The Pros and Cons of One-Night Stands

*sigh* what a relief to see the comments on here that say just what a stupid article and pathetic attempt at writing a story. Just really amateur stuff all across.

I love the comment about never seeing that person again and the writer states it so 'matter of factly' really you've never run into anyone you've know, ever?! This person obviously doesn't live in the real world and this article feels like it's not coming from someone who's experienced in these social situations Votes: +3

Women need to value themselves.
ONSs are of no value and can produce numerous consequences...you get the picture.
Votes: -1

grow up, all you puritan commentators who are so perfect. good, decent women do this more than you would think. i met a very nice person on vacation asking her to spend the afternoon and then dinner together which wound up becoming a great night together. she flew out the next day and i never saw her again. she was smart, nice, fit, attractive, kind, well rounded. we both hadn't dated since long term relationships ended for us and we found comfort/fun in each other's arms. it was really really good sex too (with a morning second time to match) like we'd known each other for decades...so put that in your puritan pilgrim hats and eat it. we lay together for hours talking after great sex and she said she hadn't had that in ages and felt so good. i felt the very same thing. and can you puritans handle that she laughed with her hands on her face after sex because he had more orgasm in 2 hours than in 10 years. and several more after morning sex that almost made her late for plane because she didn't want to leave? are you plugging your ears and holding your nose when i tell you she said it was the first time she had orgasms with just straight intercourse in her entire life? i happen to be a very nice person as she was and professional, well rounded, not at all a player or dirt bag so get your heads out of the gutter that one night stands for women are with dirty men, losers, just looking to get off for perverted pleasure. many women have really good one night stands and for you puritans (who would fit in afghanistan because you can't handle the thought of women having fun without society's judgement)... well, maybe you ought to get a little wide-eyed that the world spins in ways you don't have any clue about. there was a sexual revolution (good or bad who knows) because for centuries the puritans ruled with their stoning of women who dared have fun like the men might. the author just gave advice that many good women already use to get a night of pa*sion that may not be as horrible as you seem to think. many many women endure sexual and physically abusive marriages for decades at the hands of men they took a vow with and perhaps gave their virginity to. and she clearly noted the dark side or potential nasty bits everyone should seriously consider. she in no way glorified it or made it seem like the best thing ever. you puritans jumped on her because she pointed out it might actually be fun and liberating for some women. the woman i met felt like someone i knew back home that i would have dated for sure. we bonded quickly and sex was a great ending to our 24 hours together. i'll remember her forever with nothing but a smile and satisfaction. not a single negative or regret. the morning sex she initiated has me sure she feels the same way. so go finish off your bag of chips and stop being so judgmental as if you've got life all figured out perfectly. go be miserable not having any great adventures in your life to look back on. you people remind me of a great-aunt i had who was a nice lady but, man, was all kinds of kooky with her ideas on how females should behave. and married to a boozer who couldn't have been much of a lover. sex between strangers can be beautiful as it can be for long time lovers and spouses. that freaks you out, doesn't it...puritans. go take your negative venom and dumb preaching to iran where you'd fit right in. Votes: +3

I read the title of an article from one of those mags at the checkout. "you've had the affairs the one-night stands and the abortions, now why can't you get a nice guy to court you?" Duh! Votes: +2

Why not get paid? If you are into allowing men to objectify you, then you can make good money? Real good money if God has blessed you with a healthy, well proportioned body and a nice face. So plug into that most ancient of underground economies and gratify yourselves with some cold, hard cash to compliment your cold, hard hearts. Votes: +2

Yes, follow the advice in the article. America needs more pigs**ts. Votes: -1

Unbelievable! Get lost with that! No wonder men don't want to get married. Votes: -1

I couldn't even finish the article but advocating this kind of garbage is why our society is crumbling. What chance do lifelong relationships have, with all their work and sacrifice, if a perpetual 17 year old high school boy mentality is the new social norm for adults? What a horrible, narcissistic, sick article. Humans reduced to farm animals. Votes: +0

what a bunch of uninformed idiotic closeminded bigoted comments. Votes: +0

I remember the last one night stand i had it was sex in the back seat and for some reason she starting saying she loved me. kinda odd but didnt let it ruin the moment. Votes: -3

Yet another example that society is degenerating at every level.
There is nothing empowering about a woman sleeping around, but unfortunately this is the message that people are being fed from an early age - especially by the media-industrial complex that is literally 'pimping' little teenage girls to sell merchandising crap (and as soon as they hit 17 or 18, lo and behold the naked pics and sex videos are 'leaked', in an effort to transition them to appeal to an adult audience and remain financially viable). Votes: +0

Knitting together the future of man and woman is love,
a fidelity and common interest that is also friendship.

The bond that draws a man and a woman together,
in the first place is friendship.

It is their friendship that they have decided is so profound and precious,
that they have pledged to show it in a way,
they will not to anyone else.

It is their friendship that they deem so important,
that they ask the Lord to give them a lifetime,
of grace through the joining to preserve it.

The conjugal friendship, as the only kind of friendship,
that allows for a closeness so complete.

That one of its proper activities is to love the other with one's body,
is the sole species of human friendship that has its own sacrament.

The solemnity of a sacrament is the only befitting means,
to treat a friendship of this seriousness.

For incarnate beings as we are,
who are fusions of body and spirit.

The act of loving another with one's body
has enormous significance.

Because our bodies are inseparable from our spirits,
the act of of loving with one's body,
invariably means that one's whole self-spirit, too-is involved.

That is why casual sexual union is so demeaning and damaging.

We are not people who can offer our bodies alone.

Our spirits always tag along.

Our incarnate nature gives us the possibility of loving another,
so completely that the love itself will become flesh in a new life.

It is no wonder, then,
that a phenomenon so powerful encompa*ses our whole selves,
body, mind, heart, and soul.

Moreover, it is right,
that a union that entails such complete self-giving,
should be exclusive.

