5 Things Wrecking Your Sex Life

wow - as to #1 - how about just not being a prude Votes: +8

The writer isn't knowledgeable about men. Men routinely can be turned off sex - in mid-intercourse even - if the woman starts to talk about something inane, yawns, obsesses about the sheets more than what is going on, etc., etc., etc. If your man is utterly focused on sex regardless of what is going on in the sack, then he's probably a crappy lover just looking to get off and be done with it. Men who are good lovers actually CARE that the woman is enjoying herself too, so if she's going through the motions or checked out he'll check out quickly as well. Votes: +67

What is this crap about "doing the dirty deed", Being naughty", "getting the cookie"? No wonder so many people have problems. Flash! Sex is fun. Get over it, sex is not dirty, it's not to be ashamed of, and if you can't communicate openly with your partner, why are you even there? Votes: +59

ROSE..why are you even married to a man ?
Neither of you seem to be able to address the needs of the other, let alone even discuss them !
YOU need to see a Physician because YOU have a problem & have had one your entire marriage....
YOU have wasted your life & that of your partners...and for what ?


This article & website appears to be either one for juveniles or repressed conservatives who have never enjoy being in bed out of FEAR .
We would not have lasted 34 years together IF we had followed the infantile meanderings of this author....
Votes: +14

who is this stupid? How many years have we benn hearing this? what a wastes of my scrolling through 5 effin pages of crap. Votes: -3

Shave? Do you think a chicken with no feathers looks good? Votes: +21

Why are all the comments directed to what women can do? There are plenty of men who can use some advice but they probably won't even bother to read your article. Votes: +29

"...once men turn on their sex-brain, very little can turn it off."..Have you ever asked a man? If you haven't and you are not a man, you probably should ask instead of impersonating a men's thoughts. I am a man and I am turned off on the spot if a woman is not clean..I want nothing to do with her. On another note, why do you write such an article? No 2 people have the same desires, so what is your point in earning money on BS? Did you knwo that some like peeing on each other? Votes: +6

On the shave issue, it was asked how one would like a chicken with no feathers--silly comparison. I don't eat a chicken with the feathers still on it. Votes: +17

If it feels good and you and your partner are comfortable with it or at least willing to try it go for it! just remember if it turns out that only one of you like it,be respectfull and move on and try something different.jeez I sound like Dr Ruth lol,just speeking from experience.And definitly make sure your clean,NOBODY likes a stinky crotch eeeeek :o Votes: +7

Hygiene and attitude are the main killers for me. They forgot to mention bad breath. Some women don't eat much to preserve their figure, but the bi-product of not having eaten enough all day is foul smelling breath, which is a turnoff during coitus. Also, while I don't mind a slight vaginal scent, that strong odor some women get can render the most beautiful of woman very unattractive.

As for attitude, being restrictive about reasonable things (positions, oral, ect) is also a major turn-off. Why have sex if you can't enjoy it? Votes: +7

most american women believe they come into relationships and sex knowing everything there is ( from all the super market mags, etc) they either view the male (or fantasize) that he is a woman with a penis ( ie thinks, feels, desires, acts, the same as them but came equipped with a penis to please HER) - the first bit of advice from a grandpa is to get off your back and do some experimenting of your own ladies, give and make love to your MAN and don't just expect to receive, and most importantly forget ( purge from your spirit, heart and souls) that somehow just because you showed up you gave him more than he did you and that now he mysteriously owes you something for that "sex" - that ain't love ladies that is a form of prostitution at worst and barter at least ... enjoy your mate and making love while you are young - time goes fast and it's all over but the shouting. Votes: +16

I would add #6: Don't answer the phone midway through the act. It ruins the moment, especially if it is your mother calling. Votes: +11

All I ask is that you dont fart when Im going down on you. Votes: +20

I just don't feel like in mood that much anymore. Don't get me wrong I want to but lately just don't feel like it.. I don't if it is work, kids, or school(learning more for my job every know and then). Well going on a vacation to the islands in few days might change. Votes: -4

There is no excuse for smelling nasty ANYWHERE....if you have things planned...
My Ex stopped brushing his teeth before sex and never washed up.
The taste of dried urine on him didn't excite me, it disgusted me. Votes: +22

Ummmm, I'm sorry - Women do this stuff? I'm a woman and Men pull all this as well. I hate it when articles like this target a gender. Votes: +10

Women have been made to believe that paradise sits between their lege, and don't get me wrong, without it, we'd go crazy. I'm old and it's STILL always on my mind....but....at the risk of sounding cra*s and rude....please clean it up a little. There's no bigger turn off than an over forty unkept woman. Votes: +2

A modest investment in clothespins and earplugs can sometimes work wonders Votes: +2

