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Hey, Jealousy! Ways to Avoid the Green Monster

Your new boyfriend is phenomenal - great-looking, funny, lots of fun and ambitious. He's quite a catch, and you know it. And you think perhaps that girl he hangs out with from work knows it, too. Perhaps that blonde in his Facebook picture thinks he's as great as you do. Why was he even tagged with that skank, anyway? Hang on a minute. It can be easy to get hung up in the throes of jealousy for a lot of women, but you can head off the green monster and potentially save your relationship with a few tips. It's normal to feel a twinge or two if, say, his ex-girlfriend calls out of the blue or when he gets female attention in public. But if you're chronically jealous, it can have a negative impact on your relationship. First, step back and ask yourself why you feel jealous.


Much of the time, insecurity is to blame for jealousy, not to mention low self-esteem. Take time to do good things for yourself and build your confidence by shooting down negative thoughts about yourself before they happen. You'll build your self-esteem slowly but surely and stamp out those envious notions before long. If you're not sure why you're jealous and can't seem to stop feeling that way, talk to your partner. Tell him that you feel jealous and ask questions; however, it's not OK to interrogate him every single time you have those feelings. Relationships are built on trust; consider the level of trust he has in you. Is it really fair not to reciprocate?