Choices are the best tool for preventing and stopping power struggles and rebellion. There are a few ways that parents can run into problems, however, so here are a few guidelines for using choices effectively. - Don't give a choice if there is no choice. "Do you want to take your medicine?" sounds like the child has a choice. Instead, say "You need to take this medicine" Do you want chewable or liquid?" Or "Do you want to take it before or after eating?" Or "What drink to you want to 'chase' it ...