We can have a number of friends,
but we can give ourselves completely only to one. Votes: -1

Who is the 'brain-dead' fool idiot who wrote this piece of trash? Whoever it is, I'll guarantee you they couldn't light 25 watts on a good day. As a licensed California Marriage & Family therapist, I'll will tell you it is this kind of utter 'crap'- two-bit advice thaqt ruins people's lives and I have 27,000 hours of counseling and 30 years of experience to back me up. FORGET this article. Hopefully the nut-case who wrote it won't be revealing their stupidity again anytime soon. Votes: -1

One word......HERPES ! Votes: -1

The trouble with most one night stands is that they are fueled by alcohol (or drugs) and this leads people to do things they will later regret. Do whatever you want, but only if you REALY ant to. And you can't know if you realy want to when you are drunk. If you can't do it cold stone sober, you probably shouldn't be doing it. If you can, go ahead. Votes: +4

WHO WRITES THIS SICKENING PUKE TRASH !!! There is nothing PRO about this ! One night stands hold a lifetime of bad memeories, regrets possible DISEASE, trust flushed down the toilet and a host of other things that should be despised and looked down on,... As a married man of almost 20 years with two beautiful kids and a FAITHFUL and loving wife I would NEVER dream of screwing this up for some BIMBO,.... YOu people really need to get a life and find God because apparently you have NO MORAL COMPa*s what so ever ! PRO'S TO A ONE NIGHT STAND, YEA RIGHT ! I THINK YOU BETTER STOP SMOKING CRACK, WHAT A BUNCH OF DOUCHBAGS WHO WRITE THIS CRAP, AND IDIOT FRIGGIN PEOPLE WHO LISTEN TO THEM !!! HAVE NICE DISEASE !! BY THE WAY AFTER YOU SCREW SOME BIMBO DON'T FERGET OT TELL YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND,
" HONEY I LOVE YOU " YEA OKAY SEE YOU IN DIVORCE COURT,.... Votes: -3

The person who wrote this garbage puke should be fired and not rehired anywhere in society, I would not want this person even pumping gas, This is a very sick and twisted world we are living in and these types of people who write this crap are proof of that,... Votes: +0

This is honestly the worst article I have ever read. I stopped at the first page. Votes: +2

American woman are the bigest piles of shiiit on the planet, they want everything but desrve nothing! fat, ugly, greedy, w***es. Ill take a foreighn woman anyday. Just look at the piece of shiiit that wrote this garbage. Votes: -2

I'm surprised that no one mentioned the worst possible outcome ( and unfortunately a common one)for women for a " one-night-stand", i.e., being murdered or left for dead. Happens all the time. As the author says "even if you feel bad about it later, don't beat yourself up for too long. After all, you will never see that person again " and society may never see or hear from you again because you're dead. Votes: +0

Any man or woman who goes around sleeping with a bunch of strangers are s**ts. Both sexes need to slow down on their sexual overdrive. Not only does it make them look like animals, but also does it make them pathetic. One-night stands are not worth it. Who cares about gaining the “experience”? Do we need to even go there? That sort of thinking is immature and ridiculous. All that really accomplishes is a degrading of oneself. An overused body sounds rather cheap, don’t you think? If you lack the experience, than that’s great! Save yourself for someone special, maybe someone who has waited just like you. Then, both of you can discover the wonder and intimacy of sex together, and it would be a beautiful moment that only the two of you will share. But it’s not always going to be clean-cut like that. Maybe either you or your partner made some mistakes in the past (cheating is NOT a mistake; it’s a choice). If it’s your partner, don’t be bitter about it. Just be careful around a guy or girl who hasn’t quit their promiscuous behavior.
Ladies, you don’t need to be like the sex-crazed animals out there. It’s not worth it and you won’t get any respect that way. Men, even if you’re hardwired that way, it really isn’t worth cheapening your bodies by going out and sleeping with whoever, whenever. Your bodies aren’t your minds. Think of it this way. If you don’t want your BF or GF to be cheap, then what gives you the right to be cheap and not them? Votes: +1

oh dear dear dear so many prudes!!! One night stands are truly the BEST SEX!
Love is grand, yes, blah, blah, butlove is RARE! Why wait? What if you never find "Mr. Right"? You want to go to your grave a virgin because you believe the myth of finding the right one? YOu have to (expletive) a few frogs first. I don't get it. Having sex with someone cute, nice, funny, sexy, etc. is OK! It's ok! I had a couple of boyfriends, and a few one nighters before I met my husband. I was 30 when I met him. I can't imagine being a virgin til that age. Im glad I got all my lousy, inexperienced,clumsy sex over with by the time he came along. YOu prudes are probably Americans and proud of your "virtue". I treasure my body and do not consider enjoying what I am supposed to enjoy "cheapening" myself. I have been married 27 years to the same guy who says if I was a virgin when we met he would have run the other way. Votes: +1

I'm a guy and even I don't want to meet this loser s**t. Votes: +0

I agree with the detractors. The moral degradation and the potential for serious incurable disease is enough to make me advise you to get your mind on straight and please yourself alone as you feel the need. I know God is out of style but He’ll be back in a big way soon and all the idiots who think that is mythology are going to meet a sorrowful end. Avoid a LOT of trouble in a world full of filth, degradation, and human trafficking. Mother told you not to talk to strangers. This wise doctor is also telling you not to f**k them. www - bh2012 dot com Votes: -1

Cool now women get to be as trashy as men. Votes: +0

Ellen, after you effed the frogs, did you give hubby some warts as a wedding gift? Votes: -1

I think I need to take a shower after reading this. Disgusting! Get a dildo for crying out loud! Votes: -2

i admit, this is like a train wreck, so i looked. But omg, this is the saddest piece of writing i've seen for so long. as a man, i have never been sexually active the way this trash is stating. I do NOT buy that it can enhance committed relationships. The more sex without committment (selfish flesh-gratification) the more likely emotional and mental health problems. I know, I am a MH professional. if today i met a woman who'd been into this, i'd run away as fast as i could. that is a real man's perspective. and i'd expect the same of myself. keep lying. keep deceiving others to follow this wickedness. we reap what we sow, make no mistake. Votes: +1

I love the bit about telling your friends where you're going to be for awhile.

