The Pros and Cons of One-Night Stands

Any semblance of morals is out the door. You wonder why you feel lonely or depressed after your one night stand? I think it's called guilt, which in most cases comes because of bad choices. Ladies, is this what you will teach your daughters? Well, you are a daughter too, it's best you start acting like it, rather than wondering why everyone thinks you're used baggage, with no self esteem, but there if someone needs a "lay". Votes: +32

This article is devoid of any sign of moral or emotional depth. It reads as though it was written by a teenager - it is self-serving and full of rationalization and reeks of someone who has not lived long enough to understand that sex is not the same thing for men and women. Consider that unfair if you want, but it is biology. The attempts at "anaylsis" of human behavior in this piece are superficial at best and laughable. This is supposed to be an "expert" commentary? What this artiicle lacks, aside from anything approaching a moral compa*s for human interaction, is wisdom. I thought people had learned something from the excesses of the 60's. Apparently not. I have worked with teens for the last 36 years, and I can't tell you how many young people are left shattered, cyncal and empty by this kind of behavior. I'm sorry, but it happens more to females than to males, whether you want that to be true or not. No to be crude, but the sex act is a different thing for males and females, with often very different psychological consequences. I can't understand why "feminists", for political reasons, would give young women advice that is damaging to them. Votes: +68

I believe the writer of this article is a pig, plain & simple. Votes: +38

There is no such thing as a one night stand. Believe it or not you will be emotionally tied to this person without even knowing it for a long time. The writer needs an education in human psychology before writing harmful things like this. Votes: +53

I'm really appalled by the comments. Most of the men here agree with the double standards, I'm guessing? I know it might sound fictional to you, but, sometimes, I want sex. And not a relationship. Just like some of you men, and other women. I'm fine with one or two one night stands. I have never been emotionally devastated, like some of you would like to believe. I'm certainly no more a s**t than any man who's ever had a one night stand. " UR NOT THE SAME AS US, YOU CANT HAVE ONE NIGHT STANDS" what a joke. Votes: -5

How disgustingly grotesque. There's not enough condoms in the entire Walmart for any hosebag trolling for boners as encouraged by this article.. Simply skanky. Unless, of course, it's written by some college guy with an angle and a plan, in which case... brilliant? Votes: +20

what a load of crap. who writes this garbage Votes: +43

Well I am not sure why the media tries to tell women the can have guilt free one night stands.

As my girlfriend says women just can't separate the two, emotions and sex.

From my own personal experiences with women and one night stands it never was just that. There were emails, texts, phone calls all wanting to go out again. That is not a one night stand.

Personally I feel bad for women, who read this kind of stuff and go into the world thinking they will be able to have sex like a guy Votes: +24

This is sad, and what makes it worse is for a woman to be suggesting it. Where is your dignity? Maybe you should find out what sex actually is for. This is really pathetic. Votes: +39

I'm very encouraged by the intelligent and humorous remarks the commentors, average lay people, are making in response to this article. We are thankfully smarter than some of these idiots these days who are unfortunately given the job of journalist. Votes: +58

A s**t is what you will be !! Votes: +0

I'm so tired of the dehumanizing tripe these types of articles present. All men are not amoral sex addicts, and thankfully all women are not w***es. Promiscuity is not "exploring" sexuality, it is misusing it the same way an alcoholic misuses alcohol. It is this sort of drivel that has so severely damaged the fabric of American life that divorce, STDs, abortion, and ruined lives are so commonplace. The author is doing a disservice to anyone gullible enough to consider this "advice." The idea of cheapening oneself in order to enjoy a few fleeting moments of pleasure is vile. Don't want to feel like a s**t? Simple, don't behave as one. Want to be a real man? Don't act like a cad. Votes: +74

Got one word for you,"DISEASES." Votes: +23

i love how they say women have been programed by society, and that they should embrace their sexuality... just an excuse... trying to justify the w***e mentality... cheap, empty, article... stunned the author had time to write with such a selfish life style... Votes: +43

H o o k e r! the article should state how much to charge for such a callous experience... Votes: +3

Everyone should follow the suggestions in this article. That is, if you want to put yourself in danger, get a STD, or destroy your rep. If any of that happens to you, sue the pants off this clueless author. But they are probably not on anyway. Votes: +9

How virtuous we all are when the ring goes on. Are you all trying to tell me you were virgins - and men, this includes you! - when you got married? Votes: +7

I was a bit depressed after wading through this article. But I have to say that I am heartened by many of the comments here.

