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The Pros and Cons of One-Night Stands
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written by J-Mo,
June 30, 2012 04:41 am
I have NEVER read a more self loathing, self deprecating morally reprehensable piece of journelism in all of my life. I don't know who the author of this piece is , but she is a Hooo!!!!!. Women being instructed on how to be a screw up. Is it not a better idea of stating how some men need to take care of their women, the mother of their children. Hell, those are the real men. But no, lets teach women how to behave like those maggots that are having kids all over the place and speading disease's. Thats liberating, to act like a iresponsible human f**king being and spread the your misery on to others. Then society wonders why people need to take medication and therapy because " I don't like who I'am." Yeah, well go out and Hoo around a few nights, that will cheer you up!!!!!!!!! Talk about instant gratfication, that really works. Let me see, if I do something I really like (this 1 nite stand crap), why don't I just keep doing it if it makes me happy? Ladies this is why Billy is 45 years old and still lives with mom!!!!!! Hell, if I cant get a piece of a*s with no attachments every weekend, why would I get married, and have kids and have a worth while relationship and in the proccess bring up the next generation of morally responsible human beings that We as parents would like to see live healthy and happy lives. This article had to be written by someone who has no children, whose mother was not looked by her with the respect that she deserved, and that clearly has not been in a healthy relationship.
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written by Mike,
July 01, 2012 02:12 pm
Men on the hunt for a cheap one night stand will love this article but I pity the women who will see it as enlightening. Being a cheap s**t is really not a good thing.
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written by solomon,
July 02, 2012 04:24 am
Article should have been titled, "worlds worst advise"
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written by solomon,
July 02, 2012 04:27 am
The article should have been titled "worlds worst advise'. There is no better way to catch a disease, or get killed than 'hooking up" with a stranger.
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written by mmike,
July 02, 2012 02:13 pm
Go ahead ladies,act like a w***e because we will stick our d-cks in anything
and anyone at anytime---Thank You Very Much---
and anyone at anytime---Thank You Very Much---
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written by Morgan,
July 02, 2012 06:05 pm
If someone gave this same advice to the daughters, nieces, cousins of the writer I bet all hell would break out.
I'm reminded of a little slogan that said something to the effect of eating your own words. Anyone else think it might be most ironic for the person who wrote this to learn her little female relatives are acting like the town s***t?
I'm reminded of a little slogan that said something to the effect of eating your own words. Anyone else think it might be most ironic for the person who wrote this to learn her little female relatives are acting like the town s***t?
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written by monique,
July 02, 2012 06:43 pm
This was probably written by one of the skanky s**ts who break up relationships. by all means, give men more power to act like no conscience animals by throwing them a piece of meat. our society is trying to tell everyone that everything liberal is ok: group sex, gangbangs, s and m, its ridiculous, stupid and you are going to give young girls the wrong idea, who can't filter out the stupidity of an article from such a ho. women won't be respected until they demand it and have it for themselves. its bad enough we have establishments called hooters and bimbo bakeries, now some vapid little tease is trying to write articles advising women how to have one night stands, so disgusting. you are, basically an idiot and you should not have a public blog, that is for certain. stick to cocktail waitressing, where, you know, you put yourself through school for. so pathetic.
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written by Fireman Joe,
July 02, 2012 06:43 pm
Anyone know why we didn't hear the victums of one knight stands talk? Yep you guessed it, they become tragic victums or are killed by preditors. I can't even remember an article that was worse than this.
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written by George Smith,
July 03, 2012 03:03 pm
I don't know why any feeling person would want to have a one night stand. When I was a divorced man in my 30s I had a few one night stands, but never intentionally. I learned that most divorced women of a similar age would not go out with me a second time if I didn't try to make love, so I made it a point to try. Some just wanted to feel desired, and I accepted their rejection without pushing, but most said yes.
My philosophy is that it makes no sense to get rid of a good thing. If we made a connection, I would continue ask her to go out whether we made love or not. One woman and I had a lot of fun for almost a year until she moved, but neither of us saw the other as the right match as a life partner. After more than 25 years we are still friends, but no longer lovers. You can't always make a friend, but it is great when you can. It's so much better to share your pa*sion with someone when you care for each other, even if it's just as friends.