Yeah, right. Even guys lie about that one! Votes: +0

This --> from dwight: " i admit, this is like a train wreck, so i looked. But omg, this is the saddest piece of writing i've seen for so long. as a man, i have never been sexually active the way this trash is stating. I do NOT buy that it can enhance committed relationships. The more sex without committment (selfish flesh-gratification) the more likely emotional and mental health problems. I know, I am a MH professional. if today i met a woman who'd been into this, i'd run away as fast as i could. that is a real man's perspective." Well said. THAT is a real man's perspective, and real men are looking for real women. Real people. Real souls. Votes: +0

men are visual, women are emotional. as a married man yes the sex between my wife and i is amazing! the trust we know what we like! as a young middle twenty's guy with his own apartment.......gimmie a break we men want to jump up and down like a new flavor at baskin robbins'. we eventually grow up, but we were born visual and want to go out on the hunt. we are good guys just need our sexual freedom until we mature, and if single women are willing participants...well play ball. don't tell a man what the best sex is cause your not a man! if you cheat than thats a different story. Votes: +3

What a disgusting article. Votes: +1

One night stands are disgusting! I can't imagine that anyone who actually respects themself would participate in one. If a girl needs self esteem then this is not the way to achieve it, unless of course she's looking for STDs, an unwanted pregnancy, or a quick way to feel used. I like the line from Clueless..."you know how picky I am about my shoes and they only go on my feet." Votes: +0

What a huge steaming pile of CRAP this article was. The writer can be proud that HE "generated controversy" but nothing more. Votes: +0

I apologize for the typos as I wrote the previous post on my iPad which sometimes replaces words with different words as I type. For instance know for no. Unfortunately, after posting I noticed that their was not an edit tab on the forum Votes: -2

seems like the cons outweight the pros...it also seems like a dude wrote this article. Votes: +1

Men want promiscuous women for easy sex but do NOT want to commit to a promiscuous woman. Reasons include the risk of infidelity (inability of a promiscuous women to keep commitment), risk of cuckolding (no, men don't want to be tricked into spending time/money raising other guys' kids), risk of disease, risk of divorce and financial enslavement. All your feminist books and over-educated babbling will not change human nature. You have been warned. Votes: +0

I cant believe whomever wrote this article gets to teach people (directed at women) the positive value of a one night stand. Look at each article very carefully. If the writer is leaving warning signs all over the place, STD, Stranger may be Danger, Watch your drink, tell your friends, and on and on and on, why would you do it? Basically if you dont care about contracting a disease, getting beat up or murdered, its fine. I guarantee the person who wrote this article is a liberal with parents who had the same practices who would never even think of celebrating a golden wedding anniversary. Votes: +0

Here's the problem with sex in the context of this article, and for the Phd "modern" lady that wrote a book about her daughters, etc.-- having sex this way is ultimately a poor choice if we're being honest, because, inherently, it's SELFISH. Having sex just for the sake of sex is obviously, blatantly, using another person's body as a tool, for your own physical, sensual pleasure. It doesn't matter that the other person is enjoying it too-- it is empty, because it does not involve the other person. You don't know them, and they don't know you. They don't know what you stand for, and you don't know what they stand for. For all you know, you might not like anything about what they believe, or what they represent, yet you are willing to give your biggest physical gift to a stranger? It's very, very, simple Phd, it's taking, not giving, it's selfish, not selfless, and it lacks the one thing human beings are happiest at engaging in and really the one thing that ultimately sustains us-- the ability to engage in loving another, and letting ourselves be loved. And also, women and men do not have the same mindset about sex, and the social dynamic of valuing sexuality is completely different. Any woman that is either teaching or taught that because their body can affect and influence men, they should draw their own sense of confidence from this, is sorely mistaken and carrying around a completely myopic, warped, incorrect and naively sad perspective on what their actual value really is.

Also, I managed to graduate from high school, and went to college for 3 years before I got bored and quit. Perhaps I should be as impressed with myself as the Phd? I think not. Votes: +2

All I can think of when I read this is STDS, and unplanned pregnancys ones that you can't get rid of, sure there are condoms, but they don't protect you from everything, and condoms to break. I am not in a relationship right now, so I keep it locked up until I am in a long term relationship and that is all. Votes: +2

Girls like to play too. But their shelf life is short, and every single year past age 20, 400 million more eligible baby factories step up to challenge you. To be a successful species or race, men and women have to define themselves by what is attractive to the opposite sex for the long haul. Women who have many partners or who play with men for sport are viewed by men who are looking for a wife as a terrible investment. Those who separate the cart and horse by pretending that the primary function of intercourse is not reproduction threaten the quality of mate selection, and relationship satisfaction which results. Votes: +0

"Yours generation thinks it's the first to discover sex," my aunt told me. That was 20 years ago. I want to tell the young generation the same thing.

I read this badly-written Cosmo-trash because I saw the teaser headline and I've just come from the hospital in Las Vegas where I visited my 25-year old niece. She was partying (seriously--don't you hate that word? Must have been coined by a Hooters adman). She drank too much and was talking to some guy who slipped something in her drink and took her to his room where she pa*sed out. This Cadillac Jack was sufficiently worried about either:
1. Her well-being (hah)
2. The cops
And he called an ambulance.
Her girlfriend, still in the casino, was looking frantically for her and trying to reach her by cellphone.


This article told you nothing new. My aunt was right--people have been wanting sex and having sex for awhile now. What news value is there in this?

Listen, young women,the story of my niece has a happy ending. She will be fine physically. Emotionally, she needs to grow up. Sex with strangers is not the story of Carrie and Samantha on "Sex and the City." It is fraught with peril. SATC won Emmys; my niece did not. Votes: +8

Are you EFFING kidding me? This is the article of the damned!!! DON'T DO THIS STUFF!! For goodness sakes what happened to dignity and self respect?
I'm going to go buy a Holy BIBLE today and then take another shower, seriously! What the heck! Votes: +6

can it be because they have absolutely low morals , or just the hos they really are Votes: +2

as they say in Chinese: "Fay Wa!" Votes: -1

I strike out so many times for one night stands I gave up on counting. My slong is big for my 5.6 frame, I'm loaded with money and I'm single. Females are way too picky to the point where they are blinded. Now I don't care no more and have great sex with bisexual guys... Votes: -5

WOMEN like one-night stands?? On what planet? Obviously this author is either a clueless man posing as a woman, or just an idiot. Votes: +4

THE BIBLE SAY'S, NO FORNICATOR WILL INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD.....JUST SAYIN Votes: +2

when it has "STD" under "Related Tags" you should probably just skip it...lol Votes: +7

"Don't even use your real name if you can help it"?

