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- Weigh the pros and cons. Are you really ready to end it or are you just caught up in the moment? Make sure the reason you are ending it is legitimate and that you are prepared to deal with the consequences.
- Don't break up over a text message or email. Tweeting the bad news is tacky. Everyone deserves at least a phone call when ending a relationship to ask questions and get the closure they need.
- Don't blindside him. How can you expect him to change or work on problems if you never told him about them? If you aren't happy, bring it up and discuss it first before jumping straight to the breakup.
- Hold your ground. He may try to convince you that you need to be with him or that you'll never find another boyfriend if you break up with him. Don't be sucked into claims that he's "changed" or "will work harder." And don't look back after the deed is done.
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written by ToJo,
May 29, 2012 07:32 am
Who ever wrote this article has enough air in HER head to explode a hot air balloon. I don't believe I have ever read so much drivel. Women are turning into the most self-centered, vain, greedy, unreasonable, immoral and impractical individuals on the planet. Somehow a lot of them seem to think that the world revolves around daddy's little princess. Barf.
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written by ToJo,
May 29, 2012 07:44 am
The article is just centered around any reason in the book for a woman to sleep around. Why the hell don't they just go for it and quit thinking of reasons to justify their errant need for promiscuity.
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written by Celeste S,
June 07, 2012 05:26 pm
It does take two to keep a marriage going, and two to make it fail.
I fully accept what I did wrong, I'm not perfect...
I did identify with the items under #1.
1. He isn’t supportive.
I supported him in his struggles with anxiety.
When I had postpartum depression, I was left on my own, and he looked annoyed that I even brought it up.
•Making fun of or belittling your goals and ambitions in career or life.
When I was chatting with a friend about me getting back into photography because I've always wanted to persue it as a career, and our kids were older, my then husband said: "Pfft. Why would you want to do that? Theres no money in photography. You should become a nurse. They make good money."
•Not helping around the house.
Yep. Working 40 hours a week, a baby and household chores had me exhausted, and all he did was complain.
•Ignoring you in times of need or distress.
I covered that with the PPD thing.
I fully accept what I did wrong, I'm not perfect...
I did identify with the items under #1.
1. He isn’t supportive.
I supported him in his struggles with anxiety.
When I had postpartum depression, I was left on my own, and he looked annoyed that I even brought it up.
•Making fun of or belittling your goals and ambitions in career or life.
When I was chatting with a friend about me getting back into photography because I've always wanted to persue it as a career, and our kids were older, my then husband said: "Pfft. Why would you want to do that? Theres no money in photography. You should become a nurse. They make good money."
•Not helping around the house.
Yep. Working 40 hours a week, a baby and household chores had me exhausted, and all he did was complain.
•Ignoring you in times of need or distress.
I covered that with the PPD thing.
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written by nick,
June 21, 2012 09:33 pm
The author of this article either can't keep a man, is a lesbian, or just an outright man hater.
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written by Trips,
June 28, 2012 03:21 pm
It's all about ME! This article must have been written by a Feminist, she don't know how a relationship suppose to work! It's give and take and always mindful of the others feeling. But this article is about women ruling and using themselfs as weapons. If I don't get my way, I'm leaving, well leave woman and grow old by yourself, because that's all you think of is yourself. Talk about being self centered
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written by mike,
July 03, 2012 09:47 am
Most militant women have issues with men they can't resolve. So they want all other frustrated women to join their battle. hese radical femminists have done more damage to the family through their vendictive child support laws!
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written by Jafro,
July 06, 2012 10:42 am
It's because of articles such as this that I have decided NEVER to be willing to support one of these "modern women"... that believe a small list of selfish reasons is justification to punish any man. Flip the "He" and "She" around in this article, and it's EXACTLY what the modern woman is. I've dated about a dozen over the past 2 decades, and have determined I will be staying single. It's not because of any lack of success, morality or composure on my part. I make 6-figures, I'm 6'4", 195lbs... own a house, 5 cars... loving pets. But I refuse to marry. Not one single relationship has resulted in a healthy 2-sided give and take. This list of "If he does this... then..." describes ALL of the women I've dated to the tee. Zero variation. If it's good for a woman to crush the dreams of her partner because she had to pay for dinner after his car broke down, then I'm completely content not obligating any woman to half my stuff.