My philosophy is that it makes no sense to get rid of a good thing. If we made a connection, I would continue ask her to go out whether we made love or not. One woman and I had a lot of fun for almost a year until she moved, but neither of us saw the other as the right match as a life partner. After more than 25 years we are still friends, but no longer lovers. You can't always make a friend, but it is great when you can. It's so much better to share your pa*sion with someone when you care for each other, even if it's just as friends.
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written by Chris,
July 03, 2012 04:12 pm
I'd rather masturbate. No fear of pregnancy or STD.
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written by Bob De Long,
July 04, 2012 03:15 am
What no one tells you about is the HPV 16 & 18 virus which can and does give you oral cancers in forms you never thought possible. THe sinister part of this disease is you can not know about it for up to ten years AFTER exposure! It is a brutal, ravaging cancer that when caught early, will respond well, but you can easily reach stage four before being diagnosed with it. I was lucky. I only lost my voice, all my teeth and my ability to eat solid foods. Some lose their entire lower jaw, their tongues, or both. THis comes from oral sex. Something you just might want to try on that 'one night stand' and ten years later, not even remember it or who or even why. You just know you now have throat cancer and could very easily die from it. Treatments are very rough. THe outcome could easily be as I mentioned above. THink I am off base? Google oral sex and HPV 16 & 18. Can't cure stupid.
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written by Not Disclosed,
July 04, 2012 10:48 am
Yeah, my wife tried this when we were engaged, when we went out to dinner together she had a quickie in the parking lot. I found out after she married me, had four children and now I hate her.
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written by Jeff,
July 05, 2012 05:00 am
Good advice to whomever wants to behave like an idiot.
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written by Joe,
July 05, 2012 01:07 pm
Let's be honest here. If it weren't for one-night stands, some people would never have sex at all. A few experiences probably won't hurt you, but the more you do it, the greater the risk. Don't make a habit of it.
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written by me,
July 06, 2012 04:02 am
If this were a men's "how-to" on how to bang as many hot chicks as possible, there would hardly be any men objecting to it. Funny how the morality flies out the window when men's sexuality is encouraged. But all of a sudden the double standardsd and insecurities arise if a woman so much as even considers having the audacity to have more than one sexual partner in her life. The word "virgin" gets thrown around. How many of you men are virgins, or were virgins before you got married? How would you like to be held to the same strict standards? After all, its women that you're having sex with, unless your gay. Keep in your pants, just like you encourage women to keep their legs shut. Because it is equally appalling to know that the man I want to spend my life with has been with numerous women before me, that is a turn off too! And it is also interesting how mature we can act about sexuality, but when somebody gets a disease, now all of a sudden we're all prim, proper and holier than thou. You don't have to be promiscuous to get a disease. You can get a disease from someone who got a disease with the one other person they had been with.Too many hypocrites out there whose policy is to "do as I say not as I do".
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written by warning....,
July 06, 2012 11:15 am
I am sitting in the lounge waiting for all you women, I have std,s and can be pretty rough. I also lurk at wedding receptions and singles parties. I am all for delivering my personal dna into your body....you will never see me again. Still think the one night stand is for you? a few drinkis and you will be ready to go.... i am waiting, a six pack and good looking, my smile and personality will win you over. You will pay for it the rest of your life. good luck
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written by Pamela,
July 06, 2012 12:04 pm
Having grown up in the sex, drugs, and rock 'n' roll era, I believe I speak from experience: DON'T DO IT ! When you settle for less than you are worth, You ARE worth less. The chance of disease, pregnancy, murder victim, gossip, and bad reputation, and loss of self respect are high. Is getting laid really worth all of that? The writer is full of bad, immoral advise. Love yourself enough to wait for the right guy. If you value yourself, someone who is just like you will find you and cherish you. Get out of the flesh and into the spirit. God does not like s**ts, but He always will be there for you when you value Him enough to value yourself. Shalom
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written by Laugh out Loud!,
July 06, 2012 12:06 pm
There is conspicuously no author to this article. The author must know it's terrible. I couldn't even read the whole first page, because it's so ridiculous. I skipped to the last to comment. I'm pretty sure the author is a man...who has no understanding of women. A wishful thinking delusional man.
