The Pros and Cons of One-Night Stands

This is sad, and what makes it worse is for a woman to be suggesting it. Where is your dignity? Maybe you should find out what sex actually is for. This is really pathetic. Votes: +40

I'm very encouraged by the intelligent and humorous remarks the commentors, average lay people, are making in response to this article. We are thankfully smarter than some of these idiots these days who are unfortunately given the job of journalist. Votes: +58

A s**t is what you will be !! Votes: +0

I'm so tired of the dehumanizing tripe these types of articles present. All men are not amoral sex addicts, and thankfully all women are not w***es. Promiscuity is not "exploring" sexuality, it is misusing it the same way an alcoholic misuses alcohol. It is this sort of drivel that has so severely damaged the fabric of American life that divorce, STDs, abortion, and ruined lives are so commonplace. The author is doing a disservice to anyone gullible enough to consider this "advice." The idea of cheapening oneself in order to enjoy a few fleeting moments of pleasure is vile. Don't want to feel like a s**t? Simple, don't behave as one. Want to be a real man? Don't act like a cad. Votes: +75

Got one word for you,"DISEASES." Votes: +23

i love how they say women have been programed by society, and that they should embrace their sexuality... just an excuse... trying to justify the w***e mentality... cheap, empty, article... stunned the author had time to write with such a selfish life style... Votes: +44

H o o k e r! the article should state how much to charge for such a callous experience... Votes: +4

Everyone should follow the suggestions in this article. That is, if you want to put yourself in danger, get a STD, or destroy your rep. If any of that happens to you, sue the pants off this clueless author. But they are probably not on anyway. Votes: +9

How virtuous we all are when the ring goes on. Are you all trying to tell me you were virgins - and men, this includes you! - when you got married? Votes: +7

I was a bit depressed after wading through this article. But I have to say that I am heartened by many of the comments here.

Men like to look at hot chicks (yes, me too). We get turned on by them. But that doesn't mean we want want to have sex with them all, respect the, or want to have a relationship with them.

In fact, most men I know, after look at some hot skank on the web, will turn and say, "but I wouldn't f*ck her with YOUR d*ck."

Some women get confused by male sexual interested and think that they have to act like w***es to get a man, when in reality it will turn us away (after the initial turn on).

That's what this article appeals to. Confused and stupid girls who think that the way to get a man is to act like the worst of us.

-Ken

Votes: +34

Social fascism has ribbed our girls of childhood, and womanhood, They have all become caveman ho's. I have lost respect for 99% of the women, They have no respect for themselves. Votes: +16

robbed! Them! Votes: -2

Morally reprehensible and just plain STUPID ! Votes: +11

So here we are....One night stand....morals...no, affection...nope .... just animal instict at work. Little by little we degrade because we hit a bump, are fustrated or just plain horrny. Whatever we choose to do at the end we will receive a reward. Choose wisely! Votes: +19

Written by a soulless animal-like creature who certainly is not a woman. If you want to make a fool of yourself, lose all your self respect, do not treasure your virginity or gender, then you act like an animal without religion or a conscience. No sense of values, no sense of decency, not caring about yourself or anyone else. Your parents never looked beyond the present apparently, and you have no self esteem or feeling of self worth. I feel sorry for you. Votes: +20

Sad. Men are not objects. Sex with a stranger planning it to only be a one night stand? How is this in any way respectful to the man involved? Why lead a guy on like that. Contrary to what some women think guys like women for far more than sex and want meaningful relationships. This pathetic article suggests treating the poor guy like a prostitute. Votes: +40

What's next? Being a single mom is a badge of honor?
We all make mistakes, right?
How many of us take responsibility for our own actions? Votes: +16

This has got to be one of *the* stupidist articles I think I have ever read. No wonder the author left their name off the article.

One thing though - with all of the problems going on in society with so many dysfunctional relationships ... yeah, now I think I get it. More one-night stands. That *really* adds more emotional stability to one's screwed-up life, doesn't it? NOT! Votes: +24

Five will get you ten the author of this article is a man-hating lesbian. Votes: +2

Perfect way to share an STD with your future spouse/significant other/child down the road (yes; herpes can be pa*sed on to your child at birth). Think of it as the gift that keeps on giving. If someone will hop into bed with you at first sight, believe me, you are not the first. At least get paid for it if you're gonna be a ho, dumba$$. Votes: +27

Girls, are you going to read this crap and take it seriously? Sounds like it was written by a typical vapid young girl. Votes: +13

"Keeping it to yourself can be a great little secret that adds to your mystery and relationship wisdom".

"RELATIONSHIP WISDOM???" I like that. Maybe when your kids are infested with herpes coldsores they got from sharing your cup during an eruption of blisters finally manifesting openly and which you acquired unbeknownst from 5 minutes of guilty pleasure, you can wisely inform them how they got it, and how to avoid making the same mistake. Votes: +24

Uhh what about the women who are murdered because of meeting strangers? Think Jorn Van Der Sloot and Natalie Holloway or the Brazilian chick he murdered? What a worthless article. Just the thing to teach young women. Your sexuality is yours, its valuable, it can be fulfilled in many ways, but with strangers? Nope...not worth it, you will feel like crap after, having devalued your being. Hire a male hooker..at least you know where you got him from. Votes: +19

This article is intellectually, morally, and grammatically vacuous. It was either written by a horny guy pushing for a high word count, or a woman who thinks she's much more enlightened than she is.
A one night stand makes one feel guilty for a reason - it's immoral. Not like the "now you deserve to be executed" immoral. But the "this is destructive, and participating in it is simply going to decay your body and soul" immoral.
How about writing an article about pursuing love and genuine relationship? Votes: +11