My pets give me unconditional love, and I have the freedom to build several race cars, spend time challenging, teaching and developing my peers, interests, and never experience a moment of guilt for not bending over backwards to maintain another human being. The freedom is outstanding. I would choose it 1000x over one of these "things" that this article describes as a "modern woman".
My pets give me unconditional love, and I have the freedom to build several race cars, spend time challenging, teaching and developing my peers, interests, and never experience a moment of guilt for not bending over backwards to maintain another human being. The freedom is outstanding. I would choose it 1000x over one of these "things" that this article describes as a "modern woman".
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written by MansWorld75,
July 06, 2012 12:50 pm
Get dumped for not helping out around the house? LMFAO. Men are supposed to be out working and making money to support their families. The last thing any guy wants to do, is come home from work and have to wash dishes, wash clothes and sweep and mop. That's a woman's job! Women should be home taking care of the children and looking after the house, if she's not doing her job, she should be the one getting dumped, not the guy!! Women always gripe and complain about everything minor little thing. Women have too many rights to begin with. If you get a divorce, usually the woman gets the children, the house, the vehicle and half of your hard earned money. You want to be treated equal to men, you want to go out and work,and be independent, well fine! But if you're working also, why should I have to pay you alimony if we decide to call it quits? Child support should be my only responsibility. If we split, you should get what you earned in the relationship, which 9 times out of 10 is nothing. The American judicial system is all screwed up and the laws are constructed to favor the women. It all went down hill when they gave women the right to vote! Women get everything handed to them on a silver platter nowadays and it still isn't enough for them. God forbid you actually have to earn anything through hard work, like most men do day in and day out! Geez Louise.........SMFH
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written by Tim,
July 06, 2012 05:19 pm
Thanks you MansWorld75.
When do we get to see the article about 4 reasons HE should dump HER ?? I can think of probably a dozen without putting any effort into it. And yes, that is based on my personal experience. There are people who are deceiving, manipulative, dishonest, and downright immoral, both male and female. Why does this site insist on making the male the "bad guy"? We aren't are jerks and a**holes.
Worthless reading, and a waste of bandwidth. And if I had to live my life based on the ignorant opinion the writers on the website, I'd do something smarter than that...like voting for the fraud we have in the White House again. That'd make as much sense as this article.
When do we get to see the article about 4 reasons HE should dump HER ?? I can think of probably a dozen without putting any effort into it. And yes, that is based on my personal experience. There are people who are deceiving, manipulative, dishonest, and downright immoral, both male and female. Why does this site insist on making the male the "bad guy"? We aren't are jerks and a**holes.
Worthless reading, and a waste of bandwidth. And if I had to live my life based on the ignorant opinion the writers on the website, I'd do something smarter than that...like voting for the fraud we have in the White House again. That'd make as much sense as this article.
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written by Ken Jones,
July 09, 2012 08:28 am
Well, another typically one-sided, slightly man-hatey article. Really, if you have a problem with someone, don't you usually try to talk it out or otherwise try to fix it? Not according to this article. Nah, just dump him. Easy, simple but also stupid.
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written by Silver,
July 11, 2012 10:56 am
Dear heavens above, who writes this kind of garbage?!?!
Please, anyone who reads this nonsense, DO NOT take it seriously.
No woman in the world would be married right now if they followed this absurd advice.
Please, anyone who reads this nonsense, DO NOT take it seriously.
No woman in the world would be married right now if they followed this absurd advice.
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written by Mike,
July 11, 2012 01:29 pm
Self-righteous crap like this is exactly why men are choosing, more and more regularly, to simply be alone or only indulge in "non-serious" relationships. As a gay man, I have a unique perspective on the battle of the sexes and I have to say: any straight man that gets involved in ANY legal way with any western woman is literally insane. You notice women don't try this sort of insanity with their gay friends -- we'd just tell 'em to get the hell over themselves and OUT, in that order, with physical help on the OUT part, if necessary. Straight men -- wise up! You're allowing yourselves to be made irrelevant in the very world YOU created over the last few thousand years.
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written by Sally,
July 11, 2012 09:42 pm
I must say, this article is complete garbage. Either this is a joke, or the author has never been in a real meaningful relationship, and I doubt they ever will. Dump your man because he complains you work too much? Moronic. Some women do still choose to put their family first. Very selfish and self serving rag trash article.