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written by A Total Stranger,
July 06, 2012 01:07 pm
Go looking for sex with strangers, end up on the news.
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written by smarter than the dumba*s who wrote this article,
July 06, 2012 01:13 pm
What a STUPID article. HOw about DEAD as a con? OR, rest of your life ruined by something incurable. I hope someone sues the crap out of you for your cheap stunt to get advertising dollars. Your liable for what you print you know.
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written by jon,
July 06, 2012 01:36 pm
If you don't think it's ok for your mother or daughter to do it, then it's not ok for you to do it. So how would you feel if your mother or daughter were going out having one night stands?
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written by witnessman,
July 06, 2012 08:02 pm
this article could be retitled "how to be a w***e"
one rule says for a woman to enjoy herself while having a one night stand, for her not to worry about being considered a s**t, but isn't that what she would be considered if she have very many one night stands, and get this, the very next rule after "don't worry about being a s**t", it the rule that says be sure to do it with strangers rather than people you know, so women, the article suggests that you have spontaneous sex with strangers who you have no feelings for whatsoever, but don't think that makes you like a w***e or s**t...duh? wake up women, these values are not liberating, they make you less respectable
one rule says for a woman to enjoy herself while having a one night stand, for her not to worry about being considered a s**t, but isn't that what she would be considered if she have very many one night stands, and get this, the very next rule after "don't worry about being a s**t", it the rule that says be sure to do it with strangers rather than people you know, so women, the article suggests that you have spontaneous sex with strangers who you have no feelings for whatsoever, but don't think that makes you like a w***e or s**t...duh? wake up women, these values are not liberating, they make you less respectable
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written by carlman,
July 06, 2012 08:12 pm
Any person who indulges in anonymous hook-ups and then thinks that they are not going to transmit weird and negative signals to future life partners who actually love them is naive. That's the problem - you become what you do - you can hide the "facts", but not the emotional changes that make you cold and distant, unable to be satisfied with any particular partner - and it always shows to those who really care about you. For gals: not usually too concerned with guys sewing their oats before settling down : the problem, these guys are ( after the honeymoon ) usually not, if ever, satisfied, because any sexual problem is easier to solve by changing partners - that's what they know ! For guys : if having a life partner with lots of anonymous sexual experience was "hot", they'd all be lined up to settle down with prostitutes- sorry, with rare exceptions, this just doesn't happen.
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written by Bill 3,
July 07, 2012 02:06 pm
Explore your inner w***e!
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written by Ed,
July 07, 2012 04:07 pm
Is the author a S L U T ?
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written by Jason,
July 09, 2012 12:21 pm
I thought the article was fine. It was the comments that blew me away. I don't even really know where to begin. So I'll start with the one about men and women not being the same. I've got news for you: not all women are the same either. Some women CAN handle unattached sex. On the other hand, some men can't. The author of this comment was displeased about everyone being lumped into one big bucket, but seemed more than happy to lump everybody into TWO buckets and be done with it. Odd. Moving on to the comment that tells us that sex only belongs in a committed relationship. Maybe that is true for the writer of the comment, and if so that's fine. But who is he/she to judge everyone else and tell them what sex should be for in their lives? No one, that's who. Really, I could go on, but I won't. If I were female, the responses to this article would make me want to go bang ten random strangers just out of spite.
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written by Unbelieveable,
July 09, 2012 01:40 pm
Like women even need advice on how to be approachable for a one night stand. LOL
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written by Goodbar,
July 09, 2012 05:34 pm
Just call me if you need a one night stand. I'm a great liar, I will make you feel all the things you are missing, since i don't have to put up with your fu**king bulllsh**t everyday and get nagged about all of your problems and your luggage you never unpacked. You will probably look into your fiance's eyes and see me, because I am not real. You will want me more, maybe even send another love letter to validate your transgression as a w***e. You will never be able to learn to work on relationships and communication and trust because you are so into yourself you just want instant satisfaction and then to forget. I'm okay with it if you are, lets do some shots, blow me and f**k me and leave. That's what I pay addicted, diseased hookers for and hey you might even buy me a drink or bring over a bottle of wine. Don't even bother to understand what makes two people respect each other because after I break it off in your a** I can sleep with your friend tomorrow because she feels insecure after reading this article, too.