Well, well, what interesting advice for girls who want to have fun.

When the working day is done,
Oh, girls,
They wanna have fu-un,
Oh, girls,
Just wanna have fun Votes: +1

This article reads more like a "how to" on hooker behavior. Who the hell gives advice like this??? You screw a guy/girl you don't know, and next thing you know, you're trying to marry his/her brother/sister.. that's gonna be fun, huh? I don't know about the rest of the guys here, but I sure as hell don't wanna marry a s**t.... Self-respect does much more than promiscuity when it comes to a relationship... my 2 cents. Votes: +5

"Put yourself in the right situation - Places like...dance clubs...are breeding grounds for one-nights stands" - Author's dreamland.
Reality - NIGHTCLUBS are places for WOMEN TO ABUSE 99% of men by demanding their attention, affection, drinks, meanwhile giving nothing in return.
Just stick around shortly after closing time and watch. You'll only see groups of girls walking home by themselves with all the confidence in the world after having abused and denigrated men, some who are still running around trying to get laid in a last ditch effort. Maybe that 1 handsome stud out of 100 gets laid with that 1 s**t out of 100, but THIS IS REALITY for clubs in AMERICA.
"Oh, but I just want to have fun with my girlfriends!" - Right, that's why you spent hours dressing up to your sexiest to try get attention from as many guys in the club as possible, because you just want to hang out by yourselves.
Do us a real night-stand seekers a favor, and go to church or something. NIGHTCLUBS SUCK! Votes: +1

When I first read this article I a*sumed the author was talking about one night stands once in a blue moon, as a consequence to "Maybe you just got dumped...". But reading into "...haven't had sex in longer than you'd like to admit or are just really horny" suggests the author is advocating completely wh**ing out in a frequent basis.
I really hope there are still very few women like that in the world, if my many failures at one night stands in night clubs and bars are any evidence of that... Who wants to settle down and have kids with s**t women like that? And yes, ladies, it is a double standard, and needs to continue to be for a very good reason... hint: just think about how a woman knows that her baby is hers and how a man knows that her baby is his, DUH! (and dont gimme DNA testing crap - who wants to spend months in courts fighting for blood tests, only to be rejected on grounds of privacy). Votes: +2

Yes, society says that women who enjoy sex are wh***s and men who enjoy sex are studs. It is a double standard. But that is about all the merit this article has to it. A one nighter is basically using someone to masterbate into (or on if you're a woman). Sex is soooo much better when it is with someone you love and respect. And as others have pointed out, sex can be downright deadly, or at least life-altering because of a STD. Every action has unintended consequences, sometime big, sometimes small. If you're horny, masterbate. If you're looking to fill a void in your life and can't seem to be able to do so, try therapy instead of casual sex. The latter isn't working well is it? This goes for guys and gals. Votes: +3

wow, what a bunch of judgmental people commenting...There's nothing wrong with single women have any occasional one night stand...It's certainly better then the serial dating so many women do...I mean, what are the odds that every guy you date is 'the one'...but so many women think they are. The one myth I hate is that the women want the one nighter to become a relationship...We've all experienced the opposite...the guy wants to date you. Even the younger guys some of my friends have been with have wanted to become their boyfriends...We've all been programmed to think certain ways, but life isn't that simple Votes: -2

Really.... Really??? Votes: +2

I will never understand one night stands..Not all STD's are protected by a condom. How about genital herpes? That's enough to steer me away, I think last I read it was 1 in 5? No thanks, I'll just stick to my toys. Votes: +2

Amen to the last comment on not all STDs being prevented by condoms. Also seriously is there no thought to the social and societal implications of this. What part of is the other person married, a criminal etc., does not occur to the writer? "Morals" are not just made up they have some logic. Votes: +2

At 62 years old, I must tell you that all too many women aren't really into sex after menopause. That's why the sexually active men date women who are 50 or younger. Recreational sex is trumped by the joy of being alone, able to do whatever I want, when I want to do it. I left relationships behind; they cost you a lot of time, frustration, and money. Go dancing to get your hands on a woman and socialize, then go home alone. That's good advice. mensunion org Votes: +2

They are good for everyone - She can't get pregnet - He can't get aids - No need to exchcnge phone #s - Hard to get cought by spouse - Can be done in the dark - The sex of the other person is irrelveant --- Votes: -2

Gosh, what an awesome article. It is so enlightening to hear this good, solid advice; you know, like the British accent. Just never thought of that. Thank you so much! Votes: -2

What a bunch of nonsense!!! I don't know where to start!!! How many women have been raped, beaten and murdered as a result of looking for some illicit connection. Then there is the issue of morality. Sex outside of Biblical marriage is fornication or adultery!! Votes: +1

This article is stupid. Whoever wrote this is a hack. Condoms are also bulls**t and they ruin sex. The best girls won't make you wear a rubber. Just don't give your real name and if you do have an STD, lie and say you're clean. Half the fun of a one night stand is finding a s**t who won't make you wear a condom. Votes: -1

It's no wonder this country is slouching toward moral bankruptcy. Whoever wrote this advice is either Satan or a serial rapist. Never, I repeat, never put yourself in such a potentially dangerous situation with a stranger. Votes: +2

My fiance had a one night stand once. We went out to dinner together and when I went to get drinks, which took 30 minutes, she went out into the weeds of the parking lot and had her fling. I found out 10 years and 4 children later. It devastated me and I'll never be the same. I'd like to leave, if I had somewhere to go, besides wander the country with a sleeping bag. I hate her for doing that to me. Everything could have been perfect, but she had to have this fling with some moron. She doesn't apologize about it, there's never any remorse. I married a sociopath. Votes: -1

When reading the comments I can't help but think of what H.L. Mencken said about Puritanism being the haunting feeling that someone else might be happy.

