Create Your Own 50 Shades of Grey: Here's How
"Don't expect to put the Ben-Wa balls in and go shopping. Like Kegel exercises, you need to work slowly. I recommend the Duotone Balls with a string from Lilo. They come in sets of two sizes. Start with the lighter size and then go to the heavier size."
Speaking of heavy, Bettan also focuses on both the physical and psychological aspects of a submissive/dominant relationship. She explains the ins and outs of the BDSM dynamic to women so that they are prepared for it. The most important element - trust in a partner.
"It's very important to trust and feel safe. It's a lot of let go. That's what sex and orgasm are all about. To let go, you need to trust someone and feel comfortable. When it comes to the fetish world, you are surrendering yourself. It's about power, control and surrender."
Because activities often involve being restrained and whipped, it's of the utmost importance to be with someone who doesn't go to extremes and knows limits so that nobody gets hurt. And that goes for matters of the heart as well.