The author danced around this without saying it directly but here's the blunt truth. Most women simply aren't freaky enough. Sure some of them will pretend to give you some oral (i.e. stopping short and thinking they've given you the best experience in life) or maybe be a little adventurous with positions but in general, most of them draw the line way to far on the prudish side. Another bit of truth is that if you're not doing it for him, most likely he's going to get it somewhere else-and don't be surprised where that somewhere else might turn out to be. Trust me, I know from experience. Votes: +8

The advice to spice up your bedroom, you should bring in a third party by way of adult videos or toys is a poor one. There are studies showing that porn is addictive, and that porn use can hurt intimacy. Do you REALLY want to feel like you're playing second fiddle to porn? Or that you can't explore and play with your lover without having someone tell you how? Just have FUN. You don't need to go to an outside party for that.

And yes, some things should always be off limits. If one partner wants something that makes the other partner uncomfortable or feel inferior, it should be stopped. And certain body fluids (blood, scat, urine...) are not meant for play. Votes: +15

I've heard it all.
NOT NOW ... it's the middle of the day,
it's the middle of the night,
I'm trying to sleep,
I just woke up,
I don't like sex in the morning,
don't wake me up for sex,
I haven't had a shower yet - I'm all dirty,
I just had a shower - I'm all clean,
I need my rest so I can work tomorrow,
it's my day off - let me rest,
I've got a headache,
my back hurts,
it's too hot in here,
it's too cold,
you're pulling my hair,
my back hurts,
my breath smells bad,
your breath smells bad,
I'm not in the mood,
you weren't nice to me,
we might wake up the kid,
the kid is outside and might come in,
the kid is away but might drop in,
it's that time of the month,
I might get pregnant,
you don't care about me,
you don't pay attention to me,
you're suffocating me with attention,
... and on and on, for decades.

Turns out, she only likes sex when she reads her "romance novels", and even then she only wants sex in her mind.

I had become like her treadmill. When she didn't have one, she desired it and just had to get one. Once she had the treadmill, she lost interest completely because, hey, it's always there - I can always do it later. Having something made it lose its value because she no longer desired to obtain it.

But today, it is no longer her choice. We no longer have sex because I have decided that I have reached my lifetime quota of rejection and indifference. She doesn't seem to understand that. She seems to think that I should jump at the chance to have sex with her (now that she's a fat old lady). But time has limited my sexual appetite, and her actions have destroyed my desire for her.
Votes: +53

When they fart in bed,the honeymoon's over! Votes: +10

I suppose there's always someone reading an article like this for the first time, but I swear I've read a million that are almost identical, and just as identically worthless. Does ANYBODY really take this stuff to heart? Waste of time. Votes: +8

Rose,
First, I'm sorry that others were less than kind. You don't deserve that.
That said, PLEASE talk to your Doctor about this, and when you do be just as blunt as you were in your comment here. There's no reason nor room for embarra*sment - your Doc is a medical professional whose *JOB* is to help!

You're not ever going to tell him or her anything that (s)he hasn't seen or heard before!

The truth is that Sex - done right - is *NOT* painful, it should be the most pleasurable experience possible.

It's possible that your husband is not taking the time to make sure you're physically aroused and ready, maybe he's unnaturally excessively "endowed", but that's INCREDIBLY rare, and even then you should have no real problems provided enough foreplay to ensure you're ready.

In short, if you don't have a medical problem, then "you're doing it wrong."
In either case, THIS *CAN* BE FIXED!!

If I can help, send me a message to my user_ID (dedicated_dad) at yah00 dot c0m. I have no "motives" or whatever other than a desire to help - I'm a married man and would rather set myself on fire than break a solemn vow, but reading your message broke my heart.

It's never too late to fix things, and once you find what you've been missing, you'll have a lot of happy years to look forward to! Votes: +5

As a European I deplore how few women on this side of the ocean dare to be natural. What women are told they must do daily to please their man is simply mind-boggling. The amount of makeup, cosmetics of all kinds that must be applied daily is crazy. Diet-related pressures are insane, and have driven some women to suicide. The rules concerning female hair are particularly ridiculous. Hair on a lady's head is fine, but not on her legs. On her arms it's OK, but not under her arms. Heaven forbid that a spider should stick out from under her bikini... Such horror! Ditto if a little sweat mark appears under her arm... Other than her head hair and a bit of fuzz on her forearms, her skin is supposed to look like a plucked chicken at all times. That Proctor & Gamble and some pedophiles would like it this way is understandable, but that practically an entire society would conform to this nonsense is truly amazing. Women, dare to be yourselves. Most of you have beautiful, desirable bodies, giving men more pleasure than anything else in life. Being clean, such as showering and brushing your teeth daily, is one thing. But being natural and at peace with yourself is another and will also give you a more satisfying sex life. Votes: +33