BTW, try using readable security images Votes: -1

you could have mind blowing sex and then become depressed....sounds like a winner....NOT.

the first "tags" on the article are "STDs", do you need to know more....LOL.... Votes: +3

It is too bad this article is written with a positive spin on such a horrible thing. One-night stands are good for no one and nothing, and esp awful for the partners of cheaters. Have some self-discipline, morality, compa*sion and realize the nastiness that they are, then reap the many benefits of monogamy. Votes: +5

The author states that you do not know ths person well, and do not know his sexual history or health. This is not true. You do know this stranger quite well; you know they're someone who is willing to jump in the sack with anyone, at any time for no reason. You know they have no standards for themselves or their partners, and you can bet they have some sort of communicable disease and low self-esteem. Isn't it like greater that 75% of people have the human papilloma virus and over 50% have herpes? Neither of these be cured. Votes: +4

To anyone contemplating casual sex - Don't do it. Don't read this article and think it is good, beneficial or positive (except for HIV positive). I know the article says it is good, but many things you read are bunk and this is one of them. No, it won't be a nice little secret that leaves you mysterious. It will be a festering sore in the pit of your stomach you'll regret for the rest of your life, and hope absolutely no one finds out, and know that it will make you less worthy of a decent spouse in the future. It will probably make you more prone to cheat later since you've reduced sex to this, and have already given it to who-cares-who. Do not believe the farce of being sexy by "closing the deal". That guy doesn't care who you are or what you look like. He'll sleep with anyone, pretty or ugly, anyone who is willing. So, his attentions do NOT mean you're hot, beautiful, sexy. They just mean he thinks he can get you into bed. Votes: +5

The one night stand, yet another victory for women's lib. Votes: +4

What an airhead whoever wrote this piece of garbage. I'm a man and let me tell you that this "advice" is pure garbage! Votes: +4

one night stand
Pros: SEX!
Cons: STD's, bye bye reputation, self esteem (what's that?) did you get a terminal STD? oh and he could really care less about you.
Now what is so great about a one night stand again? Votes: +8

This has to have been written by the town w***e trying to draw others into her despicable world. You know it can be lonely at the bottom of the barrel. Votes: +2

This article must have been written by a man. Women are motivated by relationship and love. Also, ask any gynocologists-STD's are running rampant in our society and many have no cures...these are diseases that affect your future spouse and possibly your children. By the grace of God my husband and I were able to follow the Bible in saving ourselves for marriage, and boy was the first time romantic! God made us, he knows our needs, and he made sure we had a manual for living life(the Bible), so that we would be spared much pain. Votes: +1

This is sad... I didn't even read the whole article because I couldn't stop laughing at how ridiculous it is. It's true, us guys shouldn't even think like this, why make an article asking WOMEN to live like this. Just a bunch of bad ideas that will continue the down fall of malleable minds. Votes: +2

The article should be called "How To Be A s**t". Votes: +2

The article title should be the Pros and Cons of being a s**t.............. Votes: +2

Gee, I don't do one night stands with people that I don't know because not only do I not want to get an STD, I DON'T WANT TO BE MURDERED. A woman putting herself in that kind of vulnerable position with all the psychos and creeps out there is just asking for trouble and really isn't very bright. Votes: +5

you guys are reading way too much into this article. i have had a couple of one night stands, i needed it, had a good time, and no strings. this works for mature women, not young girls still finding themselves. and no, you don't do it with total strangers. my one night stands have been with someone i know. but it was clear, just one night. thank you, see you later. and we are still friends....nothing more. Votes: -3

What a shallow, amoral piece of trash. When I looked at the comments, I felt so much better, knowing that there are still decent people in the world. Votes: +3

are one night stands cool now? are they all doing this? is there a website for girls who just want one night stands? Votes: +1

This article was written by a s**t. Votes: +0

What a totally stupid, poorly written piece of trash. The writer should quit, be fired, or commit suicide. The article stinks. I'm sorry I read it, I'll never read this stupid site again.
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This is the worst "article" I've ever read! This is what is wrong with our country. I would never date a girl with a shady past, and I don't care if she was going through her "wild" times as many girls in their early 20's seem to do. I never did any of that, and I won't put up with someone who did. I hope that no young girls read this and take it to heart... If they do, I hope they read the comments like I did (they really restored my faith after reading what was above). I have friends who value their purity and morality and I would die inside if they started acting like the article suggests. Votes: +1

This change in how sex is viewed is why I wound up with a string of short-term relationships with women in their mid- to late 20's when I was suddenly single again in my mid-50's. Its fun, but it leads absolutely nowhere, and my sense was these women were seeking a sense of self their families failed to instill 10 or more years before. In other words, its all about them, and the man must be just a sexual diversion. If they lose track of that, they wind up more confused than if they had just continued to try and muddle through. Votes: +5

It has been said, "The devil's greatest trick was convincing the world he (or she) does not exist". S/He might have had something to do with the authoring of this article?

On another note, it is surprising the author had not suggested or forgot about the option of becoming a part-time porn star? At least the members of that community are regularly tested for STDs and chances of being murdered afterwords by a psycho are greatly reduced... plus there is some $$$ involved ... just say'in. (not mentioning any moral factors here since the author really clearly has no conception of that 'ancient' word from humanity's past!)
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Horribly written and bad advice......

I have been a participant in many one nighters with ladies. But always ladies I have known for a while. I agree if you have the itch, scratch it! (not hung up on the christian crap that sex is bad or only for married people) But damn scratch it with someone you know and trust, don't scratch it with Ted Bundy sitting in a hotel bar!

