professional setting, so allow yourself to come home and take an hour to reflect, cry, look at pictures – even burn them! – in order to work through the pain.