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written by Frank,
July 13, 2012 10:15 am
Well stated Mike. This article is very self-righteous. Really, won't help around the house? If that is the complaint, then it seems the relationship is not new, either living together or married. So if the husband doesn/t do the dishes the writers advice is to divorce him? Too bad there are a lot of women who actually listen to writers like this like they are preaching gospel, most will be old and alone.
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written by kerry ,
July 13, 2012 09:30 pm
Hi everyone reading this. It is refreshing to see such mature responses to this silly collection of lame reasons, (if that), to end a relationship. I think we ought to look more at our own faults and behaviour, before looking to the other half as someone to blame for all the horrible things we have to endure. Relationships , like life, are good and bad. It isn't as easy as eliminating the things we don't like, but accepting them and finding ways to learn to live with them.
My wife and I were talking one day about this sort of thing and she suggested things might be easier without me. I told her I would never leave her. She was surprised at this and asked what I meant. I told her that when I married her, I made a decision to stick with her for all time, no matter what, through thick and thin. What would have been the point of any of it, if I were to just move on, because I thought it would make my life easier? Not much of a decision. Some of us are spoiled and think we can make our life better by changing the people around us. If we could do that, then that means the state you are now in, was brought about by you. Hyperthetically, of course.
Right, now where is that woman.I want a nice chat over a drink and enjoy her witty humour.
My wife and I were talking one day about this sort of thing and she suggested things might be easier without me. I told her I would never leave her. She was surprised at this and asked what I meant. I told her that when I married her, I made a decision to stick with her for all time, no matter what, through thick and thin. What would have been the point of any of it, if I were to just move on, because I thought it would make my life easier? Not much of a decision. Some of us are spoiled and think we can make our life better by changing the people around us. If we could do that, then that means the state you are now in, was brought about by you. Hyperthetically, of course.
Right, now where is that woman.I want a nice chat over a drink and enjoy her witty humour.
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written by King dinga ling ,
July 14, 2012 04:52 pm
Well first off I think the creator of this column should have a nice big gla*s of bleach, with that said i would like to make very clear that this b***h is crazy and just plain stupid if i as a man can get a long with her friends then her friends should be cut out o the picture! you want me to be supportive, ill be suportive when i buy your new best friends the god damn broom and nop! in the words of a great man " is Diego gonna have to slap a b***h"
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written by nswanlv,
July 17, 2012 08:09 pm
You guys are largely missing the scribbler's main issue. She is no doubt single, not by choice but by ma*s male avoidance due to the emotional baggage so prominently on display in this post. How better to feel mainstream than to encourage all women to join her in a perpetual state of martyred singledom?
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written by dude,
July 18, 2012 11:58 am
Yeah honey you can always find someone better than the guy you got. HA HA LOL. That story is why so many women are without anything. And exactly why men should stay single. Guys can never make consumer women happy. I know a woman who had a new top of the line German convertible that costs as much as my house, and she has a huge house. Her husband just bought her a brand new car just like her old one but new, and is building her an even bigger house. Because it is never enough for them.
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written by Herald9,
July 18, 2012 06:26 pm
Without a solid relationship with God through Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit, and the Bible, relationships with a spouse are going to be tough.
Christianity alone offers the possibility to have the heart changed dramatically from self serving to selfless and Christ-like.
Christianity alone offers the possibility to have the heart changed dramatically from self serving to selfless and Christ-like.
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written by JL,
July 19, 2012 07:24 pm
Before I got married I was told two things that my soon to be husband was wierd and my marriage would not last. But I tried to ask about the why he so wierd and did not get that answer I was looking for and I am now divorced but it did last for 25 years and had to for mental reason or have a nervour breakdown. But now my comment is that I feel divorce is too easy of an answer for all problems between two parties. I did try everything in my power to be able to say I did and could not find a solution because it takes two to make a couple and He did nothing at all to try to solve the problems between us. And now I feel the answer was to be able to stand up against his aggressive behavior and put my foot down to not be walked over like a door matt.
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written by cj,
July 20, 2012 08:20 am
It is BS like this that ended my fist marrage just after 1 year. My ex did not even give a reason why she wanted a divorce "in Nevada you dont have to." One day I came home and was told to leave and this was just 1.5 months after we had a baby.
So I married a lady I barely knew from Japan and 4 years later we are still very happy together.