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written by PeacefulSilence,
July 10, 2012 12:25 pm
No wonder sexual transmitted diseases are so out of control!
Not only are people not respecting others! They do not even respect themselves...
Can't people understand sexual devience also creates monsters who think sexual pleasures condone uncontrolled behaviours against human beings!
What is needed is self control whereby our society will love one another.
Not only are people not respecting others! They do not even respect themselves...
Can't people understand sexual devience also creates monsters who think sexual pleasures condone uncontrolled behaviours against human beings!
What is needed is self control whereby our society will love one another.
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written by Jackson,
July 10, 2012 12:42 pm
The writer definitely in trying to justify this behavior has surely partaken of it ,,,,, making her a w***e and a s**t. Also....in the event she ever wishes to enter into a meaningful relationship with a "decent" man ,,,,, her past s**t like behavior, if learned, will most likely be a deal breaker. It surely would be for me. Sex with an unknown intoxicated individual is both irresponsible and dangerous. The article was written by a pig, plain and simple.
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written by EHE,
July 10, 2012 07:36 pm
The never-ending orgy of the mangy feral cats and other vermin in the alley. Women who lower themselves to this should recognize that their partners in this septic squalor are the losers, ne'er-do-wells, no-hopers and fringe dwellers who have zero character and zero self esteem. They wallow as many of these s**ts as possible who in turn try to get wallowed by the largest variety of scum possible. When a man of character and worth comes along these females expect him to, in effect, join the ranks of the dozens or hundreds of cr*p-humans who have been her "undocumented husbands" and just put out of mind her freakishly degenerate past.
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written by Tuan Vu,
July 11, 2012 02:49 am
This article about one night stands reminded me of people like Casey Anthony.
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written by Roland,
July 11, 2012 06:20 am
With all due respect to the writer (or writers) of this piece, if you can convince me that one-night standers can build a lasting civilization, I might rethink my views. Same thing with cheaters and gamblers, etc. But you can't, because progress we've already built can only be sustained by walking on that straight and narrow path. Am I being old-fashioned? Too religious? Don't think so. Analyze why nations truly fall, and it's mostly a consequence of moral decadence. Why do you think the Greeks are in a deep hole, and we Americans are on the brink of crashing in a big way? It may not happen overnight, but wrong is wrong and right is right, and treating sex ever casually sooner or later brings woes, even disasters. Do you think AIDS is like a headache which can be rid of with a pill? Loneliness or depression like a toothache that can be cured with a side trip to a dentist? You know better than that, my friend. Ah, we humans just can't seem to get it squarely in the face, which we should look at more often in front of a mirror—very honestly.
Why not writer articles that wake people up to reality, and so better all of us? The truth, whether it hurts or not, always sets one free. We're much more than animals.
Have a great and wonderful life, you all!
Why not writer articles that wake people up to reality, and so better all of us? The truth, whether it hurts or not, always sets one free. We're much more than animals.
Have a great and wonderful life, you all!
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written by G,
July 11, 2012 07:25 am
AND YOU LADIES THINK YOU ARE WINNING??
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written by TJ,
July 11, 2012 07:29 am
Women that do this are idiots. Have some self-esteem, and some self-respect. You have nothing to prove. I am a guy and I have no interest in doing this, or being with a woman who does.
Demented people write this crap to boost their own egos and line their pockets at the expense of other peoples lives and consciences. There's a reason people feel guilty and awkward after these encounters.
Stop being animals and stick to being human beings.
Demented people write this crap to boost their own egos and line their pockets at the expense of other peoples lives and consciences. There's a reason people feel guilty and awkward after these encounters.
Stop being animals and stick to being human beings.
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written by Hope,
July 11, 2012 09:39 am
This article puts on display the culture that is destroying this country. The family is the glue that holds society together. Without the family, no one is left to fight for, and tyranny can take hold. Sex is a bond between the married. To reduce it to recreation makes the bond impermanent, and marriage and family are disposed, and so are our freedoms. A truly evil bit of writing.
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written by sher,
July 11, 2012 07:25 pm
Whatever happened to the beauty of love? Now it's all about the booty and lust. Do we not think that our prized possession is a prize anymore? What about a one life stand? How about that?
