4 Reasons to Dump Him

This article makes me want to puke. And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high... Crap like this says not to forgive, which is far more self centered than what this article talks about. Yes, if you're dating, usually it's pretty obvious if a relationship should end, but if you're actually committed to a relationship, a real one, not simply extracting as much pleasure, money or whatever from the other person and moving on, occasionally you might have to forgive something that you don't want to. Get over it. Life isn't going to be easy or fun all the time, and that includes in a relationship. Perhaps, though, if you put what you have into the relationship and try to give to the other person, rather than being concerned so much about what you might get out of it, they might do the same and it will be much happier for both. Whoever wrote this nonsense needs to get a clue. Votes: +55

Most of what is said in this article could be used by either gender for ending a relationship. Each of us (chooses our own) friends, lovers, and spouse. In order to fully address a bad relationship I think it's important to figure out why one has selected someone who makes them unhappy in life. No matter how you slice it at some point she/he said "yes" to this person.
The only way to improve things is by learning from the mistakes that were made and using those lessons to make better (choices)in the future. If you go to the store to buy and apple but purchase an onion instead...Whose fault is that? We are responsible for our decisions/choices. When we acknowledge this it empowers us because we can learn to make better choices for ourselves in the future.
Last but not least it's important to realize whenever you give advice that "life is a personal journey". Truth be told there are no universal "deal breakers". Each of us gets to create our own list! Unfortunately not remembering this fact frustrates friends and family when they advise someone to end a relationship. For every reason we might dump someone there are people who are willing to stay and endure those very circumstances. All you can say is what YOU would do and continue to support them regardless of their choices. Votes: +16

Who said anything about divorce? The writer used the word "dump" which implies a *dating* relationship, NOT marriage. Dating is not marriage. It's okay to dump a dating partner if things don't work out. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Why does everyone get all upset the minute anyone suggests that a woman should dump her boyfriend? He's not a husband, just a boyfriend. So what? Don't most people have a few boyfriends or girlfriends before settling down? Of course if you are already married to the person you should try to work things out. But before you get to that point you have to have STANDARDS! You don't want to marry the first person you date just because people think it's "mean" that you might want to dump him. If you don't want to marry him --- dump him! How else are you going to find someone more suitable? Votes: +1

In 2012, its the Man's formal imperative to protect his wealth because its the only thing that keeps women from thinking that you are to be dumped at the first "sign" of looking like You might need "their help" monetarily. Yes, its always okay for a Woman to need a Man's money, but its almost never okay for a Man to need a Woman's money. It is a double standard and there is alot of social programming designed to discourage Women helping Men. So, now, I simply create a boilerplate budget towards what I will in-fact "let the girlfriend or wife manipulate out of me." However, if they ask, want, or even need more moneu, I don't care what they say: "not a penny more because without my money, i'm worthless and on the chopping block anyways, so I'd rather breakup and "have my money" than have her breakup (dump me) because she thinks i'm needy. " And, if she reads an article like this and decides to dump me; doesn't matter. Compa*sion from Women these days is a myth. It's all business; even the breakups...... Votes: +44

I can't believe this article! ARGH! My "Ex" Wife was 45 when I met her. I was 40. She had "8" YEARS of marriage experience as compared to this being my first marriage. She either wrote this article or helped you develop it. Why? Because your article is so biased that its literally disgusting to have to sit here after all that crap that she put ME THROUGH, then have to read all this dribble about "Dumping People," "Getting Rid of People," and the like. I mean, "that" is "exactly" the problem today. Women sitting around listening to each other discuss these problems, giving each other this strict liability criteria for a human being who happens to be a male, and having almost no tolerance in the equation where you should be saying, "think about what YOU may be doing that you began doing as soon as the long-term relationship was transmuted into "Marriage." That's when all the crap started for me. All of a sudden, Wife starts putting up boundries, establishing, and enforcing an array of "hidden" bylaws for the marriage that were NOT DISCUSSED prior to the marriage going into effect. ...Yes, that's the kind of crap that many women do that gets them into so much trouble, because a Guy wants to trust his Partner, but often realizes too late that the deck is stacked, the game is rigged from the outset.

And that is why its important to simply "live with a woman for a very long time before you ever marry her because "She Does Have A Time-Sensitive Agenda" regardless of what she will ever tell you to your face. Then, after you realize that if you've in-fact been played, these women have a whole other array of victimized "oh poor me" agendas, designed to characterize "anything that you may do" as a serious conduct or behavior problem. ...First, the silent meetings, then the setting of the stage that leads to the countdown, then the silent decision to break it off emotionally, then the breakoff, then the cheating, then the silence, and then the split that includes the fighting that He "must do" to show the world that he must be dumped, for she is the victim in everything that went wrong.

