Five Types of Fighters in Relationships
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It's OK to let The Librarian stew for a while and come back when he or she is ready to talk. The Apologist is sorry for absolutely everything – even things that are irrelevant to the issue at hand. He or she will say things like, "Well, I'm sorry for even being in your life!" or "If it weren't for me, you'd be so much happier." The Apologist likes to blow the argument completely out of proportion. Help The Apologist by telling him or her firmly that you love him or her regardless, then bringing the discussion back to the argument itself. And closely related to The Apologist is The Fatalist, the one who believes that every disagreement, no matter how petty, heralds the end of the entire relationship. This one can be exhausting, to say the least. But The Fatalist is easy to nip in the bud – just laugh off his or her threats of ending the relationship when the argument really is not worth it. Don't take the threats seriously or the situation can escalate. In fact, tell your mate you don't respond to threats and will resume the conversation once he or she is done threatening you.
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