So I married a lady I barely knew from Japan and 4 years later we are still very happy together.
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written by Jack,
July 20, 2012 01:09 pm
This article sounds like man-bashing party chat. I totally agree that most western women (esp. American) are becoming almost completely undesirable by most western men... for many reasons including destructive, catty issues they harbor. That's why I married a beautiful Chinese woman (from China) who has no pre-existing, American media branded issues. We've been married over 5 years... but it always feels brand-new! It's so refreshing to wake up to her beautiful smiling face and wonderful attitude every morning!
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written by lynn dilon,
July 22, 2012 09:34 pm
I can think of alot more reasons than these to dump someone. Like cheating and physical abuse. Its also a good idea to date people that are ready for a relationship. If the person is not working and living with ma and pa they have issues that need to be solved before getting into a relationship. If they aint supportive hey they aint that into you. Move on. And really.. if you got 9 people telling you that your partner has a problem... maybe you should listen. All 9 people aint wrong
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written by restless_wonder,
July 23, 2012 08:26 am
I would put forth, if a woman, or a man finds they are in the kind of relationship mentioned in this article, and it truly bothers them - which we could a*sume if they are here reading this now. Then they should leave that person.
In-fact I would go so far as to propose they probably shouldn't even be dating at this point in their life, if they are so sensitive to the chemistry, or variable results of their trying to form a relationship with another human being that their first instinct is to go behind that person's back and read snide one sided articles such as this in a fruitless and self absorbed attempt to justify leaving that person. When really you just need to realize that you happen to have high standards and don't deserve to be in such a relationship, it's that simple.
So in short: If you are reading this, and you agree with this author. Stop dating, and don't start dating again until you have moved past this immature phase of looking for all the faults in every person you try to have a meaningful relationship with.
Seriously, you're just wasting your life and not addressing the real problem.
In-fact I would go so far as to propose they probably shouldn't even be dating at this point in their life, if they are so sensitive to the chemistry, or variable results of their trying to form a relationship with another human being that their first instinct is to go behind that person's back and read snide one sided articles such as this in a fruitless and self absorbed attempt to justify leaving that person. When really you just need to realize that you happen to have high standards and don't deserve to be in such a relationship, it's that simple.
So in short: If you are reading this, and you agree with this author. Stop dating, and don't start dating again until you have moved past this immature phase of looking for all the faults in every person you try to have a meaningful relationship with.
Seriously, you're just wasting your life and not addressing the real problem.
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written by Flip,
July 24, 2012 04:16 am
This is the most damage article to any marriage I have read in a long time. According to this she is supposed to end it if she feels like screaming if she spending one more min around her spouse? I am sorry but couples will feel like this many times throughout a relationship, those whom we love the most can always get on a nerves, that does not mean we leave. The majority of the things listed here with the exception of abuse are all part of the ups and down of a normal relationship. When you have problems get councling, talk about it, and work on your marriage. Contray to what this says if you do not commit and work hard then every relationship you have will end in time.
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written by J,
July 24, 2012 07:14 am
This article made me gay.
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written by John,
July 25, 2012 07:34 am
Guys, be sure to dump your women for the same reasons. The door swings both ways.
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written by Joe,
July 25, 2012 10:22 am
If you need to use websites like this to figure out why you should or shouldn't be with someone, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. The problems probably start at home with you and lead you to repeatedly find yourself in relationships like this over and over again.
If you are reading this article for advice on your relationship, you have bigger problems than your relationship alone. If you're married, you should be speaking to a professional if there are problems in your marriage. Actually following any advice on a website as though every relationship issue as black and white answers is irresponsible. You don't end a marriage because you read on mydailymoment.com that you need to divorce because he has a problem with you getting wasted with your 22 year old single girlfriends who live life like it's one big party.
If you are reading this article for advice on your relationship, you have bigger problems than your relationship alone. If you're married, you should be speaking to a professional if there are problems in your marriage. Actually following any advice on a website as though every relationship issue as black and white answers is irresponsible. You don't end a marriage because you read on mydailymoment.com that you need to divorce because he has a problem with you getting wasted with your 22 year old single girlfriends who live life like it's one big party.