Nope. ....I used to be a VERY nice guy. Now: I will no longer care ever ever ever again when she cries or wines in the beginning of the relationship about anything, and if she starts that crap of pulling away like the last one did, then I'm simply going to do what a Woman would do, and start another relationship before I walk out because that is exactly how women work. You see, it's okay for Women in their mind to have a literal change of heart. So, they simply rationalize their feelings, even if it is at your expense. Doesn't matter what you have invested in terms of money, time, or effort. All bets are off, and that if why its a Man's imperative to protect his wealth because its the only thing that keeps women from thinking that you are to be dumped at the first "sign" of looking like You might need "their help" monetarily. Votes: +48

After reading this article, I was amazed that anyone would need to read this to leave their partner. Yes, it is true women, you all are not innocent of these accusations either. Being with my partner for 7 years, i have learned 1 thing. Do not take relationship advise from journalists. Example: My fiance and i both work, both bring in money, but i am the one who does all the cooking, all the cleaning and all the yard maintanence. At first, it frustrated me. Then i took a look at it, i am highly organized. Let's say she liked to have things a certain way, but i prefered it a different way. Arguement in the making. However, with her not "helping around the house" i get to have everything just the way i like it, in return she gets to relax and focus on school. So you see, just because something says its "wrong" and you "should leave" does not mean that is the final word. Come on people, think for yourselves! Votes: +31

You say, "Don't blindside him." Then, you say don't get fooled when he tells you he is going to change. I am a man, and I can tell you that if you have to tell a man what is wrong with him, this is the typical attempt of the female to change a man to her liking. It won't work. If he is not right from the get go he will never be. Men don't change because a woman wants him to change. Find a man who meets your criteria and to whom you meet his; otherwise, don't get involved in the first place. 50% of American marriages end in divorce, to the great detriment of the development of the children. I am convinced that the principal reason for this divorce rate is that women overlook "faults" during courtship because they convince themselves they will get him to change once they are married. Big mistake. Never happens. Votes: +26

This is s**t. I am very tired of this kind of crap. It all started with "Married With Children" and carried over to "Everybody Loves Raymond". Who would want to be a father, or a husband when the norm is to be treated like s**t! If I was Ray, I would trade that b***hy wife in. Votes: +41

I love these one sided articles. (sarcasm added)

First, all relationships take work.

Reasons to dump him are just the same reasons to dump her. Life is a two way street. Maybe the article should have read, reasons to dump your partner, thus it would have been gender neutral.

But even better, would be if your relationship is struggling, ways to work to improve upon it and if all else fails, than move on to another person, male or female.

So tired of these man hating only articles. It takes two to Tango. Votes: +21

Who ever wrote this article has enough air in HER head to explode a hot air balloon. I don't believe I have ever read so much drivel. Women are turning into the most self-centered, vain, greedy, unreasonable, immoral and impractical individuals on the planet. Somehow a lot of them seem to think that the world revolves around daddy's little princess. Barf. Votes: +25

The article is just centered around any reason in the book for a woman to sleep around. Why the hell don't they just go for it and quit thinking of reasons to justify their errant need for promiscuity. Votes: +14

It does take two to keep a marriage going, and two to make it fail.
I fully accept what I did wrong, I'm not perfect...
I did identify with the items under #1.

1. He isn’t supportive.

I supported him in his struggles with anxiety.
When I had postpartum depression, I was left on my own, and he looked annoyed that I even brought it up.

•Making fun of or belittling your goals and ambitions in career or life.
When I was chatting with a friend about me getting back into photography because I've always wanted to persue it as a career, and our kids were older, my then husband said: "Pfft. Why would you want to do that? Theres no money in photography. You should become a nurse. They make good money."

•Not helping around the house.
Yep. Working 40 hours a week, a baby and household chores had me exhausted, and all he did was complain.

•Ignoring you in times of need or distress.
I covered that with the PPD thing. Votes: -3

The author of this article either can't keep a man, is a lesbian, or just an outright man hater. Votes: +18

It's all about ME! This article must have been written by a Feminist, she don't know how a relationship suppose to work! It's give and take and always mindful of the others feeling. But this article is about women ruling and using themselfs as weapons. If I don't get my way, I'm leaving, well leave woman and grow old by yourself, because that's all you think of is yourself. Talk about being self centered Votes: +21

Most militant women have issues with men they can't resolve. So they want all other frustrated women to join their battle. hese radical femminists have done more damage to the family through their vendictive child support laws! Votes: +20

It's because of articles such as this that I have decided NEVER to be willing to support one of these "modern women"... that believe a small list of selfish reasons is justification to punish any man. Flip the "He" and "She" around in this article, and it's EXACTLY what the modern woman is. I've dated about a dozen over the past 2 decades, and have determined I will be staying single. It's not because of any lack of success, morality or composure on my part. I make 6-figures, I'm 6'4", 195lbs... own a house, 5 cars... loving pets. But I refuse to marry. Not one single relationship has resulted in a healthy 2-sided give and take. This list of "If he does this... then..." describes ALL of the women I've dated to the tee. Zero variation. If it's good for a woman to crush the dreams of her partner because she had to pay for dinner after his car broke down, then I'm completely content not obligating any woman to half my stuff.