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written by SissyBoyFloyd,
July 11, 2012 07:56 pm
Did Madonna write this? I blame her for the total destruction of girls/women's morality starting in the 80s. She is the most highly worshiped s**t in the history of the planet.
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written by George,
July 12, 2012 05:14 am
Who wrote this mindless trash! It is obviously not a Christian, moral person. Sounds like a lonely 20 something to me. I am happy I raised my daughter to have more respect for herself than the author. Suggest you take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror Ms. Hookup.
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written by Me,
July 12, 2012 08:26 am
Disgusting.. What a trashy article all-around. Don't need to say much more than that. If you need to look into the pros and cons of having a one-night stand, you probably shouldn't be having one.
BTW, doubt you'll get what you're looking for. Funny how the author's name isn't here, isn't it? If it is, I could care less looking for it if it isn't on top or bottom of work.
BTW, doubt you'll get what you're looking for. Funny how the author's name isn't here, isn't it? If it is, I could care less looking for it if it isn't on top or bottom of work.
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written by Haha!,
July 12, 2012 08:35 am
Clearly written by a girl rated no higher than a "5 out of 10" (that being very generous) having issues with self-respect. Getting with random guys make "you feel like the sexiest woman" alive. Haha! Yeah - that's the secret. Go bang some random stranger and you'll feel sooo very good about yourself. How about, realize you aren't and that the guys don't give one damn about you except for a little spot down below. Grow up, you dog. You are vile to this world. Learn to respect yourself and someone else and then maybe you'll feel like the sexiest woman alive to SOMEONE.
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written by Alex Mangum,
July 12, 2012 11:56 am
Terrible piece. It should be titled "how to be a s**t and make yourself feel like you are not one!!" Seriously people, this is a terrible bit of advice. Why can't we get a piece about how to have committed monogamous relationships. Or how to marry the right person for you. This is sad. Good luck with your empty, selfish and unfulfilling sexcapades. I hope no one takes this serious.
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written by Austin Shagwell,
July 12, 2012 05:37 pm
American women wonder "Why don't guys respect me? Why can't I find a decent guy?" Well duh, first a woman must respect herself to find a guy that will respect her. Second, a woman must be decent to find a decent guy. Almost all men will shag a scank but those men will not respect themself for doing the scank and they certainly will not respect the scank afterwards.
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written by A Dude,
July 12, 2012 07:10 pm
Great advice for women!! I really, REALLY hope they listen to and practice it. It will result in many fewer sexually frustrated women AND men. Thank you for writing something so realistic and truthful despite all the "morals" idiots that don't understand that the only thing immoral is hurting another person.
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written by livingthekingdom,
July 12, 2012 08:20 pm
I am so glad my thoughts rise beyond "don't worry, you will never see him again." Are you kidding me? Really? There is so much more available to us. We need to lift ourselves up, look higher, not settle for a fake relationship along with our 500 fake 'friends'. Having joy and satisfaction in our relationships requires we experience it in our daily lives. Success lives within our daily habits. Its so stereotypical modern day American twenty something to think microwave happiness. The author needs to be replaced with someone more qualified to offer advice on living a royal life worthy of a woman. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
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written by Yesirree Bob,
July 13, 2012 08:36 am
A Dude,
I guessing by your post that only idiots have morals. Or are you saying that intellectuals have no morals? So you'd rather have a society where there is no right or wrong and you don't have to worry about consequences.
Let's have more unwanted babies to abort, more deadbeat dads, more children growing up without any love or guidance.
BTW, everyone has a right to their opinions even immoral intellectuals like yourself.
I guessing by your post that only idiots have morals. Or are you saying that intellectuals have no morals? So you'd rather have a society where there is no right or wrong and you don't have to worry about consequences.
Let's have more unwanted babies to abort, more deadbeat dads, more children growing up without any love or guidance.
BTW, everyone has a right to their opinions even immoral intellectuals like yourself.
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written by Charlet,
July 13, 2012 02:55 pm
The long and short of it is that tramps have one night stands. If you do it, you have to live with yourself. Once it is done, you can't take it back....EVER.
