4 Reasons to Dump Him

Another anti-husband bias piece.

Guys, if a woman shows signs of thinking like these 'net writers, dump her! If you fall in with her, she will make your daily life miserable and eventually drag you to court on a charge of failing to be female. Smarter yet, only date women who did not grow up in America. Or only American women who laugh out loud at these puff pieces for the deservedly frustrated. Votes: +5

This is a bunch of garba... there are hard working man out there.. supportive i would say or too suportive, we have been brianwash that it is ok to fool around.. cheat deceive... that get a bad deal at the end, as long as he doesn't know it is all ok... this article should be of she not he. one thing that isd common is deny deny deny... even thought you are caught... deny deny deny. too much trash on tv. Votes: +1

American woman...Momma let me be..e.....American women don't come around knocking at my door. Don't want to see you face no more...... Votes: +5

Article=Stupid

There is no such thing as a perfect man. Bottom line....weigh the good with the bad.

Most of these things are not definite rule brakers or run signs....
The ONLY thing I can think of is if a man has a habitual problem that impacts the family. Beating, multiple cheating episodes.....What I find funny that is not in here is a drunk or gambler....Really?? Because my list of people I would not be with are anyone who drinks alcohol or gambles. If he cheated on my once, I could forgive....constantly...NO. I am just saying....we all have our own list. Women...Stick to your personal list....it is much better than anything someone would write. Votes: -1

If you are one of the selfish women mentioned in this article, do not get married. You already fail the test of commitment. Marriage is the dissolution of self into the combination of the two. If you want your date night, your own money, your own time, then you should be on your own. Don't drag someone else down with you. Votes: +3

Real relationships are about sacrifice & they are always a work in progress. Seems like woman are so concerned about men cheating, they forget how the relationship with the guy they love formed. When it comes down to it, relationships break down from a lack of communication. Woman can treat a man like dirt, talk about him, use sex as a bargaining chip, yet, when the relationship comes close to end, they will stand up & say, "I never cheated".... You can't stop a person from cheating on you, so going through his or her stuff will only prolong finding out what's true & what's true is their is a lack of communication within the relationship... Focus on being the best spouse you can be, whatever is done in the dark will eventually make it's way to the light. If you search his or her things & find some information that he or she has been cheating, the relationship should be over correct. But if you search his or her things & find nothing, shouldn't the relationship be over as well..!! There is still a lack of trust & communication within that relationship.. Votes: -1

Wow, I really do not believe that cheating belongs on the same list as abuse and stealing--unless you are referring to habitual cheating. Do you honestly believe that you are going to be married to the same man for fifty years and never have to forgive him for a single mistake? Votes: +0

This article saddens me. My wife and I were both married in our forties, now celebrating 7 years. It was first marriage for both of us. It either of us were to put stock in this article about the other, we should surely divorce.

I am sad because impressionable your women, or men, who would base a decision on such a set of rules is likely to find themselves alone for a lifetime. That is not a bad thing, if that is the choice that is wanted. But if a chance at companionship and love was pa*sed up based on an unattainable set of rules, that would be unfortunate.

As mentioned in previous posts - abuse, adultery, addiction - those are serious problems. But, guess what, maybe one person pays more bills and the other does more housework. Guess what, that's called a compromise - every good marriage has it. The married folk out there reading this can attest to it.

To the single folks out there - here's less exciting piece of advise that doesn't make a very interesting article. Use your common sense. If perfection is your target, make sure you bring what you seek, because if you find that person, that's what they'll be looking for, too. If your common sense tells you that this is a person you can love AND trust, you may be onto something. Don't ignore that voice. Votes: +0

My wife of 20+ years is guilty of all 4 of these traits on a regular basis. The longer we stay together, the worse it gets. Should I dump her? Votes: +2

My wife has been every one of these issues and more, and so have most of the women i have dated before her. Im 5'8", 200 and she is 5'4", 110 and has been physically, verbally, emotionally and spiritually abusive not only to me but to our 2 year old and 10 month old boys. Every time i see stories or hear stories like this that make women out to be delicate innocent victims, i want to shut the mouth of the author or speaker. My wife grew up in a life of privalege to an amry officer/surgeon and currently practicing physician, having anything she wants whenever she wants without any regards to those that are affected by her demands. If she doesnt get her way she is physically, verbally and emotionally abusive and manipulative, especially if she is confronted or questioned, mainly to me but is verbally and emotionally to our kids as well. She does nothing around the house; no laundry, dishes, cleaning, vacuuming, yardwork etc.., but complains when things do not get done. I work afternoons full time as a therapist at a hospital and go to school full time during the day after taking the kids to day care in the morning and when i get home, I am the one who does all these things while getting only 2 to 3 hours of sleep a day. I am a veteran of the army, a physically, mentally and emotionally strong person and could easily hurt her but dare not because I was raised to respect others, especially women, but practically all the women that I know whether in the hospital, family or friends are of the mindset that the world owes them and that they are goddesses who can do no wrong and treat everyone anyway they want. Its stories like this that make women more fu88ed up when it comes to relationships and what it means to be in one, especially when they get together and talk. To the author, Shut the F**k up. Votes: +5

the 4 reasons in the article defintely apply to anyone of either gender and in same gender as well as hetero partnerships. No one wants to to be mistreated. But to post on here that all women act this way (and men don;t )is ridiculous. Good luck finding a woman from ANY coutry who'd marry you with that attitude. To me it is also telling that more women are opting out of marriage - particularly 2nd marriages. We can find grooms overseas too yanno....but there are issues with those types of relationships as well. it is silly to claim them as a panacea, although I have seen some work fairly well....now & then. Votes: -5