Friends with benefits is a better way to explore things than a total stranger. Votes: -1

I'm 58. I've only kissed one girl I wasn't related to. Ever. That was on our first date when we were both 19. We're still at it. Last night and again this morning. She's the greatest - the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. Why doesn't someone write that article? Boring? Maybe. But a good conscience is a continual Christmas. Votes: +6

as a man who respects women, i cannot find anything in this article that would lead me to conduct myself the way it suggests the ladies should act regardless of situation, and most certainly does not place those who agree and practice one night stands in a light other than those who operate in the "red light district", only the money exchange is absent. i personally would never enter into one of those "one night stands" Votes: +2

A lot of guys will usually F--K anything and anybody.They don't care ....sheep,cantaloupe ( read that one in Penthouse Forum)Don't kid yourself that it's because you are "sexy".You have a vagina....and are wiling to "share" it.I was dumb in the age of "Free love" ....JOKE! Votes: +1

The women who "give it out" the most before marriage will "give it out" the least during marriage. We men wonder what is wrong with our spouses and it is probably this. No more left-overs for me. Single and celibate for me!
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I love it. Every outraged reader is more advertising money for mydailymoment. Well played sirs, well played. Votes: -1

Hey Greg , where can I meet some of these no morals girls? I'd like to get laid tonight, especially those ones that dont' mind losing their virginity :) Votes: -3

Underneath the comment box, it gives you a choice: smaller / bigger.
How about medium? Sorry girls. I can't lie. I am not UP to the task. LOL! Votes: -3

Amazing. And people actually follow the advice of the idiot(s) who write this crap. No wonder there are so many people running around with AIDS, syphillis and a host of other sexual diseases. The people who write this crap are perverts. They're either homosexuals themselves, or pro-aborts who want to keep NORMAL people from having families and procreating. That's the real purpose behind this article. Too bad more people don't realize it. GROW UP. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS. GET SOME MORALS. AND LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR OWN LIVES WITHOUT A PSYCHIATRIST. Votes: -1

This article sounds like a great way to get herpes along with your one-night stand. All the condoms and birth control in the world won't stop herpes - good luck! Votes: +5

Drunken girls going to private hotel rooms or apartments with total strangers. Sounds like a good access point if you're Ted Bundy. What is wrong with our society when we are ENCOURAGING young women to 'embrace their sexuality' despite all possible negative consequences?? And these girls also prey on married men, resulting in wives' contracting STD's, divorces, and serious consequences to the family.
s**ts are as s**ts do. Don't deny the label if you live it. #usedgarbage should be your hashtag
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Editors: When did the word S L U T become a vulgarity? It's a perfectly acceptable noun and quite applicable in this circumstance. Votes: +1

"A woman is like a dresser-somebody's always rummaging through her drawers"-Robert Johnson Votes: +1

Wow, what an incredibly shallow article. I'm hardly a prude but sorry to draw the line at training women to be s**ts. This certainly doesn't say much about the writer. Votes: +2

Apparently the individual that wrote this article has very little understanding of the psychological consequences of such behavior. Please if your reading this article, a one night stand is a very bad idea and a costly psychological mistake. Karma comes back with a vengeance.! Don't say you were not warned...
Signed ....Ph.D. Therapist!.... Votes: +4

This is great advice for women who want HPV and a feeling of diminished self worth. To the writer who wrote this... do everyone a favor and stop writing garbage like this. No one respects you or the people who follow your advice. Ladies, if you have fallen victim to this advice, keep it to yourself if you want to have normal relationships in the future. Like it or not, any man who learns of this revolting behavior would seriously reconsider any meaningful relationship with you if this is your attitude toward sex... Also, though it is a stereotype, most self resepcting men don't participate in meaningless hookups. It's OK to be kinky but don't take a shortcut. Save the experimentation for someone who deserves to see this side of you, not a nasty stranger who sees you as something to conquer. Votes: +2

My God, this is such an irresponsible article, I cannot believe the editors thought it was a good idea to publish it. First of all, the writer should have led with the negatives to dissuade women from doing this, not to make it seem like it's appropriate behavior. It is NOT normal behavior to have a one-night stand, nor is it OK for a woman to go around doing this as a regular habit. It's not a good idea to experiment with high risk sex because of the dangers of unwanted pregnancy, disease, and a*sault. You should not sleep with a man you just met, ladies! I'm sorry, but this message need to be taught to young women. Maybe it's less of a restriction for older women, especially if they're more mature, more in control of what they want, and strong on their feet. But it's wrong to promote the message that it's OK for young women to experiment with one-night stands. Votes: +3

Herpes is a gift that keeps on giving. Votes: +4

I'm not sure if the writer has a gender or is neuter. Doubt that they are currently OR were prevously married. What I am sure of is that they have the moral sense of breeding rabbits or more precisely pigs. God help us if the author is actively breeding because the one thing this world needs less of is someone with the scruples of such a piglet. Votes: +1

Oh, and charge at least 100 "roses" per hr., anything less is just not worth it. Votes: -1

This article advises women how to be a S L U T. But it prohibits reader comments from simply posting the word. No wonder the writer of this garbage didn't post their name as a byline to this sorry excuse for an article. Votes: +6

This is irresponsible garbage that SHOULD have been entitled, "How to go out & get yourself raped"! Votes: +1

Had no idea before reading these comments how intense and widespread is the misogyny. This is NOT acceptable and will lead to horrific injustice if unaddressed.

Did you use the word "s**t" or "w***e" as a pejorative? Then YOU have psychological or psychiatric issues. Yes, the PEOPLE you hate may have issues too, but YOURS are worse by far. You are *exponentially* more threatening to others than any libertines or hedonists or the merely promiscuous. YOUR issues blind you to reality; force you to spew violently hateful language designed specifically to dehumanize. THAT's who you are, at least here, while you are protected by your perceived anonymity. You probably don't even realize what a danger you represent. But others do.

Promiscuity is not restricted to one or another gender. Nor are its problems. OR its rewards. If you have a problem with that, you need to deal with it *internally*— nothing good has ever arisen from the forced prohibition of a relatively harmless (and sometimes even patently harmful, such as drinking) activity practiced— covertly or not— by large proportions of people. Votes: -1

What this article written by a guy? STD should have been written first. Approximately 5.5 million new cases of sexually transmitted HPV infections are reported every year, though 6.2 million new infections are estimated to occur. At least 20 million people in the United States are already infected -- most of them may not even know it. Go ahead...have that one night stand.