I have NEVER read a more self loathing, self deprecating morally reprehensable piece of journelism in all of my life. I don't know who the author of this piece is , but she is a Hooo!!!!!. Women being instructed on how to be a screw up. Is it not a better idea of stating how some men need to take care of their women, the mother of their children. Hell, those are the real men. But no, lets teach women how to behave like those maggots that are having kids all over the place and speading disease's. Thats liberating, to act like a iresponsible human f**king being and spread the your misery on to others. Then society wonders why people need to take medication and therapy because " I don't like who I'am." Yeah, well go out and Hoo around a few nights, that will cheer you up!!!!!!!!! Talk about instant gratfication, that really works. Let me see, if I do something I really like (this 1 nite stand crap), why don't I just keep doing it if it makes me happy? Ladies this is why Billy is 45 years old and still lives with mom!!!!!! Hell, if I cant get a piece of a*s with no attachments every weekend, why would I get married, and have kids and have a worth while relationship and in the proccess bring up the next generation of morally responsible human beings that We as parents would like to see live healthy and happy lives. This article had to be written by someone who has no children, whose mother was not looked by her with the respect that she deserved, and that clearly has not been in a healthy relationship. Votes: +11

Men on the hunt for a cheap one night stand will love this article but I pity the women who will see it as enlightening. Being a cheap s**t is really not a good thing. Votes: +15

Article should have been titled, "worlds worst advise" Votes: +13

The article should have been titled "worlds worst advise'. There is no better way to catch a disease, or get killed than 'hooking up" with a stranger. Votes: +6

Go ahead ladies,act like a w***e because we will stick our d-cks in anything
and anyone at anytime---Thank You Very Much--- Votes: -5

If someone gave this same advice to the daughters, nieces, cousins of the writer I bet all hell would break out.

I'm reminded of a little slogan that said something to the effect of eating your own words. Anyone else think it might be most ironic for the person who wrote this to learn her little female relatives are acting like the town s***t? Votes: +3

This was probably written by one of the skanky s**ts who break up relationships. by all means, give men more power to act like no conscience animals by throwing them a piece of meat. our society is trying to tell everyone that everything liberal is ok: group sex, gangbangs, s and m, its ridiculous, stupid and you are going to give young girls the wrong idea, who can't filter out the stupidity of an article from such a ho. women won't be respected until they demand it and have it for themselves. its bad enough we have establishments called hooters and bimbo bakeries, now some vapid little tease is trying to write articles advising women how to have one night stands, so disgusting. you are, basically an idiot and you should not have a public blog, that is for certain. stick to cocktail waitressing, where, you know, you put yourself through school for. so pathetic. Votes: +8

Anyone know why we didn't hear the victums of one knight stands talk? Yep you guessed it, they become tragic victums or are killed by preditors. I can't even remember an article that was worse than this. Votes: +2

I don't know why any feeling person would want to have a one night stand. When I was a divorced man in my 30s I had a few one night stands, but never intentionally. I learned that most divorced women of a similar age would not go out with me a second time if I didn't try to make love, so I made it a point to try. Some just wanted to feel desired, and I accepted their rejection without pushing, but most said yes.

My philosophy is that it makes no sense to get rid of a good thing. If we made a connection, I would continue ask her to go out whether we made love or not. One woman and I had a lot of fun for almost a year until she moved, but neither of us saw the other as the right match as a life partner. After more than 25 years we are still friends, but no longer lovers. You can't always make a friend, but it is great when you can. It's so much better to share your pa*sion with someone when you care for each other, even if it's just as friends. Votes: +9

I'd rather masturbate. No fear of pregnancy or STD. Votes: +11

What no one tells you about is the HPV 16 & 18 virus which can and does give you oral cancers in forms you never thought possible. THe sinister part of this disease is you can not know about it for up to ten years AFTER exposure! It is a brutal, ravaging cancer that when caught early, will respond well, but you can easily reach stage four before being diagnosed with it. I was lucky. I only lost my voice, all my teeth and my ability to eat solid foods. Some lose their entire lower jaw, their tongues, or both. THis comes from oral sex. Something you just might want to try on that 'one night stand' and ten years later, not even remember it or who or even why. You just know you now have throat cancer and could very easily die from it. Treatments are very rough. THe outcome could easily be as I mentioned above. THink I am off base? Google oral sex and HPV 16 & 18. Can't cure stupid. Votes: +19

Yeah, my wife tried this when we were engaged, when we went out to dinner together she had a quickie in the parking lot. I found out after she married me, had four children and now I hate her. Votes: +10

Good advice to whomever wants to behave like an idiot. Votes: +7

Let's be honest here. If it weren't for one-night stands, some people would never have sex at all. A few experiences probably won't hurt you, but the more you do it, the greater the risk. Don't make a habit of it. Votes: +1

If this were a men's "how-to" on how to bang as many hot chicks as possible, there would hardly be any men objecting to it. Funny how the morality flies out the window when men's sexuality is encouraged. But all of a sudden the double standardsd and insecurities arise if a woman so much as even considers having the audacity to have more than one sexual partner in her life. The word "virgin" gets thrown around. How many of you men are virgins, or were virgins before you got married? How would you like to be held to the same strict standards? After all, its women that you're having sex with, unless your gay. Keep in your pants, just like you encourage women to keep their legs shut. Because it is equally appalling to know that the man I want to spend my life with has been with numerous women before me, that is a turn off too! And it is also interesting how mature we can act about sexuality, but when somebody gets a disease, now all of a sudden we're all prim, proper and holier than thou. You don't have to be promiscuous to get a disease. You can get a disease from someone who got a disease with the one other person they had been with.Too many hypocrites out there whose policy is to "do as I say not as I do". Votes: +21