Most of you sound like you need daily therapy. Good Luck. Votes: +1

Whoever wrote this article should grow the hell up. Votes: +4

If I were a woman I would be embarra*sed by this article. This is what many women do and than rationalize that their logic and behavior is correct. American women have reached a point where they are doing serious damage to our society. And yet they claim to continue to be oppressed.
I read this article and thank God for my Chinese wife. Votes: +6

Jeez...four very good reasons why I have remained single for 20 years. American women are so unhappy and they do not understand the reasons for their unhappiness. Maybe they should stop trying to live like New York City liberal writers say they should live and start living a life focused on sharing their life with someone. Why would I want to share my life with a woman who is looking for reasons to "kick me to the curb?" I stopped dating American women long ago because of this kind of baloney. I enjoy dating Eastern European and Asian women. Sure, it costs to fly to their country, but I spend two weeks in heaven every six months. Today, I have nothing but contempt for the American woman. Votes: +8

This article is dead on. Especially the deal breakers listed at the end. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man who does none of these things. Ladies, hang in there, there are good men out there!! Votes: -3

I think most women are too intelligent to follow the recommendation of this article. Relationships take 2 and sometimes it is far from 50/50. I tried to split for some of these reasons 35 years ago, but losing her would have been a mistake. You simply cannot make relationship decisions based on the few criteria listed here. Use your intelligence. Think through situations. Wait a few weeks before making any drastic decision. You could be amazed at how time changes our perspective. Votes: +0

Love is about self sacrifice. You literally lay down your life for the one you love. You make their happiness a priority. Its not about you. If you really love someone, you will understand. Notice I did not say LUST mistaken for love. If you really love someone, you will understand. You put thier needs above your own. Votes: +1

Why is this article so sexist against men? Men need the same things from a woman in a relationship, but in our society, men are expected to be caretakers and daddys to women and at the exact same time as lovers and cheerleaders for the woman. This article encourages women to treat men like garbage or disposables- Just "dump him", they say, if he doesn't cater to how you are trying to mold him. Ironically, I constantly hear from women who are happy with their boyfriend that "He loves me for me, for who I am". Seems that women don't believe that love, empathy, connection, acceptance and investment in a person is a two-way street. Votes: +5

They should rename this article, "How to stay single for the rest of your life." What a horrible article... Votes: +6

First off everyone, this article isn't that good or bad.I was in a bad relationship like that.I wish I could have known the warnings when I was first dating (I was too blinded by love later). I didn't see until too late. He had quite a few small red flags but was good at hiding how he really is. He wasn't physically abusive, didn't start off abusive. We got married, then he got worse. It was slowly progressing(its harder to notice that way, then one day you look around and wonder WTF happened O_o like a boiled lobster). I was working and he could never keep a job, but at first I made enough money so he didn't have to(I was in the army).Then later I got out of the army (he wanted me to get out)and stopped making as much, so we both had to work. Thats when things really went downhill. I wanted to make it work because I loved him. In the end I was the one who had to change and put up with everything to keep it going. I did everything I could. He became emotionally abusive and verbally. But I loved him (love makes you stupid -_-').He had been lying to and using me the entire time. When it finally ended he had destroyed my self esteem and confidence, isolated me from family and friends(because he didn't like them and we moved where he wanted to, near his family), ruined my credit and took everything. I am just very thankful we didn't have kids. Why is it when an article like this comes out you hear these comments "Her reckless spending, years with sex unless a transaction is involved? Verbal abuse?
I guess I am not being supportive, not allowing her to be herself.
Everything you described is the way women treat men as a DEFAULT. " Men can be like that too. My Husband was alot like that( yes even the sex part). It is not DEFAULT for a woman to treat men like that. I have never treated anyone like that and would never.People are different, you should not judge all women like that. I don't judge all men.

"Read this article and change the words He to She and you will have a VERY accurate picture of how most American women behave in a 'relationship'. No wonder more and more men marry women from other countries." Thank you for not saying ALL American women at least. I am an American woman. I am not like that. And again, there are some men out there like that too. The article is only about some men, not all.