My pets give me unconditional love, and I have the freedom to build several race cars, spend time challenging, teaching and developing my peers, interests, and never experience a moment of guilt for not bending over backwards to maintain another human being. The freedom is outstanding. I would choose it 1000x over one of these "things" that this article describes as a "modern woman". Votes: +21

Get dumped for not helping out around the house? LMFAO. Men are supposed to be out working and making money to support their families. The last thing any guy wants to do, is come home from work and have to wash dishes, wash clothes and sweep and mop. That's a woman's job! Women should be home taking care of the children and looking after the house, if she's not doing her job, she should be the one getting dumped, not the guy!! Women always gripe and complain about everything minor little thing. Women have too many rights to begin with. If you get a divorce, usually the woman gets the children, the house, the vehicle and half of your hard earned money. You want to be treated equal to men, you want to go out and work,and be independent, well fine! But if you're working also, why should I have to pay you alimony if we decide to call it quits? Child support should be my only responsibility. If we split, you should get what you earned in the relationship, which 9 times out of 10 is nothing. The American judicial system is all screwed up and the laws are constructed to favor the women. It all went down hill when they gave women the right to vote! Women get everything handed to them on a silver platter nowadays and it still isn't enough for them. God forbid you actually have to earn anything through hard work, like most men do day in and day out! Geez Louise.........SMFH Votes: +1

Thanks you MansWorld75.

When do we get to see the article about 4 reasons HE should dump HER ?? I can think of probably a dozen without putting any effort into it. And yes, that is based on my personal experience. There are people who are deceiving, manipulative, dishonest, and downright immoral, both male and female. Why does this site insist on making the male the "bad guy"? We aren't are jerks and a**holes.

Worthless reading, and a waste of bandwidth. And if I had to live my life based on the ignorant opinion the writers on the website, I'd do something smarter than that...like voting for the fraud we have in the White House again. That'd make as much sense as this article. Votes: +11

Well, another typically one-sided, slightly man-hatey article. Really, if you have a problem with someone, don't you usually try to talk it out or otherwise try to fix it? Not according to this article. Nah, just dump him. Easy, simple but also stupid. Votes: +17

Dear heavens above, who writes this kind of garbage?!?!

Please, anyone who reads this nonsense, DO NOT take it seriously.
No woman in the world would be married right now if they followed this absurd advice. Votes: +18

Self-righteous crap like this is exactly why men are choosing, more and more regularly, to simply be alone or only indulge in "non-serious" relationships. As a gay man, I have a unique perspective on the battle of the sexes and I have to say: any straight man that gets involved in ANY legal way with any western woman is literally insane. You notice women don't try this sort of insanity with their gay friends -- we'd just tell 'em to get the hell over themselves and OUT, in that order, with physical help on the OUT part, if necessary. Straight men -- wise up! You're allowing yourselves to be made irrelevant in the very world YOU created over the last few thousand years. Votes: +19

I must say, this article is complete garbage. Either this is a joke, or the author has never been in a real meaningful relationship, and I doubt they ever will. Dump your man because he complains you work too much? Moronic. Some women do still choose to put their family first. Very selfish and self serving rag trash article. Votes: +18

Well stated Mike. This article is very self-righteous. Really, won't help around the house? If that is the complaint, then it seems the relationship is not new, either living together or married. So if the husband doesn/t do the dishes the writers advice is to divorce him? Too bad there are a lot of women who actually listen to writers like this like they are preaching gospel, most will be old and alone. Votes: +13

Hi everyone reading this. It is refreshing to see such mature responses to this silly collection of lame reasons, (if that), to end a relationship. I think we ought to look more at our own faults and behaviour, before looking to the other half as someone to blame for all the horrible things we have to endure. Relationships , like life, are good and bad. It isn't as easy as eliminating the things we don't like, but accepting them and finding ways to learn to live with them.
My wife and I were talking one day about this sort of thing and she suggested things might be easier without me. I told her I would never leave her. She was surprised at this and asked what I meant. I told her that when I married her, I made a decision to stick with her for all time, no matter what, through thick and thin. What would have been the point of any of it, if I were to just move on, because I thought it would make my life easier? Not much of a decision. Some of us are spoiled and think we can make our life better by changing the people around us. If we could do that, then that means the state you are now in, was brought about by you. Hyperthetically, of course.
Right, now where is that woman.I want a nice chat over a drink and enjoy her witty humour. Votes: +2

Well first off I think the creator of this column should have a nice big gla*s of bleach, with that said i would like to make very clear that this b***h is crazy and just plain stupid if i as a man can get a long with her friends then her friends should be cut out o the picture! you want me to be supportive, ill be suportive when i buy your new best friends the god damn broom and nop! in the words of a great man " is Diego gonna have to slap a b***h" Votes: -5