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written by Anonanon007,
July 13, 2012 09:15 pm
Sorry to be a bit crude, but I think I'll tell it like it is on this one. It's not to say none of have made the mistake of having a one-night-stand, because I'm sure some have, and have felt badly about it. I'll tell you one thing, however, before I go searching for a stranger to go somewhere private with and risk my safety, my health, or my heart, I'm far more inclined to buy rechargeable batteries. A lot safer, and much less of a headache, I'm sure.
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written by bill,
July 14, 2012 08:54 am
As a man I want to respond to some comments. It is a myth that a man's sexuality is less connected to his emotions then women's are. Men who do one night stands are doing it for the same reason women do; they are engaging in a futile fantasy because 'real life' has left them emotionally unfulfilled.
The difference between men and women regarding their emotions in this area is the same as every other area of life; the masculine ideal requires some display of callousness or lack of sensitivity. Nothing reinforces this ideal more then the fact that women buy into it as much as men do. The fact that men learn this role can change many of them, but their healthy human emotions are still always a factor even if it gets a little hard to see sometimes.
The difference between men and women regarding their emotions in this area is the same as every other area of life; the masculine ideal requires some display of callousness or lack of sensitivity. Nothing reinforces this ideal more then the fact that women buy into it as much as men do. The fact that men learn this role can change many of them, but their healthy human emotions are still always a factor even if it gets a little hard to see sometimes.
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written by jpbrody,
July 14, 2012 11:42 am
Uhm . . . need to rate this article. Got anything less than one star?
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written by Nonsense,
July 14, 2012 02:10 pm
Ppl who have one night stands are ho's or man ho's with no sense of morality at all. They are nothing short of animals that can't control their urges and wait for the right one. All are tramps, male or female.
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written by Who Carez,
July 14, 2012 08:23 pm
Well one night stands, benifit usually 1 person(not always the guy) ....
I have seriously had more than the "average" players number of, "Meet,F@#k,Dump" Woman. I mean Woman, not neccessarily the ones I experienced, generaly Woman just want to do it more with "no strings."
W.C.Z.
I have seriously had more than the "average" players number of, "Meet,F@#k,Dump" Woman. I mean Woman, not neccessarily the ones I experienced, generaly Woman just want to do it more with "no strings."
W.C.Z.
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written by BS,
July 15, 2012 12:55 pm
Garbage like this is the reason our youth are morally bankrupt!
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written by One night stud,
July 15, 2012 05:26 pm
Where can I meet you, Kim?
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written by RJ,
July 15, 2012 07:03 pm
I'm a guy, and I disagree with all this non-sense.....The only thing that is accurate in the article is that it depicts what a s**t looks like perfectly.
I don't date s**ts, and I will never marry one.
I don't date s**ts, and I will never marry one.
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written by Karen,
July 15, 2012 08:42 pm
"Keeping it strictly-stranger can help you avoid problems and embarra*sing run-ins." Really? That's interesting. Because I have a friend whose aunt apparently decided, after a few drinks, to engage in a one-night stand with a stranger she met in the bar of the hotel where she was staying. Guess where she ended up: in a cornfield, hacked to pieces after being stabbed to death. You see, the stranger she had the misfortune of hooking up with was a married man w/kids who had just lost his job earlier that day. He obviously chose to take out all his anger & frustration over his situation (and likely, at himself and his failure) on this woman he'd just met - a woman who foolishly accompanied him to his hotel room after an evening of drinking.
Then there was the story of an aquaintance who went home w/a guy she met at her local bar. She was fortunate enough to not be murdered; she was "only" raped when she apparently reached a point where she didn't feel comfortable going any further, but the guy wasn't about to take "no" for an answer.
Lastly, let me tell you about my best friend, who wasn't even thinking about a one-night stand. She just went to the home of a man she met through an online dating website because he was going to cook her dinner. I warned her beforehand about going to the home of an essential stranger (she'd exchanged e-mails and phone calls with him, and had had one date in public prior to this.) But she just laughed at me, dismissing my "prudish", overly-cautious mentality, stating that this man's son was also going to be there. Guess what - she was extremely blessed to have not been raped; she made it home with only a few bruises on her arms from him grabbing her when he wanted more out of the date than she was prepared for.