My point is there are guys like this out there(and women too) and I'm sick of comments about how all women (or American women) are like this. And these warnings may seem stupid to some but there are users out there and some are good at hiding it (MEN AND WOMEN). Little things that don't seem that bad when dating can sometimes turn into things much worse. I am now very happily single, but just because a user tricked me once does not mean I'm going to treat all men like they are the same or go along with judging all of them by the stereotypes about them. Votes: +1

This is hilarious, the article is about dating, not marriage. It's called 4 reasons to dump him, not 4 reasons to divorce him... And as far as the content of the article... duh. If your boyfriend spends all day at the coffee shop while you're working, it's time to move on. Thank you Dr. Phil... Votes: +1

This article is meant for entertainment purposes only. There is no name of an author listed anywhere that I can find, and there are no citations in the article anywhere. Thus, the information in the article was not gathered from any sort of scientific, research, or psychology journal articles. The authors opinions are written as if they were facts, but without any references whatsoever, these are just the opinions of a ghost writer. Anytime you read any sort of article in an entertainment type of magazine, you need to take what you are reading with a grain of salt. Unless something is cited, quoted, or referenced from a peer-reviewed professional journal or scientific research journal, peer-reviewed, published article, or published book, you should not consider the reading as fact. This is some sort of women's health and beauty magazine, thus it is printed for women's reading pleasure and entertainment. People should remember that just because something is in print does not make it true. Similarly, just because you hear something on a television cable news program, that does not make the information true either. Media is always biased. Always remember that and try not to get so worked up about a silly little relationship article that was clearly written for the small target audience of young single career women in the early to mid-twenties. This article was not written for men, homemakers, senior citizens, married people, middle-aged women, teenagers or children. There is no reason for anyone to be upset about such a lighthearted topic. We have serious problems going on in this country my friends, like people blowing each away with guns every single day because they got their feelings hurt... Votes: +3

You forgot another one: if he forgets to wipe his feet before entering the house.

Seriously, any writer who tells someone not to forgive someone else for trivial things, is a menace to civilized society. Votes: +9

Utterly shallow, imbecilic feminazi, libtard garbage. No one should listen to any advice from outsiders, particularly unsolicited advice from pop airheads. Votes: +3

plz. i just finally dumped a homeless woman i took in over 18 months ago and gave every chance to turn her life around while she took the same free ride you are talking about @ my expense. what a sexist article written by a newles. most ppl on the internet are too savvy nowadays to be taken in by such journalistic phail.
but i sure couldn't resist the headline =P Votes: +3

When women stop believing that god is a human male...human males will stop acting like god. Votes: -3

I'll just echo the sentiments of all those (many, many) folks who found this article profoundly ridiculous. Who does this "writer" think she is? Jesus. Votes: +3

This is absolutely right. No one should put up with any type of mistreatment
from someone they are supposed to be in a relationship. I might not worry
much about him/her not liking your family. Friends of yours he /she should be
respectful of and always friendly. Family is a different story. My In-Laws hated
me yet, I have given my Wife 41+ years a loving secure marriage. I turned out
not to be the "Yankee" scum her clan thought I was. Everyone else has been
divorced and "on the rolls" as they say. We are committed to each other and
no one else. Votes: +0

Jeez, however wrote this is a man hater.
1. If he doesnt like your friends who cares. if your looking for a man and your girlfriends are more important to you than he, well theres nothing wrong with him there is something wrong with you. if the tables were turned we would hear the end of it would we? "why are you spending time with the guys watching the game"

to the woman who wrote this. Sweetheart, if your spending too much time at work, theres something wrong, you should want to be around your partner more than at your job. It doesnt sound like you want a relationship. you want a friend.

Regardless of what time we live in, men are men and women are women. Men take care of the women, and vice versa, Men are strong hard working and gentle at home, women are gentle and nurturing. it these roles are not being considered relationships fail. women think that their guy isnt "Man enough" and when the woman works or isnt submissive the man will go and find a woman is submissive and nurturing not one who works a job all day. why are you trying to re invent the wheel? Votes: +3

I kind of have a problem with these. First of all, the second there are children involved (and unless I am mistaken there is no disclaimer anywhere in the article) all of these rules are thrown out the window. Although, over time, any one of them could end up being an issue. There was a person on the first page of comments who mentions this: Reasons for divorce; Adultery, Abuse, Addiction. Well, I don't agree with the addiction part either. I am bi-polar and am in recovery from a pain killer addiction. It was pretty intense. I was taking about 50 double strength Norcos a day (the equivalent of 100 regular vicodin). Not, I take Subutex and because of the bi-polar I am on it every day. Maybe forever. Now, sometimes I even have a "fall of the wagon" moment where I take too many because the bi-polar makes me not sleep and I run out a day or two before the refill. Well, that makes me up and down a lot. My fiancee (and mother of my 6 1/2 year old) is the main bread winner. It's not that I am not a hard worker, I am a very hard worker. My bi-polar made it to where I had to quit a couple of jobs ( I probably would have been fired eventually) and the most recent was last fall. I immediately checked into the mental hospital for 2 months. I have not worked since, but not from lack of effort. I have applied to over 200 positions in the last 3 months but man it's rough in the job market. It makes me feel like a piece of s**t to see the "Freeloader" part of the article because YES, there are days where I don't want to go on Indeed.com and apply for jobs. I sleep. Now, I am mister Mom and walk our daughter to school, pick her up, clean, cook, etc. every single day. But, I am the man of the house and I wish things were different. Especially with addiction being the main issue as to why I am where I am today, it is hard to stomach (although the bi-polar IS intense and not necessarily my fault). So, the addiction thing isn't always a deal breaker. I never was physically abusive, even during the throes of my addiction I was still a pretty good father. I just needed a lot of help from family on the bad days or the withdrawl days. But please, don't be irresponsible. I love my fiancee (we will get married when I fell like the man she deserves, by the way, she is definitely worth it and I haven't even thought of being without her for over 7 years). Don't go making out of work men, and comment folks, people with addiction struggles out to be worthless pieces of s**t. Especially those who have actually gone (I see my addiction/pysch doctor every 28 days) to get help and are trying. Votes: +0

