5 Signs He Is the Right One For You

Marriage is a scam? You really need to get a hobby and get out of your own cynical head.. Votes: +10

I found this article "helpful" Thank you and keep it up Votes: +4

I can get down with the list. I have been with my guy for over 10yrs. I had to do all of these things listed in this article, it was not easy but I learned ,we learned to make each other happy. I love this man with all my heart and I can say the same on his end. I hope all you guys that got it like this it last.....you guys that don't yet, it's on it's way if you want it. Peace Votes: +3

Why he's the right one was demonstrated this morning -- I left voicemail that "I just needed to hear your voice, the outgoing message sufficed". It may have been enough for me, but it wasn't enough for him; he called me back, asked what was wrong, and within two minutes had me giggling. Any man who can make me laugh when I'm stressed is the right one for me! Votes: +12

I understand women want us to listen to them and not offer advice. However, when a woman is confronted with an on going issue, and we listen, and then we have to listen to them talk to their girfriends about the issue, and this issue goes on and on....then we get sick and tired of hearing about it and feel it is about time for the woman to do something concrete to change it. Then the woman needs to heed our advice and quit yacking about it!!!!! Votes: +6

your "gut" feeling is a good indicator. if something is just telling you-he ain't right. then trust that. especially if some of the other pointers aren't being fulfilled. Votes: +7

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Obvious points, poor writing and no references. Votes: +1

Not to be a bum, but all those reasons are typical.... You don't generally team up with someone who works against you, do you? Duh. Votes: +2

Great post!
I really don't get the other comment.
It was very informative, giving concrete signs for respect in a relationship. It certainly made me think about mine (and I'm a guy).

Thanks! Votes: +1

And one sign she's dateable: She is not a s**t. Votes: +4

Clearly written for some pathetic white girl.
I completely hate it when relationship advice states "he should accept all of you for who you are", bla bla.
It has invoked women with a sense of FALSE entitlement to something better. Always better. "I don't want to settle"

The problem with this "accept you for who you are thing" suggests that she is in someway "perfect" with no necessity for change. Everyone needs to change. It is a part of GROWTH. Nothing remains stagnant. Some people need to change more than others. Obviously it works both ways (guys and girls). And this is where compromise comes in. And those who are more flexible and more compromising (so less demanding) end up with more successful relationships. I'm not saying give up your morals. I'm saying, don't expect to NOT change. That's retarded. Being open to ideas is what helps a relationship shape and grow, and tackle life together. If both don't change because you're all about not changing anything you're gonna encounter conflicts or things in life that are new obstacles. Then if someone has to step up and change as a solution there is more hesitance than the well compromised, flexbile couple, because neither ever changed before, and both will be wondering "oh why can't the other change" which leads back to the whole selfishness issue. It's a s**tshow cycle then.

This article is super flawed, I could go on, but I'm already ranting. Votes: +4

What man is going to want a woman who takes her cues from some vapid nonsense like this? Men like women with strength, independence, and real brains. None of these things are demonstrated here.

Women, you want a good man? Don't be a cookie-cutter copy.

And the thing about "being allowed to be yourself"...men need this, too. So allow that to happen for them instead of expecting them to be slotted into an a*signed role. Votes: +2

Straight Bs no one is MR, Perfect nor Miss perfect, if people keep reading this stuffthe planet will not have population how will we survive as a species.This kind of crap started with the Oprah era, cosmo, and N.O.W.,and playboy and many other experts so-called love gurus like steve harvey who cheated on his long time wife that stuck with from the beginning now that he is famous he cheats now he a relationship expert, Git the ..... out of here. Just follow the golden rule and everything will be all right. Votes: +4

I love him.But I don't know weather I really love or just need someone to put my love on.ya,Sometimes I feel I'm evil.
Though there is 5 tips,
I couldn't tell ,Feeling is incontrollable

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Good post. Don't get all the hate going on. Votes: +2

Accepting someone for who they are - Well, I don't know if the person who wrote this article is married or has ever lived with someone in a relationship but the success of all relationships is based on compromise. There will be changes that both partners will have to make in order to accommodate the other person. Everybody has flaws, and the true test of a relationship is whether the other person helps you overcome that flaw or not. Not all flaws can be fixed but the ones that cause rifts between partners should be fixed through mutual cooperation. The usual response to this is that if your partner is finding flaws in you then its not worth the relationship. I'd rather say that you will be damaging an otherwise wonderful relationship if you're stubborn and not willing to admit it and work on it. The reason why relationships fail more often these days is because of this individualistic mentally that we have instilled in our society where we feel entitled to "everything". Creating lists is one of those problems. Votes: +3

If you need to read this to figure out whether or not your partner respects you ...... Good luck and make an appointment with a shrink! Votes: -5

you ought not be so critical,you never know what might be around the next corner,keep an open mind Votes: -1

Wait, so I'm expected to hold to this little checklist of hers while I have to accept her with flaws and all? Seems a little lop-sided. Everyone has flaws. 5 important qualities is actually quite a bit considering that there's only so many things you can look for beyond physical qualities. Votes: +2

You would think respect and values ppl would look for in a relationship. No, you see it all the time. Just watch closely and when first meet a person its to show their best quilities in the beginning so if don't like them when they are at their best behavor you won't like them later. lol Votes: +0

I liked the article, mainly for insight into one women's perspective. A perspective that many women seem to agree and apply in their dating lives. Thanks.

Guys, when you're *angry* about and toward women talking to each other about men somewhere that's made for them (we're guests)... the level of respect can't get more obvious. There are plenty of articles written for men about "her", at least one mixed with the links at the bottom of the last page. I don't see women complaining about them. Men have plenty of spaces that are just as much for ourselves as this site is for women. Sit back and watch, if you're not happy.

I've been a writer too, and subconciously pull out the red pen the first time an error pops in my head. But if it doesn't cut into the meaning, it's not the highest priority. Votes: +8

I don't know of any women who are happliy in a relationship because their man "meets criteria specified on their list". Lists are the best way to stay single, because people aren't quantifiable. Votes: +0

All of you asking why this article is directed at women...a*suming you are all men, it's because COSMO is a WOMENS magazine... Jesus. If you want to read articles directed towards men get a freaking subscription to GQ or mens health! Votes: -1

* He is willing to compromise
* He listens to your concerns and feelings
* He notices when something is wrong and asks you about it
* He values your opinion
* He appreciates you
* He is genuinely happy for you when you succeed

Guys, please note this is the quickest way to get a girl to loath you. Do these things at your own pleasure and she will give you the respect that makes a good relationship. Votes: -1

this wasn't helpful at all some of us don't care what ou man is like as long as he's a celebrity...lol...JUST KIDDING...ha!ha! Votes: +2

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Well, i think the article is intended to help everyone in general, not women only. That's why the first sign says ''If you both respect each other, and this is really important in any long-lasting relation. With respect comes affection, care and even faithfulnes that all yearn for. So the 5 signs are there for all-not women only as some think. So respect your love one, you out there, and u'll enjoy the respect in return, for what u sow is what you reap. Votes: +3

"Thank you Captain Obvious" to all five of the clever tips. Votes: +5