The bottom line is not about morality or being a prude. THE FACT REMAINS that women ALWAYS have to be concerned about the possibility of being physically harmed (or worse) when involving themselves with strangers. You men who think you agree with the author about the "sexiness" of one-night stands, keep in mind how risky this is for women, and think of how you would feel if you learned that your sister, daughter, mother, cousin, or aunt had been harmed or murdered because they engaged in a one-night stand.
And you women who dismiss the rest of us as being prudish, or think that it could never happen to you, just wait. Your time may come, and it will if you choose to engage in such foolish & potentially dangerous behavior as this article recommends. Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones who walks away from such an encounter with "just" an STD or pregnancy. But you really need to ask yourself if it's worth putting your health, your physical safety, or even your life at risk, just for a moment of "fun".
Then there was the story of an aquaintance who went home w/a guy she met at her local bar. She was fortunate enough to not be murdered; she was "only" raped when she apparently reached a point where she didn't feel comfortable going any further, but the guy wasn't about to take "no" for an answer.
Lastly, let me tell you about my best friend, who wasn't even thinking about a one-night stand. She just went to the home of a man she met through an online dating website because he was going to cook her dinner. I warned her beforehand about going to the home of an essential stranger (she'd exchanged e-mails and phone calls with him, and had had one date in public prior to this.) But she just laughed at me, dismissing my "prudish", overly-cautious mentality, stating that this man's son was also going to be there. Guess what - she was extremely blessed to have not been raped; she made it home with only a few bruises on her arms from him grabbing her when he wanted more out of the date than she was prepared for.
The bottom line is not about morality or being a prude. THE FACT REMAINS that women ALWAYS have to be concerned about the possibility of being physically harmed (or worse) when involving themselves with strangers. You men who think you agree with the author about the "sexiness" of one-night stands, keep in mind how risky this is for women, and think of how you would feel if you learned that your sister, daughter, mother, cousin, or aunt had been harmed or murdered because they engaged in a one-night stand.
And you women who dismiss the rest of us as being prudish, or think that it could never happen to you, just wait. Your time may come, and it will if you choose to engage in such foolish & potentially dangerous behavior as this article recommends. Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones who walks away from such an encounter with "just" an STD or pregnancy. But you really need to ask yourself if it's worth putting your health, your physical safety, or even your life at risk, just for a moment of "fun".
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written by Karen,
July 15, 2012 09:04 pm
Some reality checks: I have a friend whose aunt apparently decided, after a few drinks, to engage in a one-night stand with a stranger she met in the bar of the hotel where she was staying. Guess where she ended up: in a cornfield, hacked to pieces after being stabbed to death. Apparently, the stranger she had the misfortune of hooking up with was a married man w/kids who had just lost his job earlier that day. He obviously chose to take out all his anger & frustration over his situation, himself & his failure on this woman he'd just met - a woman who foolishly accompanied him to his hotel room after an evening of drinking. He stabbed her to death, then drove to the local Walmart to purchase some coolers & an axe. He returned to his hotel room, where he proceeded to chop her body up, put her in the coolers, and dumped her body in a cornfield outside of town. Keeping it "strictly-stranger" didn't exactly help this woman "avoid problems and embarra*sing run-ins"; it ended her life.
Then there was the story of an acquaintance who went home w/a guy she met at her local bar. She was fortunate enough to not be murdered; she was "only" raped when she apparently reached a point where she didn't feel comfortable going any further, but the guy wasn't about to take "no" for an answer. I guess he didn’t subscribe to the author’s line of reasoning that "Just because you started something with a guy doesn’t mean you have to finish it.” So much for the “great exercise in pushing your personal boundaries and creating new life experiences to do something out of the ordinary and challenge yourself."
Then there was the story of an acquaintance who went home w/a guy she met at her local bar. She was fortunate enough to not be murdered; she was "only" raped when she apparently reached a point where she didn't feel comfortable going any further, but the guy wasn't about to take "no" for an answer. I guess he didn’t subscribe to the author’s line of reasoning that "Just because you started something with a guy doesn’t mean you have to finish it.” So much for the “great exercise in pushing your personal boundaries and creating new life experiences to do something out of the ordinary and challenge yourself."
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written by Karen,
July 15, 2012 09:25 pm
Please, ladies! You are FAR TOO VALUABLE to treat yourselves so carelessly as this article recommends!