What?...was this for high school girls? I wonder how many times this same article has been written and rewritten over the years. I'm a man who isn't in the habit of reading women's magazines and even I've seen this same generic article several times in my life. There are plenty of centered, secure women out there, ranging from corporate executives to housewives, and one of the things these women don't do is take this sort of tripe seriously. Votes: +0

I wonder if this site thinks that women who don't pay their own way in a relationship and rely on their boyfriends are also users? Or do they only label men that way? Votes: +5

I put this as a one star, I do believe this is good information, however, it should be written from a anyone point of view. I've seen this happen to friends and had it happen to me. By all means put this information out there and i hope it inspires many, many people into changing their lives if they are in this situation. BUT women are just as capable of doing this, and NO-ONE deserves this. Votes: +2

Was this article written by Sandra Fluke? It would explain alot if it were. Women's lib was a very valid movement and in some cases is still today. But the above article is a great example of just how far out they are getting. Take care of EACH OTHER, put God in the center of your relationship and I promise you will have the most amazing marriage ever. For my wife and I it gets better every year. Votes: +0

It's rubbish like this that has everybody confused, both male and female. "Don't change who you are, he needs to accept you for who you are" in one sentence, but "don't blindside him, talk about it and give him a chance to change"... Which is it? Fair is fair, is it not? Votes: +1

Men want sex and dinner on the table.

Women want.. Well, they don't know what they want. They have to copy other women. Watch Sex and the City. Girls making $600 a week, living on Park Avenue. Yeah, fantasy. And, Ann Landers is still selling the idea that women's privates shouldn't be given away, which kinda makes them what? Votes: +2

This author is breath-takingly short on wisdom/insight and the complexities of current and future relationships that go beyond "the woman" being given advice in this article and her man. For all those who blindly follow this author's advice, may you reap what you sow in kind. And, when you find that you've damaged far more than the man and yourself, you can look back and work mightily to justify your choice--that your own happiness was paramount and other's matter far less than self. Judge...or forgive. I choose to forgive, to be patient, to be kind. It preserves society now and for generations to come. Votes: +1

This is such a pathetic article. My suggestion? Keep "your man" and DUMP the author of this article. Isn't it interesting that no one put a name on this article. But, then again, who would actually claim it? Votes: +0

Ok, so what if your husband of thirty years doesn't have any of the bad traits above. In other words, he is supportive, does want I want, supports me and our family, loves my extended family, has self-control, still a great father, home every night, doesn't work late, does housework, cleans up after me and himself, etc. etc. etc. BUT, and this is a big but, he is asexual, in other words no interest in sex. Mind you, he is not unfaithful . .I know that for a fact, just take my word on that, but he has no interest in an intimate relationship (and quite honestly I found over 50,000 people have joined a support group for asexuals, so this isn't all that uncommon in spite of what our culture may tell you) . . so is this a reason to break up the marriage after thirty years . . we're in our early sixties. Now mind you I'm not perfect, so don't a*sume that. However, I sould be very interested in your responses to this. Thanks. Votes: +2

Wow...sounds like someone forgot their Pamprin this morning.

Normally I support feminism and the belief of a woman's natural superiority over men, but this article went too far in that arena. It sounds as if ALL men are this way, but I can tell you in innumeral ways how women are so much worse, and yet we can get away with it. We need to go easy on them, because without men, we are only wo. Votes: +2

What ever happened to: Four reasons to keep him? I've been married to the same woman for 24 years. I chose her, she chose me. It was a mutual agreement. It had nothing to do with money or property or a*sistance. It was about love. It is still about love. So, here's my four thoughts on reasons to keep the man YOU chose too.

1. He works hard to deal with your monthly emotional rollercoasters
2. He keeps coming back after you tell him he sucks, every 28 days
3. He picked you out of hundreds of choices he has met over the years
4. You made the choice to be with him in the first place, so be happy with your choice! Remember? It's a two way street.
5. You talk of equality in life, why not behave that way and forgive him as often as he is required to forgive you, every 28 days?

That's five simple reasons to keep the man who you chose. Do you need more or would you prefer to dwell on the negative side of journalism just to get more ad sales? You, writer, are a pandering fool who most likely can't keep a relationship even when they pay you to be with them. Votes: +4

This was excellent advice for men. For decades, all these issues are what men had to endure, from being treated like a two-legged bank account to a work horse laboring for the benefit of wives/girlfriends. As such, men today should not marry. They should demand a 50-50 relationship. Men should no longer pay for meals, but demand women always pay half. Women should buy their own cars. Women should earn 50% of any houses purchased, OR not get their names on the deed. It's time men made women carry their full share. Otherwise...DUMP HER. Votes: +6

1) isn't supportive, won't help around the house
AKA: dump him if he won't take orders. Dump him if he has any wants of his own. The only wants that are important are yours, and he should jump to to fulfil them, whether its a sympathetic ear or a vacuuming.
2) Won't put up with you being a b***h
Being in a relationship means that you don't need to behave yourself or have any consideration for your partner. You should not have to put on a "front" like acting with common courtesy.
3) Users
Haw haw haw! If you have sex with a manw***e, remember to stay within your budget.
4) Your friends
Remember, keeping a claque of single girl friends who undermine every relationship you have is more important than any relationship. Especially when they usually only last a month or two. For some reason. If a man calls them out on it, dump him - not them. Votes: +3

