On a regular basis, there's probably only one set of genitalia you see on a regular basis - your own (and maybe your partner's, if you have one). Other than that, you might see privates depicted in art or pornography. If you do, then you might notice a vast difference in the appearance of yours and the appearance of those in the media. For women who have had children or don't groom themselves based on that "standard," it can be worrisome when their privates don't live up to what's deemed "attractive." There are even Web sites that contain lots of pictures and information that can help you decide whether or not your parts are "normal." The reality is, there isn't such a thing as normal-looking genitals. Each person's looks different based on grooming habits, age, whether or not she has given birth and other factors. It's unrealistic to think that as we age, our genitalia will look exactly as it did when we were children. The truth is that if you see a hairless vulva (the outside, visible parts) on an adult woman without much else visible besides the large, outside lips, then it's a safe bet that it's been altered to look that way by being waxed and even through surgical procedures. Labiaplasty, in which a plastic surgeon trims the inner lips and other skin folds, is on the rise.
Some women do it to even out the skin folds, but the reality is that uneven labia are the norm. There are creams that allegedly can lighten the color of the skin down there, but they've proved unreliable and downright dangerous in some cases. Another way the media "fakes" that look of perfect genitals is through Photoshop - altering print and online images is very easy and commonly done. What you see in a photograph is not necessarily how the model looks. Whether to keep pubic hair or not is a personal choice, but that hair is there for a reason, and that's to prevent unwanted bacteria from entering the vagina. How you want your genitals to look is up to you, but it's important to know that what you see in the media is not the norm. You probably already possess healthy, normal - and yes, attractive - genitals.