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written by Rich,
July 16, 2012 02:17 am
This kind of thinking only starts to make sense if you believe that there isn't a God who we are accountable to. And I realize that a lot of people don't believe in God and sin against God. Don't let guilt affect you, they say. I wonder where they think guilt and conscience originated form.
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written by neekje,
July 16, 2012 06:07 am
first article about the pros of having a one night stand. interesting
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written by Igor,
July 16, 2012 06:45 am
Not all women are alike and some do very much enjoy anonymous sex. With that said this article is a blueprint for DANGER. Never get in a strangers car applies to 13 year old as well as a 23 year old.
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written by Me,
July 16, 2012 10:25 am
As a man, I've never respected male friends or other men that had one night stands--I do know that loose men are celebrated in some parts of our culture though. Women shouldn't be trying to "catch" up by being loose women, they should decry the loose men instead of trying to be loose women. Sure I think everyone has the fantasy where they can have guilt-free, and risk-free sex with strangers; but that's where it should stay IMO--fantasy.
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written by N/A,
July 16, 2012 01:26 pm
I've had several one night stands, some with protection and when she lets me, without protection ;) I can tell you after words my ego is sky high. I LOVED them, no strings, no emotion just raw pa*sion. I did luck out because without protection it's russian roulette but I'm happily married now so it's all good. Great memories though of waxing that a s s.
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written by Al,
July 16, 2012 01:56 pm
As a retired psychotherapist with LOTS of both ethical professional counseling, and years of personal sexual experience. (I quit counting at about 80.) I can tell you with absolute confidence that this article is a load of pure ****. One night stands are NOT a situation where "one size fits all." Many women (and men) are emotionally fragile and near the edge, while others are tough sociopaths who can handle unlimited sexual experiences as easily as taking a walk. Whoever wrote this article needs to do in-depth research or seek professional help themselves. This misinformation shouldn't be on the internet.
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written by Its_a_matter_of_self-respect,
July 17, 2012 12:06 am
To Fritz, N/A, and all the other men who are in favor of one-night stands: maybe you wouldn't be as "pro" for them if there were more Aileen Wuornoses in the world. In short, sure, one night stands are great as far as guys are concerned - they don't have to worry about the possibility of being beaten up, raped, or murdered. And the women who choose to subject themselves to such potentially dangerous situations all for the sake of momentary thrill really ought to seek professional counseling to find out why they have such a death wish.
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written by Louise,
July 17, 2012 12:36 am
@Al: I appreciated your professional perspective; I also found your choice of words interesting. I always thought the expression "casual sex" was somewhat of a misnomer, and that "sociopathic sex" was more accurate.
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written by JJ,
July 17, 2012 06:01 am
ok, the article forgot a few cons, like the high probability of really bad sex, or he could turn out to be a sadist. And do you really want a guy with something like herpes sticking his tongue in your mouth.
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written by happy,
July 17, 2012 10:22 am
DUH...I think you may have skipped a REAL drawback to one night stands.
How about stranger rape and murder?
How about stranger rape and murder?
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written by theta592,
July 17, 2012 11:12 am
A good friend of mine, now a middle-aged woman, had a history when she was younger of going to bars and ending up in one-night stands; when I asked her why she did it, she said that at the time she was feeling so poorly about herself that she didn't think she deserved anything better. Also, her first sexual experience was in college when she was date-raped, which was very traumatizing for her and I'm sure contributed to her later behavior. In fact, I think a lot of this loose behavior by both women and men originates in earlier traumas, very often from childhood, such that they're now trying to cover up or run away from the feelings and sensations produced by the trauma by escaping into sex. What these people need are understanding and healing, not judgments of being s**ts or w****s as evidenced in many of the comments here.
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written by Mister Nifty,
July 17, 2012 11:18 am
Thanks for bringing this porn out of the bedroom and into my living room. I guess next you will be sliming up my kitchen.
And remember well, my children, that before it can become a lying green piece of slime, it first has to lie.
And remember well, my children, that before it can become a lying green piece of slime, it first has to lie.
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A one night stand makes one feel guilty for a reason - it's immoral. Not like the "now you deserve to be executed" immoral. But the "this is destructive, and participating in it is simply going to decay your body and soul" immoral.
How about writing an article about pursuing love and genuine relationship?