So, "The modern woman expects..." Blah, Blah, Blah! The modern American woman is self centered, spoiled and a complainer about everything a man represents. Men are tired of the selfish attitude of "what have you done for ME?" and "You're not worthy of a relationship with me".
Well, who needs your pms emotional rants, your fingerpointing and your femdom, feminist attitude! Votes: +5

Or, if he's a whiny child who always wants to have his way (like the first few men who commented on this thread), then throws a tantrum if he doesn't, DUMP HIM. Votes: -4

This articule is full of it. Most American woman I know are free loaders and expect you to do everything after get off work as well. That why I got married to a Korean beautiful, smart, funny, fit, works if need be, and helps around the house. I have dated many woman in the U.S. I had to dump everyone after 2 weeks to 2 month(some were stalkers). So, don't give me this bs that is why 1/3 of the US fat most are woman. Votes: +6

You could be arrogant in writing this. People like you could be saddist and I can bet, if woman follow you, there will be no one married and it seems thats what you wanted.

Men follow the tradition and you seems, want to break it, no men will marry any woman if she is arrogant and wont beg any woman who is dumping them and pretty sure he can live alone and die alone. Votes: +2

Women, take this kind of unforgiving attitude towards your man and you can expect to raise your children as a single mom, alone, and become old living with a bunch of cats. Try being supportive, loving, and understanding to your man (same for women) and you'll keep your partner. Votes: +4

And remember ladies, these same rules apply to dumping you!

If you can't get along with HIS family or friends...
If you can't be support of him, his goals, his beliefs...
If you can't stop pushing him to make changes...
If he can't be himself around you...

Guys, it's time to dump that Gal! Votes: +7

Avoid the drama get to know your your future spouse before getting physical. Let's get physical.... Votes: +1

After 15 years of marriage I asked for a divorce. Most of these points applied to HER. Votes: +3

What an absolute trash heap of an article--arrogant, ignorant and strident in its "dump him," mantra, with some valid reasons mixed in with dubious absolutes about "cheating" and other supposed crimes that are more complicated between two people than the dullard who churned out this mess could ever grasp. Do we all really need more self-indulgent drivel for and about women? I am embarra*sed for the author (using the term loosely), the site and everyone subjected to it Votes: +4

Worst article ever. Relationships are much more complicated than a simple checklist. TO think someone might actually read this and take your advice rather than trying to work things out. DO everyone a favor and never write another thing in your entire life. Votes: +2

OOOOOOOOKKKKKKK!!!!! However, it will be fair to reciprocate these as "reasons to dump her as well". Most modern women violate most if not all of these "rules". Or is hiprocracy the new "equality" women strive for? Votes: +3

Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou. These descriptions fit my wife to a T. I will call a divorce lawyer Monday (for reals). I found a nice team of women divorce lawyers (they are meaner). Votes: +3

modern women are having a COLLECTIVE MANIC EPISODE.... imo of course. One day they'll realize what they gave up...men who actuially treeated them like women not she-men who want to be men. Strangely, now that women are so manly, they are rating themselves as less happy now than most other times in history, yet they are more powerful and liberated then ever. Wonder why that is? Votes: +0

Any woman who read this article probably does not have boyfriend problems............... Votes: +0

Unforgivable? What a crock! No wonder the divorce rate is so high in America! This article is written as if women never make these same mistakes with men.

I got so fed up with American women I married a foreigner. Best decision I've ever made. My Filipina knows how to love a man. Consequently, I treat her like a princess and she's extremely happy (she considers the best man she's ever met). American woman are the worst in the world. Votes: +3

So let me get this strait, my husband defended my honor to my father when he insulted me in my own home, BUT because they can't get along, I am supposed to side with my father over my husband and leave him? Yeah, that is not happening. There are a lot of times more things going on then can be just cut and dry. Some people like me have problems with one or both parents finding fault with everything they do, and until they find the RIGHT partner, never have any help or support in dealing with them. You also have those parents with the *No one is good enough for MY child* complex, and no matter what he does for them, or how nice he is, they will NEVER like or accept him. But according to this that's HIS fault? Please do better research before printing such nonsense and drivel in the future. Perhaps you would sound like less of an idiot. Votes: +2

He doesn't get along with a family that is racist, biggots, only cares about money, status & etc. Yep, I got dumped, gladly Votes: +0

this is exactly why i left my wife, so this goes for men as well as women!!! most everything on this list was my ex.
Votes: +2

if she refuses to swallow early in the relationship DEFINITELY DUMP HER.
That's all from the guy's side.. Votes: +2

The comments are wiser than the article. But then what does one expect from an essay without an author? Where is the byline? Votes: +0

This article is kinda BS!!!! My husband and I have been together for ten years and married for four years...I don't get along with his family and doesnt get along with mine! That doesn't mean we should brake up. We have four kids together and our families just have issues that we are putting our life together first instead of letting them be part of our decision making process. We still see our families it's just that we had to let both our families know this is what is and you can either get on the train or get off the tracks. If you need to read an article on if you should dump someone or not you need help!!! Votes: +0