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suitable mates are getting harder to find.
the good ones are already married, and the others have around the block so many times, you're afraid to even kiss them. Votes: +1

What a bunch of deceptive garbage for the modern "enlightened" woman. I respectfully request that you PLEASE read Proverbs 7:13-27 for God's commentary on the One-Night-Stand. Thanks! Votes: -1

This is absolutely the dumbest article I have ever wasted my time reading! What a joke?!? Except sadly, this is not a joke for many people. Just think about THE person you want to settle down with...the one you love with all your heart and want to give and have your best. Oh wait...you already gave it away to those "strangers". What a sad reality for many people who are seeking love by giving sex...only to be left UNloved and UNlovely. Votes: +0

Um... oh yeah. AIDS. But the benefits of a good orgasm outweigh the risk, so what the hell.

Never mind the left's continued efforts to numb of our morals. Votes: +1

Perhaps the most irresponsible piece of journalism ( if you can call it that) I have ever heard. Im not going to comment on the moral issues this article opens up as that is for each person to decide on thier own. However, this article is encouraging women to drink alot, make bad decisions, possibly get a STD and more likely then not end up in a potetially dangerous situation. I will be honest, I have been married 3 times and after great pains realized that strictly physical relationships are better suited to me. There are much better alternatives then one night stands. Friends with benefits with a solid mutual understanding of leaving it at that is the best way to go if your only seeking a physical relationship. If you find yourself at a club, using a fake name and going home with some cat you dont know a thing about, you prolly need counseling. Hooking up for the night to improve your self esteem is the most insane thing i have ever read. Votes: +3

Does your company employ any writers? Votes: +3

S I C K and deluded if you think women like this crap. Women want to be loved, not used like a prostitute, and that, for free! This is a false fantasy of men and it is S I C K Votes: +2

so they teach you whoring. With air of credibility. another 4 yrs of Barak Hussein and what else will be happening in this sick society?!

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The people that would follow the advice of the columnist don't need this advice; they only need to watch Jerry Springer, Maury, and Steve Wilkos. That is guidance for the dregs of society. Votes: +1

It's unbelievable that some "writers" can actually make a living producing crap like this piece. Let me put it this way -- it's a guestion of a female pride attract and keep a capable, able guy and not a loser. It's a question of a male pride to find a keep a decent woman and not some s**t who's been slammed with more balls than NBA backboard. You figure it from here, ladies. Votes: +0

Cons:

Many men will eliminate you from consideration as a serious partner if they find out you've s**tted it up by having a one night stand. Votes: +1

Speaking as a single 48 y/o male who's wife cheated, I am enjoying all the newly "empowered" s**ts err I mean women. Keep it up girls - keep putting out. Votes: -3

this so-called "sex" is nothing but a toileting experience...you change each other's diapers and squirt sperm or slime...it is just for relief, like taking a crap...which is all it really is...lower animals have more standards than do humans...they have sex for reproduction...human do it for EXCRETION...squirt/slime excretion. Votes: -1

This article speaks of what many women want. All the naysayers here don't understand that many want, every now and then, a simple nsa fling. You may not be one of them, but there are many. Votes: +1

My take from this article is that it's okay for women to accept their sexuality and that it's perfectly fine to get their needs met outside of a LTR. Doing that in a safe way was certainly covered in the article. Stop the double standard guys-if you don't want a women who has sex with NSA, then you can't either! If you people think that everyone only has sex when married, get real. I had plenty of mind blowing sex while single. I've been married for 12 years, and now I have mind blowing sex with my husband. Jealous? Votes: +0

So this is what human relationships and radical feminism have come to... one night stands, encouraged by supposedly adult females and males. PATHETIC Votes: -1

I truly wonder why people think they can turn on and off their habits. If a person habitually has one night stands then what makes anyone think they can just stop doing that when they get married? What they are doing is programming themselves up for future failure in their marriages. The man or woman who engages in, "sexual freedom" before marriage will most likely give in to, "sexual freedom" after they are married. Votes: +6

there's only one word to describe this article - STUPID Votes: +3

Too many ads, too many popups. Blocking this site. Votes: +1

such a little thrill to satisfy your flesh and lose your soul to the devil. Votes: +1

"Society has programmed women to feel bad about exploring and embracing their sexuality"

Where the hell did you get that from? Have you been living in a cave on a desert island?

Just turn on the television, read the news, hell, go on the internet!

What it should have read is "Society has programmed women to look to each other for sexual gratification, to sidestep maternal instincts, and to screw anything with a heartbeat once and move on..."

Just like you have promoted in this article.

Corrupting the ma*ses with your immorality will never make you feel better about doing it... Votes: +2

I'm glad I'm not the only one that was thinking this article is just plain ridiculous. Articles like this make people believe that everybody does things like this and never regrets it. I agree with the comment earlier that some insecure women try to "act like men" by sleeping with numerous partners and "pretending" like they don't care about their bodies or the circumstances in life that have led them to the point of having no care for their own well being. I'm in my twenties from San Diego and I know SO MANY guys and girls that have contracted numerous STD's, including herpes and HIV (yeah, it's that messed up) doing this EXACT same thing this article tells you to do. Being comfortable with your sexuality is completely different than this. Whether you're a man or a woman, have value in yourself and don't believe TV, movies, or other media (which is a business making money off of all of us)that tells you violence, sex, and being a horrible person has no consequences. Life is not a rap video. Votes: +5

any woman that sleeps around is a s**t simple as that! Votes: +3

Lots of traffic on this article, more hits = more $$$$ to the author, which I think is the actual intent of the article. Votes: +0

Who needs condoms when President Obama will pay for our birth control? Votes: +0

And we wonder what has happened in this country. This kind of trash is just one piece of it. What was that one comment, something about not thinking of yourself as a s**t. Well................you are !! Votes: +4

This kind of thinking is the decline of society. They actually think this will make someone feel better about themselves? Yeah, right! And good luck finding a good guy in light of all your flings... Of course, you could keep it a secret -- yeah, that's healthy. "Sorry, ladies, but some of us have a hard time separating sex and emotions." Votes: +4

I can't believe people actually read or write this crap or why anyone with a brain would actually post it for the public. I followed a link and will never be back to this site. Votes: +3