Men like to look at hot chicks (yes, me too). We get turned on by them. But that doesn't mean we want want to have sex with them all, respect the, or want to have a relationship with them.

In fact, most men I know, after look at some hot skank on the web, will turn and say, "but I wouldn't f*ck her with YOUR d*ck."

Some women get confused by male sexual interested and think that they have to act like w***es to get a man, when in reality it will turn us away (after the initial turn on).

That's what this article appeals to. Confused and stupid girls who think that the way to get a man is to act like the worst of us.

-Ken

Votes: +34

Social fascism has ribbed our girls of childhood, and womanhood, They have all become caveman ho's. I have lost respect for 99% of the women, They have no respect for themselves. Votes: +16

robbed! Them! Votes: -2

Morally reprehensible and just plain STUPID ! Votes: +11

So here we are....One night stand....morals...no, affection...nope .... just animal instict at work. Little by little we degrade because we hit a bump, are fustrated or just plain horrny. Whatever we choose to do at the end we will receive a reward. Choose wisely! Votes: +19

Written by a soulless animal-like creature who certainly is not a woman. If you want to make a fool of yourself, lose all your self respect, do not treasure your virginity or gender, then you act like an animal without religion or a conscience. No sense of values, no sense of decency, not caring about yourself or anyone else. Your parents never looked beyond the present apparently, and you have no self esteem or feeling of self worth. I feel sorry for you. Votes: +20

Sad. Men are not objects. Sex with a stranger planning it to only be a one night stand? How is this in any way respectful to the man involved? Why lead a guy on like that. Contrary to what some women think guys like women for far more than sex and want meaningful relationships. This pathetic article suggests treating the poor guy like a prostitute. Votes: +39

What's next? Being a single mom is a badge of honor?
We all make mistakes, right?
How many of us take responsibility for our own actions? Votes: +16

This has got to be one of *the* stupidist articles I think I have ever read. No wonder the author left their name off the article.

One thing though - with all of the problems going on in society with so many dysfunctional relationships ... yeah, now I think I get it. More one-night stands. That *really* adds more emotional stability to one's screwed-up life, doesn't it? NOT! Votes: +24

Five will get you ten the author of this article is a man-hating lesbian. Votes: +2

Perfect way to share an STD with your future spouse/significant other/child down the road (yes; herpes can be pa*sed on to your child at birth). Think of it as the gift that keeps on giving. If someone will hop into bed with you at first sight, believe me, you are not the first. At least get paid for it if you're gonna be a ho, dumba$$. Votes: +27

Girls, are you going to read this crap and take it seriously? Sounds like it was written by a typical vapid young girl. Votes: +13

"Keeping it to yourself can be a great little secret that adds to your mystery and relationship wisdom".

"RELATIONSHIP WISDOM???" I like that. Maybe when your kids are infested with herpes coldsores they got from sharing your cup during an eruption of blisters finally manifesting openly and which you acquired unbeknownst from 5 minutes of guilty pleasure, you can wisely inform them how they got it, and how to avoid making the same mistake. Votes: +24

Uhh what about the women who are murdered because of meeting strangers? Think Jorn Van Der Sloot and Natalie Holloway or the Brazilian chick he murdered? What a worthless article. Just the thing to teach young women. Your sexuality is yours, its valuable, it can be fulfilled in many ways, but with strangers? Nope...not worth it, you will feel like crap after, having devalued your being. Hire a male hooker..at least you know where you got him from. Votes: +19