What a miserable little pile. Such cretinous drivel could easily have been constructed as a "dump her" article, but it would never make it to publication. How many young women are being poisoned by entitled, relationship-crushing "journalism?" The author is chucklehead, the editors are arrogant fools. Votes: +0

Wow, talk about being self indulgent, self centered and selfish! Who gave you license to print such trash? Go back to yahoo... Votes: +2

As a old man, a father of a young and ambitious daughter, who wants her to have access to every door, that any man can open, this advice is plain wrong. It's immature and damaging. First, only good looking and young women can get away with dumping their men. They will find older, richer men who will put up with them for a while. If the dumping continues, these females are being left increasingly alone...fading old beauties. Possibly well educated, employed, but alone on holidays and in life.

In dumping, you will play to men's weaknesses and devalue your strengths. Instead, put your reasoning and persuasion strengths to work. Work with men in simple terms. Guide them along a simple task and reward path. You will build nurturing and healthy relationships. Neither looks nor age will erode love.

Take it from an old man. This is a better path to warmth, love, and companionship. Put your strength to work. Votes: +2

Which is why I choose to stay single. I could list 40 reasons to "Dump Her:. :) Votes: +2

I'm 41 years old and have enough experience with women to know that when they're truly in love with you they're generally more than willing to forgive pretty much ANYTHING. Not saying that's the healthiest mindset in the world for women to possess across different circumstances, but that's reality. Call it selfish or self-serving if you choose, but there are plenty of fish in the sea as the old adage goes and any man who's in a committed relationship with a woman who DOESN'T feel that way about him simply hasn't searched long enough or well enough to find the right person for himself. I'm not advocating being overly possessive or domineering women in any way, but the bottom line is life is way too short to be primarily guided by other people's "rules" and other people's whims and intelligent folks understand that surrounding themselves with people who accept them for EXACTLY who they really are as opposed to those who are constantly trying to tweak and alter or flat take over themselves is indeed the way to go. Votes: +0

I take exception to your saying a man should "help around the house." A man should "do his share fair around the house, and not have to be asked to do so!" Votes: +2

So how come it is fine for women to be freeloaders and verbally abusive? I see this time and time again, and women get away with it ALL of the time! Votes: +1

I am a man and I have worked with many abused women over a long career. This article is really quite accurate. If either partner exhibits the behaviors mentioned, just get away as far and as fast as you can. Typically, women try to fix the problems and take care of their partner. The men, in return, escalate the abuse and feed on the woman's compa*sion. Domestic violence is rampant and needs to be exposed for what it really is - evil and disgusting. Votes: +2

I'm sorry why are we still calling it "helping"? It's probably 90% his mess to begin with. He's not "helping" he's just cleaning. Votes: +0

So, let me guess. You're single. Votes: +0

I'm a naturally organized person and have always been neater and cleaner than my wife. If there's a "mess" somewhere in the house I can a*sure you it certainly isn't 90% mine. Sorry hon, but like many folks you're a bit of presumptuous idiot. Votes: +0

That comment about 'nights playing in a band' is an affront to hardworking professional musicians everywhere. The idea that playing music is the sign of laziness and impractical irresponsibility is Philistine and ignorant. Quit being so conformist and anti-art/creativity. Votes: -1

Funny how these are bad things for men to do but women do them all the time and that should be ok. Women are not supportive because they always need to be the center of attention and have no time to listen. No man can really be 'himself' around his girlfriend or wife because she constantly to 'change' him so he must learn to act the way she wants or face constant nagging. Most women do not financially contribute in any near equal manner. Finally, all girlfriends and wives literally chase away a man's friends. This article could be the msot sexist and iased article I have ever read. Votes: +3

Funny how these are bad things for men to do but women do them all the time and that should be ok. Women are not supportive because they always need to be the center of attention and have no time to listen. No man can really be 'himself' around his girlfriend or wife because she constantly to 'change' him so he must learn to act the way she wants or face constant nagging. Most women do not financially contribute in any near equal manner. Finally, all women chase away a man's friends. This article is the most biased and one-sided article I have ever read. Votes: +2

The author of this article has little relationship experience. Relationships are not so clear cut. I would bet the author is either single or unhappy in their relationship! Votes: +1

The same goes for women that are not supportive, encouraging and ignore their spouce. Drop them like a hot potatoe or you will get burned! Votes: +4

This article is so STUPID!! And waste of my time. I will make sure I do not ever stumble upon this site, ever. Anyone could have written a more interesting piece of reading material. Votes: +1

These days the only acceptabl group to hate is males and it's celebrated. Misandry has been mainstreamed through television, magazines, articles such as this and infects every aspect of life, schools, courts, laws, t.v. As this article demonstrates, 'princess' should expect everything to be one sided, favoring her or it's just not fair and she's suffering from male oppression. Remember the bogus 'war on women'? Yeah, meanwhile a real war on men has been raging for 25 years. If I were still in the market, you couldn't pay me enough to touch a westernized white woman for anything. Before some feminist indoctrinated female or metrosexual starts squealing about power and loss there of. Men have never felt threatened by strong women (genuine feminine women, REAL women). Men,you are going to be happier finding your soul mate from other cultures. There is no benefit to marrying any of these 'princesses', unless you are a sadomasochist. You are better off leaving these narcissistic, self absorbed creatures to their own devices, starve the beast. By doing so you will be happier as you do not have to walk on eggshells constantly, wondering if today she will take everything you have (because she can), and you might find true happiness with a REAL woman, that is most likely from a different culture. The only love these westernized females know is that of self. Don't waste your lives with them. Votes: +3