They forgot the best tip of all, but if you are going to ho it up go all the way. Do the one night stand with a married person traveling whenever possible. No one keeps a secret better than a married man or woman with plenty to hide....works every time for maintaining discretion. Votes: -2

I think burning in hell for eternity because of all the fornication is a pretty big CON that the author left out. Votes: -1

Women are not liberated anymore. They are a bunch of w***es. Just because men do it sometimes doesn't make it ok for women. I heard yesterday that 60% of single dating women date 24 men per year and then have booty calls on the side. What??!?!!? What is the point of dating someone if you have used yourself up from "bad boy" booty calls? American women are a bunch of s**ts. This is way worse than men ever did. We separate love from sex too. Most women cannot do that. This is not liberation of women unless you count liberating you from your soul. God is watching................No wonder so many women are depressed and miserable. They are doing it to themselves. Karma never forgets. You have to pay for it in this life or a future one. Better get control of yourselves ladies but you're not really ladies at all. Votes: +1

Interesting that the author should choose to remain anonymous when they encourage women to be unashamed of sleeping with random strangers. Did they honestly expect that people would read this vapid, ethically bankrupt article and respond positively? Whether male or female, infidelity is the mark of a shallow, impulse-driven moron who has chosen a lonely, cat-filled senescence. I hope this author continues to enjoy a well deserved irrelevance. Votes: +4

Virtue. Goodness. Purity. Self-respect. Things of the past, according to the author peddling this smut. Votes: +1

wow this is stupid. Votes: +2

most women are to afraid to admit it lol Votes: -1

Great point of view..I as a man also think/ share these views..I also must add that some one-nights turn into a morning of pa*sion,as you awake your partner in an awesome way...Not all turn out this way,butt some just make it through the night.Then someone leaves and you smile ,smile,smile!!! Votes: -4

You forgot a fact.

If you end up pregnant dont blame the guy, Its your own damn fault for being a w***e Votes: +4

"Nice" article on Being a s**t 101. There are lots of low character men out there just waiting for a women ready to sell themselves short. I know dudes who pride themselves on finding women who have low self-esteem and rationalize their behavior.

But just remember, there a lot of high character men out there, as well. But once you start acting like a s**t and sleeping with every loser out there, those solid men will want NOTHING to do with you....unless you lie to them...and that says even more about being a lying s**t. Votes: +5

Absolutely the way to go! I banged a ton of babes and they loved it more
than me. Sex tapes make ignorant, gutter trash like Kardashian, Hilton rich. 89% of all marriages either end or are cheated on. Well "come" to the new religion! Votes: -3

I'm glad to see (based on the comments) most people still think it is detestable to promote one-night stand-type behavior. Votes: +3

This article is absolutely absurd. One CON lists "sexually transmitted disease" as if it's a minor thing. Really, lifelong herpes and/or syphillis etc... is no MINOR thing. Even kissing someone with herpes can be lethal. Oh, and genital warts anyone? My point is getting to know someone, who they are, what they are about before having sex is much much wiser and obviously healthier.

One more CON the writer forgot to mention. If you're lucky, you may be having sex with a child molester, rapist, drug addict, sex addict, or someone's husband. This writer must not have any young daughters. What a piece of trash. Votes: +5

Ok let's see if I have this straight and please don't tell me I have a complex. I was with this very attractive woman who appeared and carried herself as conservative. She had a few drinks and on the way to my apartment she tells me that, well she hasn't been that conservative between relationships. Matter of fact, I thought she was boasting. Well, there is a physical part that does change on a woman who's been with men of different "sizes". Yes,women, a woman's parts do loosen up if you are talking 20 partners or more. It is very noticeable. The next girl I went out with was conservative. I felt fine. As a matter of fact, I felt like a big man. Votes: -2

Most irresponsible article ever written Votes: +5

So, your advice is to have sex with a total stranger you just met. Sounds like a great way to get killed, honestly. Votes: +5

FWIW, men can tell if women are the type to have plenty (or even just a few) one night stands. If you ever plan on getting married, you should probably show some restraint as no guy wants to marry a w***e who slept with random guys she met at clubs or weddings. Votes: +2

moral outrage is jealousy with a halo. so suck it, prudes!! Votes: -4

Do it in the road dirty hippie s**t wannabes. Be sure you get your s**t Vax from Rick Perry & Co. Votes: +0

And abortions are so easy and rewarding. Votes: +2

Why is it that the premise that all men can and do have sex without emotional attachement is taken as universal and absolute? As will many things relating to men and women, it's really a continuum. Maybe it's a generational thing, and I've been around a while, but I can count on a couple of fingers the number of times that I've had sex with a woman that I didn't have some feelings for (post teenage years). And those feelings grew as a result of the experience. I have never subscribed to the 'any port in a storm' mentality. Votes: +4

This is about the most immoral thing I've read in a while. Aside from Biblical incompatibilities, this advice is potentially dangerous health-wise, and an emotionally volatile thing for women to be getting involved with. Votes: +1

This article is terrible, and why is it only directed towards women anyway? Ridiculous, completely. Votes: +3

I used to do that, It was Amazing, then after about 75- 100 ONE NIGHTERS over the years, BAM , Herpes, The Gift that just keeps giving!!!!!!!!!! Votes: +3

This article is as sad as it is laughable. Anyone who would take this as real advice is lacking in wisdom as much as self-respect. Sad commentary on our society. For those who support this activity, how's that working for you? Admit it, you are pathetic and trying to justify your horrible choices. Votes: +2

I cannot believe such horrible 'advice' as this deserves attention.

I see that the article is missing the biggest 'cons' for one night stands and the 'pros' are somewhat suspect as well.

Con: If you're drunk or high, sure, your inhibitions may be gone... Unfortunately, so is your ability to make rational decisions for your own safety and well being.

Personally, I've found one night stands to be the worst sex I ever had (really difficult to really 'connect' when you don't even know his real name) and invariably, I've not been all that proud of myself for the behavior after the fact.

Ugly, awful article. Votes: +4

This is the most ridiculous, trashy an uncalled for article i have seen in a long time. GARBAGE!! Is it really necessary to put this stuff out there on the internet? Votes: +2