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written by Everywoman,
July 25, 2012 06:50 pm
i think this article is not referencing married folk. i think this article is referencing before you get married folk. i saw this as trying to stop divorce by giving some examples to abusive behavior. This is not love. Love does not treated you as stated in the article. Everyone deserves to be loved and supported and it is important to know this if you want a supportive, loving spouse. Dump them and marry the right guy. It doesn't hurt my feeling if they choose to seek foreign brides, at least they're not making me miserable and giving those ladies a chance to be free in the U.S...which their daughters will be the same because they are growing up in our culture. Ironic isn't it. prolly should leave the U.S. to live in their culture. That would make sense.
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written by Dave C.,
July 25, 2012 08:23 pm
One thing that jumped out at me in this article is when the writer said something like, "what would life be without your girlfriends?" And yet, I get the feeling that it's not a two-way street when the guy wants to maintain his guy friend relationships.
As for reasons to run from a guy (or a gal), one of the first commentors said it best with, "adultery, abuse, addictions." Any other reasons are b.s. at best.
As for reasons to run from a guy (or a gal), one of the first commentors said it best with, "adultery, abuse, addictions." Any other reasons are b.s. at best.
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written by Bill,
July 26, 2012 06:31 am
I wonder what or how women would react if the shoe was on the other foot?
It’s absurd to read this and come away with any logical or compelling conclusion...
With that being said, I should divorce my wife! But women would find that obtrusive and condemn me for leaving her, for the same reasons you support to leave me on..
I laugh at this...
Non supportive; most women only berate their spouse and complain about their work both to their face and all their friends... All the while enjoying the wealth and style of living they have...
I could go on and on...
It’s a Joke and very childish Women are Hypocrites’
It’s absurd to read this and come away with any logical or compelling conclusion...
With that being said, I should divorce my wife! But women would find that obtrusive and condemn me for leaving her, for the same reasons you support to leave me on..
I laugh at this...
Non supportive; most women only berate their spouse and complain about their work both to their face and all their friends... All the while enjoying the wealth and style of living they have...
I could go on and on...
It’s a Joke and very childish Women are Hypocrites’
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written by Jon Popularwood,
July 26, 2012 07:17 pm
Thank god this article was written by a bitter, inflexible, closed minded woman thats alone in her live. Bcause if it wasnt, id have to say this person has never been in a real relationship or ever really been in true love.
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written by Anybody, really,
July 27, 2012 10:56 am
Really? I wonder if you would apply this list in reverse. Of this list, my beloved wife has done all but threaten and physically abuse me. Yes, she even cheated on me. Did I take her back? Yes. Why... for the kids? No, not for the kids. Because I love her, unconditionally. She made a terrible mistake and then she changed herself and became a better person. She strayed and discovered that what she had was actually much better and that her reasons for dissatisfaction were inside of her, not me.
The reasons why people engage in the behaviors you listed are sometimes very complicated. A good person that you fell in love with and committed yourself to for the right reasons after getting to know them well can get lost for a while and engage in some of the selfish behaviors on your list. If you really love them, then you will do everything you can to save them. Eventually, if you can't save them and they start to drag you or your children down, then it is time to let them go, but only after all that you can do to save them.
This is why marriage is such a wonderful institution. It saves people from themselves. Despite the fact that she betrayed me, I wouldn't trade my wife for any other in the world. I saved her and she saves me. Today we are so, so happy together. She would tell you that what she did was temporary insanity and that she can't imagine what would have happened to her if I had cast her off and divorced her.
The reasons why people engage in the behaviors you listed are sometimes very complicated. A good person that you fell in love with and committed yourself to for the right reasons after getting to know them well can get lost for a while and engage in some of the selfish behaviors on your list. If you really love them, then you will do everything you can to save them. Eventually, if you can't save them and they start to drag you or your children down, then it is time to let them go, but only after all that you can do to save them.
This is why marriage is such a wonderful institution. It saves people from themselves. Despite the fact that she betrayed me, I wouldn't trade my wife for any other in the world. I saved her and she saves me. Today we are so, so happy together. She would tell you that what she did was temporary insanity and that she can't imagine what would have happened to her if I had cast her off and divorced her.
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First, all relationships take work.
Reasons to dump him are just the same reasons to dump her. Life is a two way street. Maybe the article should have read, reasons to dump your partner, thus it would have been gender neutral.
But even better, would be if your relationship is struggling, ways to work to improve upon it and if all else fails, than move on to another person, male or female.
So tired of these man hating only articles. It takes two to Tango.