For the last 25 years every effort has been made to emasculate men. From t.v, schools, laws, courts,'mainstream' thought and writings. Articles are designed to teach 'princess' that she must 'mold' the male into her image of perfection.She has been taught that she is never wrong and can do no wrong. He, on the other hand, is never right, always the oppressor / abuser and will always be a rapist.The only way he can hope to overcome his 'natural' tendencies is by submitting to her whims and accepting her training to become an obedient lap dog. Meanwhile, more articles lament the death of chivalry, others wonder where have all the good guys gone? Well 'princess' you've gotten more than equality, everything is skewed to benefit you at the cost of males. Your 'accomplishments' are meaningless because you haven't actually earned a single one of them, they were given to you because you have a vagina. No good guy /REAL man wants anything to do with you. Die bitter, alone and blame men for that as well. Votes: +3

Probably one of the worst articles on marital/family relationships I have ever read. Talk about selfishness on the part of the women who take these attitudes. I would never marry someone like this...and we have been happily married for YEARS! Get a life and read something else... Votes: +1

And if the situation is reversed? Votes: +1

And if the situation is reversed then the guy is controlling and obusive still. Votes: +2

GEEZ! This used to be me years ago. In the early 2000s, I dated this wonderful girl. She would create silly poems for me, sing to me, and was always on time and backed me up every way. In return I begged her endlessly to wear miniskirts and open toed shoes as her daily wardrobe, as well as other unreasonable and unusual requests, like trying to map out her life as I saw fit. In the end, because I was such a wreck at the time, I was foolish and cheated on her. I came clean to her, and she dumped me, which I fully deserved. It woulda been like if she asked me to grow a Goatee, or dress in suits, or to buy a pair of SeaDoos so we could go watering around the sea thats how odd my reuqests were to her... I think about her every day and I wish her nothing but good luck and good health. Talk about sabtaging a relationship... boy did I learn my lesson. Votes: -1

This article is not written by anyone likely to have the success I've enjoyed in my marriage. I would suggest she doesn't get married in the first place and save everyone the stress. Votes: +0

I would dump any women who follows this crap Votes: +3

Almost any standard can be supported if it is consistent. If the author would be willing to give the same advice if the two genders are interchanged then I support her (female for male, gal for guy). If not then not.

Eliminating double standards is what gender equality is supposed to be about. Retaining them because they are advantageous to one gender only justifies their use in other contexts, and you can be sure other contexts will arise, they always do. Votes: +3

"never forgive." Wow. How Christian. Votes: +2

i can't believe that infidelity wasn't even on the list! Votes: +0

This article sounds like it has been written by someone who has the wrong idea about relationships. If a guy lies to you about something you should talk to him and find out why. It may be something he his not revealing for a good reason or a reason based on your own faults like over reactivity. Thats the number one reason that i've found. Why didn't you say this? Because he didn't want to spend the one evening we set aside to go out and enjoy ourselves fighting and arguing instead. Why? Because I am really over-reactive to the point of irrationality, especially during more stressful times. I wouldn't immediately dump him for lying about something. I think if someone followed all of these rules then everyone would be single and giving up good men, except for the abuse and cheating part. Votes: +2

It's safe to say that who ever wrote this argument doesn't have an appreciation of music. My wife is like that. When she grew up she was never exposed to music. She is tone deaf now and doesn't really listen to music or enjoy it. I'm the exact opposite. I have a regular job but I am also a musician. Whenever I play she gets annoyed and says things like, "don't you have anythign productive to do?". Things like that. Then we found out she was tone deaf when she tried to sing once. Playing music at a night club for money is anything but being lazy. In fact if who ever wrote this article's boyfriend started doing that I bet she would start complaining until he broke out the $100 bills from a night's work. Then her eyes would light up, "I'm going to tell all my friends!" Suddenly it's ok to play music now. For the guy it's about the beauty and expression of art. For the girl it's about money. Votes: +2

Wow! I'm so happy to read some comments from women that didn't let this article sweep them off their feet like I've seen many times for years, ultimately causing just as many problems by implying these "rules" are for women. I know it doesn't say it's not for men to think about, but the articel says "...to dump HIM". We've all seen enough of these articles and know what that means. To support the sharp eye of "jojo" above, these standards have to be understood AND NOT TOLERATED by both sexes. My obnoxious capital type is justified in my and many men's book, because as we become better at seeing each other as equals, we have to accept that we can't be hypocrates... at least not grossly hypocritical (nobody's perfect). More specifically, I have experienced many encounters with women, dating me or otherwise, breaking these very rules with gusto and enthusiasm! The saddest, most frustrating, terrfying part is how often and second nature it is for them to get out of the guilt for doing so... only to be supported by other women reading articles like these. Then the guilty are more than "forgiven" for "unforgivable" practices like the above... they're encouraged to work it to their advantage next time. Votes: +0

Sorry Art Bus, but no one wants to read about the inept way you handled a supposedly great relationship a decade ago and the subsequent guilt you've uselessly carried around ever since. Sorry loser, time to whine your problems away elsewhere. Yeah, get mad about it, I couldn't care less. Votes: +0

The reason there is no By Line on this article.. or any on this site is because they know they are giving $hit advice. They want women single and out dating, because then they can sell more makeup, clothes, diets to them.

To the author: See you next Tuesday. Votes: +0

Ladies this is not complicated @ all as a man i will do any thing in the world for you .give you all my money , work my a*s off for you buy you a new car,listen to whatever you have to say. even watch stupid chick flicks but all i want in return is for you to remember the two f,s feed me& f**k me & .im happy the rest is just bulls**t.thank you Johnny Votes: -1

so men need to provide 75 k a year and be a one person fan club for his wifes ego.. articles like this are empowering woman. empowering them to a life of delusion, hate and lonliness.. my wife divorced me at the age of fourty. she just knew she could manage the household better without me. she got a house foreclosed that only had a 248.00 mortgage pmt. my farts have more logic than her decision making.. Votes: +4

Its about time the author recognizes all of the "flaws" mentioned in the article can be attributable to a man or woman. To characterize each issue with He" is is a bunch of BS. You should meet my ex wife, lie - cheat-unfaithful. Votes: +4

This article is garbage...makes it sound like men make ALL the mistakes and women are perfect...how about now publishing an article pointing what MEN should never forgive with a woman??? Votes: +4

I grow up in a traditional value home. And for the most part agree with the writer of this article - he/she comes off pretty extreme. I make ok money, my job is ok. I was dating for a girl for 3 months - I paid for every meal, expensive xmas gift (she gave me nothing, cause she thought it was to early), her bday gift, and things where great (including the sex) One night I had to do a photo thing, and she wanted to come. We were leaving from my house (the event was 8 miles away) I had a flat tire, so for the first time I asked her to drive. OH my GOSH what a living HELL that night was. She complained, complained, complained - At 4 miles (yes, 4 miles she complained that the trip was FAR). She complained she cannot drive at night, cause her eyes hurt, (but it never hurt when she met me at expensive restruants and she drove home, or LAKERS games and she drove home from staple center - cause thats alot more then 8 miles) BOTTOM LINE: Its value, if a girl thinks she can get value she will hang on/put up. (sometimes). But the writer like my ex only pays lip services to hard time - at the first site of trouble (or having to make a contribution instead of taking) they are looking the EXIT! Votes: +2

In the 21st century, as a middle aged man of looks, wealth, and status I personally find that 100% of the time a woman is not worth the trouble!!! You are the most entitled and thoroughly emotionally disgusting women ever produced. You are hyped up so much by media. The emotional and financial hardships you place upon a man is unbelievable. I know men paying 50% to child support, 25% to taxes, for a total of 75% of their entire income and they still need to have a whole apartment and utilities and everything else you have my precious. We have become the new slaves of society though with your equality comes hardships as you know how do you like the 40 hour work week along with all the other responsibilities? I am glad you are feeling the hardship. We tried to save you. We tried to be chivalrous. You denied us. You have removed a man's role of importance in society and brought yourself to the highest spot light. Many women constantly belittle and show no support for this side of the species. Originally I supported women acting like they were 'special' or more important than men though now I find if it was between a man and a woman to save in a burning building I will save the man. Because the woman expected it. GET IT? No I'm not gay I just don't think you're worth it.

I think you should all go gay or be single for eternity and that is a sentiment I share with MILLIONS of men and growing every day. Funny thing is many of us were raised by women. Votes: +0

I have seen the worse a man can do to his woman. You can't be my friend if you hit your girl. In my house not even the dogs have ever been hit. The rule in my home is no physical violence under any condition.

Please remeber that there are men out there that are different. And they are under control. They will give a women fair treatment. And by the way, the best friend I will ever have in my life was a woman. She was a ex girlfriend.

I might be a rare man. But always remember good men are out there.

Bill Votes: +0

Women rail about men who don't want to commit to marriage but 4 out of 5 divorces are initiated by women. So while many men are reluctant to commit to marriage most women are not committed to marriage after they are married. They all can't be bad husbands but if this article is to be believed they are..... Votes: +1

My wife does all these things to me--should I dump her? Votes: +3

Aside from the obvious ones, like physical abuse, most of these are more than tolerated by men dating women (pressure to "progress" the relationship, free meals, rides, and entertainment, etc. etc.) Votes: +0

Don't get too mad guys there is a lot of truth to this article and whats really surprising is that a 2/3 of single women have men like this in there lives and they KEEP going back to this loser despite all the so called "warning signs". so WTH, let them end up Broke and Confused. Any women foolish enough to stays with any man for any extended period of time that treats them like this article mentions, yes, they asked for it. Nice guys get over looked and abused by the head games women play so turn about is fair play here. Ladies remember, if you questioning your BF/spouse motives and action on a daily basis: nothing is wrong, your just overreacting, its all in your head, etc ... Votes: +0